To hate the town in which I live?

[CuckooLuckoo]

I've name changed as it might make me identifiable .

I live in quite a rough town in an area of the UK that is commonly thought of and joked about as being full of unintelligent, inbred people. I absolutely hate it here.

I grew up in a really lovely place with friendly people and then when I was 15 my parents decided to move to this area because of my father's work. I started at school here and absolutely hated it. I ended up leaving school at 16 and getting a job and for some reason just never moved away. DH is not from here but also moved here as a child like I did.

Reasons I hate it here:

Its very very rough. Especially the town centre. It's like being on the Jeremy Kyle show when you walk through town.

People who are from the area are extremely rude and unfriendly. You are not considered a local unless you are someone's cousin and someone has known you since birth. If you chat to someone, for example, who is serving you in a shop, they look at you like you're absolute crap. Every single friend that I have is not from the area originally.

There is nothing to do here at all; if it's a rainy day the only place to take kids is a smelly, dirty soft play place that has drug addicts in the door way. We have no decent shopping centre, no decent cinema, no ice skating/roller skating/trampolining places for kids, no decent restaurants or pubs (stabbing is a problem in pubs here it seems). There is literally nothing to do!

The general 'rough-ness' of the area worries me for my DC growing up.

It's in the middle of nowhere! You can't just pop to another town for the day without driving for an hour!

I really want to move away from the area but DH won't. We both have businesses, mine I could run from anywhere but DH's is more local. We do have a really nice house in a nice village on the outskirts of the town, but this doesn't override all of the negatives of the town for me. DH hates it here and hates the local people too but won't move.

I actually feel constantly down and depressed living here. If we go out for the day away from the town and to another area I perk up a lot and feel so much happier.

AIBU to hate where I live? Is anyone else in the same position?

Funny to read so many negative comments about Kings Lynn from 2018, when in 2017 the town had ranked 6th in the top 10 list of the annual "happy at home" index compiled by Rightmove, of the happiest places to live.

@CheshireChat No, it's not just you! I'm stuck in Hull because of the PILs and it's shite. Yes, there are some nice people but on the whole, they're a bunch of uneducated Brexiteers who voted 'leave' because they thought the brown people would be sent back to where they came from.

Ooh, a local thread, I'm a newcomer to one of the Norfolk small towns mentioned upthread. Norfolk is very pretty and many people are friendly if you are white and not obviously gay. Norwich is an island of civilisation but of course there are pockets of decency throughout the county. But as a tory hating, pro EU individual I'm a lot happier in Norwich than my own town. The county feels inward looking as a whole. OP - MOVE if you're not happy, investigate other areas that your OH could commute in from.

I was born and grew up in Norfolk, mainly around the coast and I went to KL to do my A levels. This was many moons ago so I guess the place must have changed because it certainly wasn't that bad when I lived there. My sister and father still live in Norwich. I'd love to move back as I now live in Nottingham in an area which makes even KL look like paradise. I never felt like killing my neighbours when I lived in Norfolk at least. It's beyond horrible here. Yesterday the local drug dealer had a blazing screaming row with 'clients' in the street, the local kids broke shit and played with flytipping. There are rats that play in the street in daylight as they're not scared of people. Everything smells, the flies are unbearable, the people are vile and disgusting and most of them are quite as inbred as anything you'll find in the wilds of Norfolk.

A lady from the council came round a while back with a survey and asked what could be done to improve the area. I told her that they need to bomb it, flatten it, that's about the only thing that can be done now. I cannot wait to get out. I'd love to go back to my hometown in Norfolk but the prices are now so high we can't afford it. We are hopefully as soon as things straighten out going to move abroad. But I look back on my childhood in a tiny Norfolk village and think how nice it was, I only wish I could provide the same for DS.

Oh, it's not the worst accent. Try Essex. Or Birmingham?

Eh? Bit unnecessary

Yanbu. I used to live in a nearby county to Norfolk. Bits of rural Norfolk are lovely but a lot of the towns are desperate and Kings Lynn particularly bad.

I don’t know what you can do if your husband is being stubborn, but I wouldn’t want to raise children there either!

Oh sorry, didn’t realise this was a zombie 🧟‍♀️

Zombie thread.

Why dredge this up from nowhere fiveofus?

I grew up in a similar town. Ex-industrial, very depressing. Both my parents were from other, nicer parts of the country but moved to my home town for work, met at work, got married and had me & DB. They always hated it and slagged it off all the time but stayed for me and DB I think, so as not to disrupt our schooling. DB ended up moving to a private school anyway because our local comp was so horrible - they offered me to go too but I was halfway through my GCSEs and didn’t want all that time to go to waste. I sometimes wish I had, as I was bullied at school for being bright and ambitious - I didn’t want to go drinking & smoking at the park therefore I was stuck up and thought I was better than everyone else. Ummm yes I did because yes I was/am!
It is grim. But it did make me work my arse off at school so that I could get into a good Uni and get the fuck out of there.
Most people I went to school with are still there. Even the ones who I knew from primary school were quite bright and could have gone on to do something with their lives, which is so sad. I knew I wanted more for myself and for my future children.
I wouldn’t hesitate to move, OP. Think about when your children go to school, and what you want for them.

Oh ffs didn’t realise it was a zombie thread

Oh Norfolk , lol

My maternal great grandfather was from there. Caister on Sea. He left for London as soon as he was able and , to my knowledge, never returned to Norfolk again .
Spent most of his life in Greenwich where he died in 1912

Oh for gods sake .

I live just outside Kings Lynn . Yes , it has its problems , but no more so than frankly any other town , and certainly no more than some of the allegedly nicer places in the South East ( Guildford , anyone ? ) My children have all gone to school in the area and I currently have 3 out of 5 gone or going though uni having got in with top grades. I moved here from the south east some 15 years ago , and I wouldn’t move back if you paid me , even though I commute into London on a daily basis , only because I can’t transfer. We got adopted by our neighbours the day we got here , and the only person I know who complains about being miserable , is the person who turned up expecting to behave like this is the Home Counties , writing shitty notes to his neighbours over dogs , and running to the council over imagined infractions , only to have them prosecute him for planning issues . No, it’s not North Norfolk , where you can pay a fortune to park , and then wander round Holt watching everyone else wandering round Holt. Or Norwich , thank God , which also has its share of violence and drug addicts which you can admire whilst at a standstill in the one way system . What it is , is an average town. No worse than anywhere else . If you don’t like it , move . But don’t be surprised when everywhere else is no different .

@ViciousJackdaw I've escaped in the meantime (zombie thread)! Live in Manchester now and absolutely love it.

Sorry to hijack a zombie thread. I just searched on Google for ‘I hate where I live’ and this came up. Not surprising considering I live 4 miles from Kings Lynn.

I lived about 7 miles from King's Lynn around 1998 and it was our nearest town., due to my OH job, only lived there for 3 years and it was as you described it now , back then.
Hated the place

I was going to ask if you live in Kettering OP, apart from the inbreeding. There is plenty of fresh blood there as it's immigrant central but otherwise fits your description perfectly.

Hiya your not in Driffield are you? I feel the same I want to move back to Andover there's nothing here x

It's King's Lynn isn't it, I knew from the OP. I grew up there. It was awful.

This thread is three years old so the OP might have moved by now!

@CuckooLuckoo

I don't think he can be bothered to move.

Then you do the research and organising.

I’m originally a Mansfield girl for 30 years and also lived 3 years in Wolverhampton and personally think the majority of the east and West Midlands is bloody horrible- with the exception of the Derbyshire Peak District. To get to most bits of West Midlands involves the M5 and a constant vista of warehouses and scrapyards and a ton of people pronouncing themselves as friendliest in Britain- whilst also being in my opinion supremely unfriendly . Totally hated it. East Midlands a bit more mixed but some really awful dull run down places and not somewhere I would ever pick. Nottingham isn’t unattractive but it is still pretty rough. Could you not go as far as Norwich OP? I like Norwich a lot

@hmmwhatatodo

Crossing Norfolk off my places to visit list. I thought it was all windmills and maybe narrow boats. Is Norwich ok?

Well, that's a silly reaction. Norfolk coast is just gorgeous. You're not moving there.

Is this Kings Lynn you are talking about? I grew up there. Complete and utter shithole of the worst order. Absolutely full of ignorant narrow minded bigots with totally myopic view of the world. Violence and drug addiction is a significant problem because there is so little on the way of opportunity and so boring. Couldn’t wait to get out at age 20 never went back. Still have close family there but I don’t visit there we meet in other places. My poor aunt has been trying to sell a house there for about 8 years, but she is completely stuck, nobody wants to move somewhere with no charm or opportunities and so much violence. All the younger generation in my family have left it’s a truly horrible depressing shit hole I wouldn’t wish on anyone decent. Hope you managed to leave and start somewhere, anywhere new! There are hundreds of gorgeous quaint towns in England especially around Yorkshire. I am on the south coast its absolutely incredible here beautiful so much to do fantastic lifestyle less than an hour to London but very very expensive, its hard for people to move here if not already here 25 years ago like me, so I would recommend looking up North in a town/village close to Leeds Sheffiled or Manchester that way you have employment countryside city amenities and significantly lower cost of living than southern England, probably not as cheap as KL but then it’s a shit hole so nobody wants to live there, keeps the prices low!

As long as you avoid Hull, most of Leeds, a lot of Sheffield, a lot of Bradford, nuts of Halifax, the run down East Coast like Brid and Withernsea, Goole, Selby etc etc then yeah, it's great 🙄😂

It's a zombie thread
I wonder if the op did move home? I am intrigued as to where they lived tbh.