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Not a TAAT as such, but inspired by a response on a thread running at the moment.
It got me thinking of the differences between MN and my RL friends and acquaintances, and things that are accepted wisdom on MN that no-one I know in real life cares about at all.
I will start off:

1. Little girls who wear pink clothing, and gendered clothing in general;
2. Scented sanitary towels;
3. Fruit Shoots
4. People cuddling/touching/talking to your child;

The amount of threads and angst over these topics is staggering, yet no-one I know would even think any of the above were worth discussing, never mind getting worked up about. Anymore?

Eugh sorry if its been mentioned but only on mn do people like to try and use archaic meanings of words that no longer mean what they claim they do. For example "hysterical". Its no longer a word for women just like the once male equivelant was "hyperchondria". Also moron idiot and cretin no longer have the same meanings and havent for a very long time yet people on mn will call it disablist and try and be offended.

Im not a prohibitionist. I drink alcohol sensibly as the daughter of an alcoholic.

Fair enough. But on the flip side, many people are not the children of alcoholics and don't see 2 bottles a week as excessive.

Only on MN do people earning salaries well above the average think that people on benefits are getting as much as they are.

There's no rhyme or reason to MN nutritional standards.

Anyone banging on about how much they LOVE McDonalds, KFC, etc. can achieve near-hero status on the right thread.

Sugar is not a problem on MN. If you don't let your kids eat sugary stuff, then you're a shit, joyless parent who is ruining their childhood. On the other hand, if your child is overweight because of all the sugar, then you're a shit, irresponsible parent who is ruining their childhood.

There are countless threads of people hi-fiving the OP for eating 5 magnums and a twice-daily Big Mac in pregnancy, but woe betide anyone who drinks a thimbleful of alcohol once a month, because THAT would be unhealthy and 'taking unnecessary risks.'

Although I actually find that MNers are generally fairly sensible about alcohol/alcohol issues in comparison to the batshit varied opinions on nutrition generally.

No 3 bottles of wine per week for an adult male is not excessive and most GPs would agree. Government guidelines cease to mean anything when we're now told there is no safe level. Common sense about knowing your limits and being honest about how alcohol is negatively impacting your life are the way forward, not berating people for moderate consumption. And my father was an alcoholic so I'm not ignorant on this subject.

There are countless threads of people hi-fiving the OP for eating 5 magnums and a twice-daily Big Mac in pregnancy, but woe betide anyone who drinks a thimbleful of alcohol once a month, because THAT would be unhealthy and 'taking unnecessary risks.'

Also the faux concern with women who exercise through pregnancy and gain less than 20 pounds.

And how it's absolutely fine to switch to not breastfeed because formula is not poison, but you are a negligent parent if your child faces forward in their carseat before the age of 4, even if they are carsick.

It's a bit of a Simpsons caricature sometimes.

The EU aren't threatening to make life tough on UK. The UK is threatening to make life tough on the UK. That's what BREXIT is. Totally self-inflicted.

@inertpotato did you see the thread a few days ago where the op claimed her in laws were a danger to her child because they put him in a front facing carseat. It then got more and more dramatic saying they still ised it when the child didnt fit. Queue posters throwing a hissy about they are evil and everyone knows front facing seats are a certain death. Yeah thats why they are still routinely sold here...

That's exactly what I'm talking about, Martha! Remarkably unmeasured to my (negligent) way of thinking.

Er, that's not what happened on that thread.

It was half a mile journey at most, too, on the horrors-FF-carseat thread.

On the lost Pandora bracelet thread right now, the OP is being criticised because they don't keep an empty room in the house to be used a few days a month by a visiting step child.

Horror of horror she is given exclusive use of her dad and step mother's room, who then sleep on the soft. Posters are telling the OP to 'just move to a bigger house' or extend or convert the loft of a rented house . No concept of anyone having a limited budget for such things.

@CoughLaughFart that actually made me laugh out loud.

You hear so much with the attitude of anything you do for your hubby is just simply wrong, he is taking advantage, being a T**t, how dare he, oohh this is how the emotional abuse starts. Make him do his share, leave him ,better still ...hang him !! ....without knowing all the facts

The gender neutral debate ...I have never seen baby monty with pink hair clips and a dress and dont shout telling eachother how to bring our kids up and that's what should happen. And I mix with all different class, age and gender.

Is the issue with 1-2 bottles of wine a week less about the amount of wine and more about the fact that this person is using it as a crutch and cannot get through the week without it? That dependence is, to me, more worrying than the amount.

Is the issue with 1-2 bottles of wine a week less about the amount of wine and more about the fact that this person is using it as a crutch and cannot get through the week without it? That dependence is, to me, more worrying than the amount.

How do you tell the difference between someone is using wine 'as a crutch' as opposed to using it in the usual way, particularly when the amount is not the issue?

Is the issue with 1-2 bottles of wine a week less about the amount of wine and more about the fact that this person is using it as a crutch and cannot get through the week without it?

In the thread Martha was referring to, I think that was the crux of the issue, not really the 1 or 2 bottles of wine.

IMHO it doesn't matter if you drink a glass a week or 5 bottles, if you think you have a problem you should be supported in getting help.

I like go buy 2 espressos a week. One on saturday, one on Wednesday. I look forward to my coffee hit and would be miffed without them. Should I get help?

I like go buy 2 espressos a week. One on saturday, one on Wednesday. I look forward to my coffee hit and would be miffed without them. Should I get help?

Yes. If you didn't buy those espressos you could have bought a house by now. Entitled millennial.

How do you tell the difference between someone is using wine 'as a crutch' as opposed to using it in the usual way, particularly when the amount is not the issue?

The poster on that thread openly stated she was using it as a crutch and couldn't get herself through the week without it.

Yes the thread in question the op said it was a crutch and she couldnt get through the week without it.

The latest
13 year old holds party and trashes house...
MN: poor child needs love/therapy
RL: grounded until Xmas, key removed, and made clear they have behaved appallingly

My MIL is a cow:

MN: go low/no contact, don't let her see your child
RL: yeah, and you are a cow that looks for any reason to exclude her, you are as bad as each other
. Child has 2 parents, what would you say if DP refused to let your mum see his child

feck exactly the thread i am on. Posters genuinely saying shes only 13 i wouldnt hold her responsinble. If it was me she wouldnt be welcome in my house ever again.

There's one running just now about a woman who's retired but keeps phoning up for office gossip, turning up at her former workplace and disrupting everyone, getting upset about not being included in all and every impromptu social occasion.

The op has been advised to facilitate part time hours for her.

Words fail me.

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