Driving 102 miles to a destination one day over due.

[WhatAnAbsolutePenis]

And then of course 102 miles hole again.

I'm pregnant and due on Christmas Eve. My Dad is having Christmas at his with my brothers and all their kids and they make it into a huge magical deal that the kids love and the adults have a great time at.

I'm bound to go over due and I want to go.

DH says no. Not because he's worried about the baby coming, but because he wants to use the baby's due date as an excuse to stay home and not see family this year (if we never saw family he would be happy, his own included) or travel anywhere.

I say that being stuck in with two kids arguing over Christmas will be hell, and the kids will be missing out on an amazing day.

Logistically I would pack a bag, and if I went into labour that day then we would have childcare on tap.

Who is BU?

Personally I’d ship the eldest kids off to your dads by hook or crook. Taxi or coercing family member or friend to take them (reimbursement due of course). Then spend Christmas with DH at home. There is always skype/facetime etc to video call the kids while they are away.

I normally spend Christmas with my family, but this year I’ve agreed to a quiet one at home with the DP as our baby will be around 2 months old by then, and DP would rather spend our first Christmas as a family at home.

Prt
Exactly. That’s what I said upthread. Op either didn’t read or didn’t acknowledge my post.

TAXI?! 200 miles? Are you being sewious?

@WhatAnAbsolutePenis i'd go! If you're overdue, at least you'l have people to entertain your kids and feed you so you can just relax.

If you have a newborn, exactly the same to give you and your DH a chance to recover with LO.

I think your DH is being selfish. Christmas for me is all about seeing all the family, ee go to my nans every year, non negitiable and i wouldn't have it any other way

And why would I ship the kids off to my dads and miss out on my children's Christmas? As well as missing out on being with my family? That's an even worse suggestion.

LazyPuppy exactly what I was thinking.
But we are clearly in the minority here.

What are you going to do in a hotel, is that for a meal (the Christmas Dinner)? I'd have thought the children would be happier at home than in a hotel tbh.

Christmas for me is all about seeing all the family, ee go to my nans every year, non negitiable and i wouldn't have it any other way

I don’t get how he is being selfish? He’s done the sort of christmas he hates every single year. Christmas for him isn’t all about seeing family, but that’s what he sucks up year after year. Far from selfish.

So you’ve still not answered the suggestion of getting your dad to pick them up/ brother to take them.

You’re coming across as very hyper btw. It’s 4 months away.

Jesus wept, my local family pub is £80 pp on Christmas Day 😭

Motherlflittledrago erm, yeah I have.

I think your DH is being selfish. Christmas for me is all about seeing all the family, ee go to my nans every year, non negitiable and i wouldn't have it any other way

Surely that's the selfish bit Puppy!

To be fair SoyDora I see his family every year too and I'd rather not.

So it's swings and roundabouts. The difference is, I don't whinge an moan about it every year...

Yes, the cost of Christmas Dinner out is horrendous unfortunately! I'd resent paying that myself tbh!

You'd be very lucky to find a Xmas dinner less than £50 per head. Can you not just cook if DH can't and you'd be well enough? It's only a roast dinner.

Book a hotel for lunch locally.

Assume DH won't be drinking anyway in case you go into labour.

Surely your kids have coped over the summer hols so can't see why they can't over the much shorter Christmas holidays.

Why do they argue? Having a bit of different Christmas is nice. If you don't usually watch TV because of the family party type Christmas watch a bit of Christmas Tv or rent in a movie you all decide on.

You seriously can't travel if the baby hasn't been born. I know you have had 2 and presumably had easy births otherwise you just would not even be contemplating this but things can happen and it could end in an extended stay for either you, the baby or both in which case it will be better to be at home.

@SoyDora he is selfish, what about what the children want? He can avoid his family for the rest of the year if he wants.

I would decide closer to the time, but if I was feeling ok I would go. Over the Christmas holidays your DH will have plenty of opportunities to have a quiet day in the house, but this is the only day your family are getting together. I'm assuming the kids also want to go to see cousins etc so your DH is a bit outnumbered.

Ok it's £31 perhead on Boxing Day, that we can do.
That would be something to look forward to, but potentially a lot of money to waste if the baby came that day! I think I would risk it though, if I can risk going into labour on a motor way I can risk booking a lunch on Boxing Day.

I'm really grateful to whoever suggested that, I personally feel like that's at least a part-way compromise!

Again LazyPuppy I agree.
He sees my family once a year, at Christmas or on Boxing Day, he can have a quiet day allllll the other days of the year.

@SassitudeandSparkle no because i said to my partner from day 1 he doesn't have to come if he doesn't want to, i'm just lettting him know what i am doing, and he's always invited if he wants to come. Luckily his mum doesn't 'do' Christmas so we see his family on boxing day.

He knows how important christmas is to me, so we do christmas my way, but other holidays are important to him and we do them his way.

Christmas at the OPs dad is important to to the OP, her DH should know this and go with it

Yes. Obviously you did. And it was a cross post. 🙄

someone got caught on the m25 & baby was born in car so um no not a good idea -there is always next year

Doing over 200 odd miles in one day especially Christmas Day wouldn't be my idea of fun tbh

Omg I was looking at a pub with the same name in the westmidlands. And I just booked the table.
Glad they didn't ask me to pay.