To be really annoyed with SIL

[alwaysthesameold]

So my LO and SIL LO both go to our mother in law every Thursday.
I’ve chosen to work on a Thursday but SIL doesn’t work.
SIL little one has been vomiting since Tuesday night at midnight so about 31 hours. Don’t think she’s thrown up for the past few hours though according to SIL (since 1am this morning)
I’m due in work at 9am and SIL just text me saying she’s still sending her LO to our mother in law today as she needs some free time after dealing with all the sick and she wants to go to the gym.
I’m refusing to send my LO today now as 48 hours haven’t passed, her LO will still be contagious and it’s my daughters birthday on Saturday so really don’t want her sick for it.
I’ve also got to phone in work and take a day off unpaid.
Mother in law refuses to get involved and if I’m honest her LO always seems to come first (not sure if it’s because she was the first grandchild)
Just having a rant really because I’m angry and SIL is selfish as always.

Did you not just say that you also think it is a "setting"?

Only because a pp referred to it as such. I wouldn't recommend that OP refer to it as such to her MIL!

Maybe tell your MIL that she'll be seeing your dc a lot less if she won't refuse the SIL dc when infectious as you'll be getting fromal child care.

Has your DH ever discussed it with his Mum. Or addressed it with his Brother?

Or spoke up for her when the SIl had her in tears? Does she have a Partner, is she scared of the SIL, do they threaten that she won't see the child if she doesn't comply?

""Maybe tell your MIL that she'll be seeing your dc a lot less if she won't refuse the SIL dc when infectious as you'll be getting fromal child care.""

What about the child seeing his Nan/Cousin? Or supporting a Woman who sounds downtrodden as it is, rather than use emotional blackmail.

Also, the child does have a Father who might not agree that his Mum should be threatened, for a change.

Just properly read the thread.

So a nearly 70 year old is being bullied into Childcare and you can't live comfortably, unless she stays committed to giving you Childcare on the only day she doesn't have other commitments?

She must be knackered and not know what to do for the best.

As you age, you just can't cope with the stress of arguments, so she's protecting her health by keeping out of it.

Maybe tell your MIL that she'll be seeing your dc a lot less if she won't refuse the SIL dc when infectious as you'll be getting fromal child care.

What a nasty person you are.

I'm not nasty. I just feel the OP and her child aren't being treated fairly and maybe the MIL needs a reality check.

It's a fact that if the dc gets ill the MIL won't be seeing her. Hardly a shock.