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Original poster

At 6am wibu to just get milk?

128 replies

LanceStatersGold · 07/08/2018 09:58

Woke up this morning to discover (after getting in late yesterday) that there was only a dribble of milk so quickly got dressed and went to the corner shop when it opened at 6 so that DD could have breakfast.

Got back to be quizzed on where I’d been - DD knew so he could have just asked her.

Explained went to get milk for breakfast.

Ensuing onslaught began:

Did you get bread, yoghurts and bananas?

No, I just nipped out to the corner shop to get milk. Will do proper shop later...

Was then called stupid, idiot and lazy for not making a list.

Again replied I’d gone just to get milk and there’s all those things in cupboard/fridge if he wants them.

Then told again I’m stupid and I should have made a list as there’s loads we need and he went to work in a sulk.

Had put it down to him being grumpy this morning but just had text saying ‘please don’t text me a list to pick up on way home. When you go out make a sodding list and stop wasting your time’

I’m genuinely confused. This should be such a non event but now I’m sitting here wondering if I should have just done the weekly shop at 6am in the corner shop? Was I unreasonable?

OP posts:
argumentativefeminist · 07/08/2018 10:01

You were definitely not being unreasonable. Your husband sounds like a massive dick to be honest.

JustJoinedRightNow · 07/08/2018 10:02

No you were definitely not BU. What a joke! How dare he speak to you like that. Does he regularly call you “stupid”?? That is horrible.

MrsJayy · 07/08/2018 10:02

Your husband is an arse clearly maybe he should pop to the supermarket on the way home to get his own bread and frigging yogurt

MidniteScribbler · 07/08/2018 10:02

WTF do you see in this prince among men?

GetThisBabyOut · 07/08/2018 10:03

Your husband was being really nasty. Is he always this demanding and rude to you?

Pittcuecothecookbook · 07/08/2018 10:04

Bloody hell, he sounds like a massive prick

FelicityFoxworth · 07/08/2018 10:04

Why are you focusing on this one thing? It's nothing to do with you getting milk or bread or popping out or whatever. Stop focusing on the wrong thing

Focus on the right thing - the fact your other half needs removing from your life at your earliest convenience.

HelpmeobiMN · 07/08/2018 10:04

Your DH was a horrible prick. Is this unusual for him? If so I would think something had to be very wrong to make him behave so nastily and unreasonably.

RabbityMcRabbit · 07/08/2018 10:05

OP is he often like this? If so, what you just described is abuse. Flowers

CircleofWillis · 07/08/2018 10:05

Was he suspicious about you going out? Do you think he could think you are having an affair?

longwayoff · 07/08/2018 10:05

You? Him. Total fuckwit how on earth can u bear to have him in the house? And now its your fault - everything - and you're questioning your actions. Text him a list, a list of other places to stay. I feel very sorry indeed for you. Wake up.

Hadjab · 07/08/2018 10:06

He was definitely being a dick - I would have sent him a two-word response to his text

LoveInTokyo · 07/08/2018 10:06

This has got nothing to do with milk or bread or yoghurt.

It's about the fact that your husband doesn't even respect you enough to keep a civil tongue in his head.

I would prepare no more meals for him until he apologises.

Original poster
LanceStatersGold · 07/08/2018 10:08

Honestly and heartbreakingly it isn’t unusual and he’s only been home for a month after a period of separation. I really thought we’d made strides and that he’d go to work and realise he’d taken a step backwards.

Stupid is actually fairly mild but is the first name calling since we were first apart.

OP posts:
LoveInTokyo · 07/08/2018 10:09

And you let him back into your life because...?

Zoflorabore · 07/08/2018 10:09

Starve the fucker.

Has he got form for this?

You needed milk- you went for milk. End of story. He was being an arse.

Merryoldgoat · 07/08/2018 10:12

He has absolutely no respect for you. I’d tell him move out again and keep it that way if this is his normal charming behaviour.

ShumpaLumpa · 07/08/2018 10:12

I felt depressed reading what he said to you, it must be so much worse for you.

Don't waste any more time on him, he clearly hasn't changed. Are you in a position to leave him?

Why were your reasons for separating?

letsdolunch321 · 07/08/2018 10:12

He sounds a charmer, the relationship is back to square one by sounds of it.

Personally I would make the separation a permanent arrangement.

Good luck 💐

Vinorosso74 · 07/08/2018 10:12

He sounds horrible so can see why you separated! At 6am I wouldn't have been writing a list or demanding someone did a large shop.
I don't think I'd want to be with someone like that.

BarbaraHepworth · 07/08/2018 10:13

He sounds horrible and he's demonstrated to you that he hasn't changed. I'm sorry OP, nobody deserved to be treated like this.

Babybearsporij · 07/08/2018 10:14

YANBU OP. I've often popped to the Co Op to get milk or bread or something and then done the big shop later. He must have been very grumpy this morning or he has something else going on maybe?

Frequency · 07/08/2018 10:14

And this is why I like being single.

I went to the shop four times yesterday.

Once for milk, once for an energy drink and cola, once for rice which I forgot I needed and finally for chocolate because I deserved some.

No-one cared. I'm doing my full shop today. I will probably forget something and go back to the shop later. No-one will care.

Have a long, hard think, OP, do you get anything worth while out of this relationship which you couldn't achieve on your own?

Haworthia · 07/08/2018 10:14

I would make the separation permanent if I were you.

serbska · 07/08/2018 10:15

Bloody hell get rid of this arse hole.