Wearing white to SIL's wedding

[Badbird]

Hi everyone, I need an opinion here,
I've just bought an outfit that I really like for my SIL's wedding. Only thing is, it's a black top with a white knee length skirt. I thought it looked nice and I would get away with it esp if I had some nice chunky accessories to go with it but now i'm having second thoughts after reading some blogs that say you should never wear any white to a wedding. Then again other sources say you can. What are your opinions on this? The wedding doesn't have a particular dress code and is in mid september. I have enclosed images of the skirt and top. Thanks.

Great thanks all XD mumsnet to the rescue haha

Good colour for a redhead! Are you going to do nude shoes?

possibly haha. I haven't thought that far ahead but I'm glad i'm making progress haha. I was thinking lighter coloured neutral coloured shoes. probably a very small heel since I don't wear heels at all and struggle to walk in them

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I have these they're comfy as anything!

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Woops here's the link

Thanks jean I think i'm going to go for those. so for a bag I would probably want nude/beige light pink as well

You don’t wear black to a wedding (funereal) and of course you don’t wear white.

There are SO many colours in the world!!! Why would you do this?

votehillary we've moved on from the black/white debate now thanks :)

Hillary I wore black to a wedding in January, black lace with taupe shoes and a taupe fascinator, I looked Great!!

I like that turquoise lacey dress you linked OP 😁 would defs go with that! If that fails for any reason my go to in this situation would be ASOS: zillions of choices (probably too many) you need to filter like mad to get number of dresses down ie size, colour, shape etc... But you can order loads to try on a returns are easy😁

I'm sure if you describe loosely how you look we can help.

Height
Dress size
Body shape (roughly) eg I'm an apple - big boobs and belly but slim arms and legs and virtually non-existent bum!
Skin, hair and eye colouring
Age (not because I believe in X age shouldn't wear z but it'll give us an idea of your 'fashion era' and what you'd likely be comfy in)
Any other considerations - eg problem areas you want to disguise, disabilities or health conditions that affect style or fastenings etc

Also
Preferred heel height (not cos we'll necessarily recommend shoes unless you ask, but certain styles work best with certain heel heights)
Favourite colours (wearing and make up)

And... You've answered some of that already.

I'm also red hair white skin (but considerably larger)

There's actually very few colours you'd struggle to wear (certain shades of red, pink, purple depending on shade of red)

I wear green, brown, blue, neutrals (but not nude - not a fan), purple, burgundy mostly.

That blue/green savella dress is gorgeous.

But I have tbh and say given your figure I'd say consider a wiggle dress too.

What about these ones
www.chichiclothing.com/products/Chi-Chi-Karlene-Dress.html
www.chichiclothing.com/products/Chi-Chi-Dione-Dress.html
www.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/prod_10701_10001_008020342743_-1
www.little-mistress.com/little-mistress-brooke-crochet-top-bardot-prom-dress-p9307

I think the skirt is fine - no one would think it was like a gown! But there will always be some who think you should never ever wear white so there may be some raised eyebrows.

I agree with PPs that the top doesn’t feel right for a wedding - I think it looks more workwear-ish.

Firstly I would never wear white or black to a wedding

Secondly I wouldn’t wear that dress

I would, and have, wear black and white to a wedding. As long as it's not an actual wedding dress what does it matter?
However, the top isn't very dressy. Love the skirt!
How about this?
www.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/prod_10701_10001_33678+07577730_-1

I love that dress OP - gorgeous colour and very weddingy!

Nope don't wear white, off white, ivory or cream.

There are a million colours to choose from, so go for something else

If you are fair and red headed then I’m surprised black and white suit you...I’m similar and navy, deep red, burgundy and greens (all the greens) and teal tend to make me look more alive. Nothing monochrome or pastel.

I’d book in at a John Lewis personal shopper with a budget and let them try things,

OP I think your original outfit choice was fine. Maybe team with colourful shoes and a bag, and accessories.

I really like the original top and skirt outfit. With the right jewellery and bag and red hair it would look very striking and not at all 'bridal'. I think the tradition of not wearing white to a wedding applies to dresses, not skirts or tops.

FWIW there were plenty of women wearing black dresses and tops at a recent wedding I attended. All of whom looked absolutely fine. Likewise I have been to funerals where the deceased's family have requested that attendees have no black clothing. It all depends on the individual ceremony.

Sounds like OP has found an alternative outfit now but there is always the option to have a quick check with the bride if you are particularly concerned that they might have an issue.

The green dress is lovely.

I like the outfit, but it doesn't look weddingy to me. I also personally wouldn't wear white to a wedding, even if it's half the outfit.

The lace dress is lovely. Unfortunately possibly because you’ve posted it it’s now oos online in a 10. I’ve seen this happen before on threads so be warned. If people say they like it, buy straight away. I’m sure you can find similar or something really nice.