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Celebrities should at least be civil?

133 replies

Aprilsinparis · 06/08/2018 10:26

AIBU to at least expect Celeb's to be civil, when approached. I understand they may be having a bad day, but because they are celeb's the impression they leave with fans will last a life time good or bad.

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AlonsoTigerHeart · 06/08/2018 10:27

Obviously you need to tell us who

Waitingonasmiley42 · 06/08/2018 10:27

They are also human beings who deserve privacy. Just because you are well known shouldn’t mean you can put up with harassment as you go about your day.

NewYearNewMe18 · 06/08/2018 10:29

To think ^everyone should be civil. But that also includes leaving 'celebs' to go about their own life unhindered, without someone popping up in the cat food aisle in Sainbury demanding autographs

LunaAzul · 06/08/2018 10:29

Could you imagine having to be nice to every single person who approached you just because you were famous. Everyone has off days. Plus the manner in which they were approached might set off their reaction too.

Somerford · 06/08/2018 10:29

I don't usually imagine that I'm entitled to someone's time and attention because I've seen the in Coronation Street. They're people going about their day, leave them alone

kimber83 · 06/08/2018 10:29

How about leaving them a fucking alone to drink a coffee, make a tube journey or chat to a friend without feeling like you have a right to be pandered to & entertained just because you see them on TV, the radio, on billboards?

Is that situation what you were referring to?

9amTrain · 06/08/2018 10:29

It would be nice... but they are human like us and we aren't smiley and jolly every day of the year are we? And that's without having to deal with strangers everywhere you go. It would drive me up the wall.

Though if they are actively rude that's another thing. What exactly happened?

YeTalkShiteHen · 06/08/2018 10:30

God no, can you imagine? If you want to meet a celebrity (no idea why you’d want to), go to an organised event.

Why on earth would anyone accost a stranger in the street and expect them to be delighted about it?

Maelstrop · 06/08/2018 10:31

I absolutely disagree. Yes, they’re famous due to the public liking them for whatever reason, no, you do not therefore have the right to fawn all overapproach them in public. You have no idea what’s going on in their life, if they’re rushing to an appointment etc.

NameChangedAgain18 · 06/08/2018 10:31

It works both ways. Being civil also means leaving people alone when they are going about their private business.

Celebelly · 06/08/2018 10:32

Honestly, it depends what they are doing. If they are out with their kids or having a meal then they should be left to do so in peace. If they're at a red carpet or work event then sure.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 06/08/2018 10:33

They shouldn't be in the job of showbiz if they value their privacy. That's all it boils down to. Where would they be now without their fans.

IDontEatFriedTurtle · 06/08/2018 10:33

I think celebrities get paid a whole lot of money to be famous. Part of that comes with the territory of people asking for autographs etc. The option to not be famous is always there but they choose this life style. unless the person approaching them was being a total arse I think "civil" is a pretty low bar.

VoiceOfCommonSense · 06/08/2018 10:35

Are you going to tell us who or just drop feed?

Gard21 · 06/08/2018 10:38

I once politely asked a well known golfer at a golf tournament for his autograph, he replied in a very nasty voice NO. His agent apologised and said he will get me the famous golfers autograph for me, I replied don't bother. This was in effect his place of work.

LakieLady · 06/08/2018 10:38

Being famous (or infamous) doesn't make someone public property. There are a few famous faces around where I live, and they just seem to be left alone to go about their business.

The only one I've spoken to is an actor who very politely asked if it was ok if his little girls said hello to my dog, and now they come and make a fuss of her whenever we see them. We now say hello if we see each other in town.

YeTalkShiteHen · 06/08/2018 10:38

Where would they be now without their fans

Are you seriously suggesting that means they can’t eat/walk about/pee in peace forevermore?

YeTalkShiteHen · 06/08/2018 10:39

I once politely asked a well known golfer at a golf tournament for his autograph

That’s different I think, in that he was at work and would expect fans to be there.

2ManySweets · 06/08/2018 10:39

spill

hearmyvoice · 06/08/2018 10:40

I read an interview with a very famous Irish actor who stated that if he wasn't famous he would miss being recognised by people but in another interview he said that didn't like how people approached him and expected him to always be happy.
If i was famous then I would accept that if I want people to recognise me then they will probably approach me so it comes hand in hand. Isnt that what fame is?

MaitlandGirl · 06/08/2018 10:42

I went up to one woman on the beach once with toddler and as soon as I approached she started off on a rant about how she was out with her family having a quiet time and I should leave her alone and no, she wasn’t going to pose for a selfie.

I just wanted to see if she had a spare baby wipes I could have and she was really embarrassed when she realised I didn’t actually know who she was.

Turns out she’s had loads of hassle that day and her toddler was getting stressed out by all the people.

No idea who she was but DD2 was horrified I’d spoken to her so I presume she someone I should know.

I felt really sorry for her - imagine sitting on the beach with your family and being bothered all the time for photos? Honestly can’t think of anything worse.

PolkerrisBeach · 06/08/2018 10:46

Depends on the context, doesn't it? At a gallery opening or cinema event which they've attended for publicity, where there are press or in some way connected with their job, fair game. You're on duty and should expect to be approached.

Going round Tesco or at the park with your kids, not so much.

Whatififall · 06/08/2018 10:47

I once saw a celeb in a train station, a group of women on a hen do accosted her and asked for a photo, she said she would but she just needed to get her tickets from the pre-paid machine first. The women were shrieking at her about just one photo and again she said she would but just needed to get her tickets, one of the women in the hen do then grabbed her arm so the celeb shouted “no” and yanked her arm back. The hen do then stormed off shouting about how rude she was, how she wasn’t even pretty in real life and it was only one photo. I have no doubt they now tell that story as what a cow so and so is, had no time to be civil to her fans, when really she was very civil and willing to take a photo but just wanted to do something first.

loveka · 06/08/2018 10:49

Why do people think they can approach people and interupt what they are doing?

To say don't be in 'showbiz' if you don't want the attention is just plain stupid. Yes, don't go on Love Island or whatever. But actors? They do it because they want to act, not have people approach them every 5 minutes.

They are not public property just because you have seen them on the telly.

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Aprilsinparis · 06/08/2018 10:51

The celeb in question was approached by my niece to ask if she could tell her where she could buy a jacket like hers. The best of it was, my niece didn't even recognise her, until someone told her who it was. So she didn't ask her, because of who she was, it was a genuine enquiry because she liked her jacket, so much.

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