Visitor ordering only for themselves

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Invited friends round for drinks and dinner. Things were a bit delayed because I was sorting out kids etc. Served dinner, heard a knock at the door my male friend had ordered a takeaway for one and was incensed when we pulled him up on it. AIBU?

Very rude! YRNBU

Omfg how seriously are some taking this, look it's not the time dinner was, nine is acceptable for a lot of people, I'm sure if any of OPs guests had had gastric surgery the time would have been altered and I'm sure not everyone has had it or know someone who has.... Point is .... Where's the mum's with asd on this effing site I need spoons and sanity.

Not being funny if I'm invited out for dinner I eat with the hosts I certainly don't sit and think I have dinner at x time at home. People in here are so fucking rude at times. I certainly wouldn't order a takeaway unless for everyone ;!!!!

Where's the mum's with asd on this effing site I need spoons and sanity

I’m here! But fresh out of spoons today, sorry. And sanity most days

It doesn’t seem great to invite anyone round for dinner if you can’t actually give dinner by 8.30 at the very latest. And oven chips for a snack

What a sensationally bizzare starter

It doesn’t seem great to invite anyone round for dinner if you can’t actually give dinner by 8.30 at the very latest

We're all different . Many people on the thread would be totally fine not eating until 9.00 p.m and/or understand that a dinner party is different from serving yourself/family food at home.

If I went to a dinner party at 7.30 I definitely wouldn't want to eat before 8.30 p.m!

What time did the guests arrive?

I doubt we'll ever know as Op has disappeared.

I’m still waiting for the how late. And I will add in a how often are you late doing stuff, OP? I used to have friends who would do this - plan a huge party and not even have started anything at all before guests arrived. They’d make excuses about being tardy and watch while everyone did pretty much everything (including the week’s worth of dishes splattered over the kitchen. They’d quite happily rock up at other people’s places, eat like locusts (and bring fuck all in the way of even a fucking after dinner mint/daisy picked outside) and on one occasion the bloke crashed for 45 mins on the sofa, woke up and off they rushed. Late is selfish, unless something out of the ordinary or unexpected happens.

What was for dinner after all this?

Has anyone asked what time the guests arrived?

👀 just hoping for OP to come back to this thread

I really fancy a curry (mixed in rice) sandwich in white bread

Also why do people start a bloody thread and not answer questions...?

Is she more annoyed at the take away or the fact he didn’t order for everyone
What time was dinner supposed to be
What time did guests arrive
We’re they offered more than bread and water (and chips) as a starter?
Was his takeaway any good?

Good lord is everyone on MN really so rigid that they couldn't wait an hour or so for their dinner, in the company of friends? It can be hard juggling kid's bedtime and a dinner party - particularly if kids are prone to playing up. Things can sometimes take longer than anticipated in the kitchen too - ordering a takeaway is mindboggling!
Dinner at 9pm with friends, on a Saturday night, is perfectly acceptable. What a dull life you must lead if you can't have any spontaneity and must rigidly eat at a set time each day. Restaurants are heaving at 9pm.

Arrive 8pm, chat, drinks and nibbles for a 9pm sit down is far from unreasonable. Just have a quick snack before you leave the house.

Chip butty on the otherhand - now that's a bit weird.

Omg op people are being so rude and snobby to you. Yanbu. To order takeaway to someone else’s house when they are making dinner is ultra rude.

I hate eating after 7, it messes up my IBS and I suffer badly if I don’t eat to a schedule. However sometimes I just have to because of meals out or if I’m with friends doing dinner.. not everyone is in my schedule and nor should they be.
I would be really annoyed having to wait until 9 though.
I don’t think I’d have the guts (excuse the pun) to order a takeaway though!

Come back OP !

Some people can't eat late due to medical reasons DisappearHere1234. OH has no oesophagus. He was quite poorly on holiday one night because we ate at 9. He aspirated some reflux and ended up with a chest infection. For OH it is very important he doesn't eat late.

I'm kind of assuming that the comments about how eating at 9.00 pm at a dinner party not being scandalous will be referring to anyone without a medical reason for not being able to do so.

But there's no mention of nibbles. If there was a good selection of nibbles there probably wouldn't have been a problem

Giles! There was bread and chips! DRTFTD .

Surely if you've got a medical need, you'd either decline the offer or eat something small before or always take a back up little snack with you? Especially if you know or suspect the friend is a bit of a shambles with timing.

Like this weekend, I went to my friends for lunch who's a champion over estimator of timings. I ate a huge breakfast before expecting this. Sure enough, we all ate a big bbq prepared by her partner who stepped in at the last minute as she faffed and finally produced a giant leg of lamb (and nothing else) two hours after we'd eaten! Great to take home in a doggy bag for sandwiches though.

Also find it a bit odd that everyone seems so formal when round friends places on here. Are people really sitting upright on the sofa lips pursed, slowly fading away? Maybe I come from a more relaxed culture, but it's common for everyone to be up pitching in with at least getting stuff out of oven or setting up or child wrangling if times getting on or host is looking harassed.

Anyway, doesn't change the fact that this guy sounds slightly bonkers 😂

Is your guest Autustic OP? Many of my relatives are and they would see it as a perfectly normal solution to a host not feeding them a proper dinner. Bread and chips would be considered the odd part of your story in my family. 9pm is very late to eat.

Well never know what time the guests arrived (because it never happened)

TatianaLarina you’ve reminded me of a dinner party I went to when the grandchildren were brought in to hand round nibbles in their nighties. They then queued up for goodnight kisses from the guests before they went to bed.