Driving 102 miles to a destination one day over due.

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And then of course 102 miles hole again.

I'm pregnant and due on Christmas Eve. My Dad is having Christmas at his with my brothers and all their kids and they make it into a huge magical deal that the kids love and the adults have a great time at.

I'm bound to go over due and I want to go.

DH says no. Not because he's worried about the baby coming, but because he wants to use the baby's due date as an excuse to stay home and not see family this year (if we never saw family he would be happy, his own included) or travel anywhere.

I say that being stuck in with two kids arguing over Christmas will be hell, and the kids will be missing out on an amazing day.

Logistically I would pack a bag, and if I went into labour that day then we would have childcare on tap.

Who is BU?

Well I would go

Oh yeah, forgot about DH. Loads easier being single, I tell ya

Well I think he is BU anyway. His only reasonable concern was the motorway labour. Big family christmasses are so special for kids.

He has no concerns for a motorway labour.
He's just a misery guts who doesn't like to socialise and wants to use the baby as an excuse to get out of seeing any family at Christmas (his words not mine!).

I'd be more understanding if it was because he was worried about me and the baby!

This might have been suggested earlier as I've just skimmed through the thread. Would booking a hotel be an option so you break the journey and aren't sat in a car for 4 hrs in one day. Booking a travel lodge or a premier inn now would be cheap. I personally wouldn't risk the journey so close to my due date. My first two labours were very quick and swift with both dc arriving within 3 hrs from the first contraction.

He's just a misery guts who doesn't like to socialise and wants to use the baby as an excuse to get out of seeing any family at Christmas (his words not mine!).

Ah I feel increasingly sorry for your DH! He doesn’t really like socialising but does it every year, clearly for you.

He wants to use the excuse of the baby to have a single year on his terms and gets referred to as a misery guts by his wife and selfish by internet ransoms.

Op, you don’t seem to view his wishes/preferences as being as valid as yours.

Erm.

How about for the kids?
Did we forget the kids? Christmas is about kids, no? It's by the by that I happen to love Christmas as well.
But nay, this is Mumsnet, I'm a cunt. Poor DH, 😂😂😂😂

I'm off now because I'm back to work, thanks everyone who actually had constructive advice, it's helped a lot!

Hope you go and have lots of fun, OP.

Typical mumsnet, asks are they being unreasonable then gets their knickers in a twist when they are told they are.

I never said you hated your hubby and kids op. But read back through your posts. You very clearly are dreading spending xmas with just them and the excitement you expressed when someone suggested going to a hotel or pub for the day - where other people will be.

So its not just that you want to spend xmas with family, any group of people will do as long as your not alone with dp and the kids.

Genuinely sad.

I wouldn't but despite third child not being the largest she was the largest bump and it was harder and more tiring than pervious pg towards the end. Plus I had quick labours first two and third was traumatically quick.

Two weeks either side of due date is normal – pfb was early other two later second just under two weeks – it really is just a guide.

two kids arguing over Christmas will be hell, and the kids will be missing out on an amazing day.

Film – popcorn – family board games (we often find good ones with you tube table top watching them play them) – Christmas dinner pre-prepared as possible and possible if older children get them involved in cooking.

Possibly get them activity based presents if there is something in their interest – crafting, coding projects books lego building project.

Cinema, plays pantomimes days either side or other local activates that might be open.

I don't see why it has to be a bad day - and next year you can have the big family get together.

How about for the kids?
Did we forget the kids? Christmas is about kids, no? It's by the by that I happen to love Christmas as well.

Entirely incidental! Clearly the reason you are so desperate to go is what’s best the kids, not that it’s exactly what you also want to do.

I’m just saying poor bloke wants to use a convenient excuse for one single year to have Christmas the way he’d prefer it and his wife brands him a misery guts rather than saying ‘fair dos, not my idea of a brilliant Christmas but we’re family, Christmas is about family, let’s do it your way this time.’

But yeah. Totally. You’re being self-sacrificing and making the journey every year for the kids.