Celebrities should at least be civil?

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AIBU to at least expect Celeb's to be civil, when approached. I understand they may be having a bad day, but because they are celeb's the impression they leave with fans will last a life time good or bad.

Your nieve was quite rude talking to a complete stranger for any reason other than to say sorry or to warn them of an emergency. The celebrity thing is a red herring here.

Whaaaattttt?!

*Your nieve was quite rude talking to a complete stranger for any reason other than to say sorry or to warn them of an emergency. The celebrity thing is a red herring here.
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no way is it rude to ask a stranger where they got their jacket, I have done so. I politely asked, i guess the celeb didnt want the details known ?

i would be too embarrassed to accost a celeb.

I don't think YABU at all. Everyone should be civil all the time. We're not because we're human, including celebrities, but there's rarely a reason for civility not to be the ideal.

A lot of people seem to answering a slightly different question - whether or not celbrities should have to expect or put up with constant interruptions. They shouldn't, of course. But they can still be civil in their response.
'No, I'm sorry, I'm with my family right now.'
'Not at the moment, sorry.'
'I'm afraid I can't right now'
'No, sorry'

None of those are uncivil and all can be said while on the move/continuing about their business. There's no need to subsitute something like that with,
'No!'
'For God's sake, I'm busy.'
'Fuck off'
'Ugh'

They take pretty much the same amount of time but create a very different impression.

Your nieve was quite rude talking to a complete stranger for any reason other than to say sorry or to warn them of an emergency. The celebrity thing is a red herring here.

EMERGENCY I NEED TO KNOW WHERE YOUR JACKET IS FROM

I've worked with quite a lot of big name celebrities and seen how they can't go for a simple walk to the shop without being pestered by fans or press. Many of them who became famous before their kids were born and worry about their children when they are getting mobbed.

I would therefore never approach someone outside of work. Signings, stage door, concert etc are all places they expect you and don't mind.

Your daughter could have been the 100th person to stop her. I hate having to avoid those street sellers and chuggers so would be a rubbish celebrity.

I stopped my daughter chasing down a member of Take That recently even though I've met him several times through work and know he would have been a complete sweetheart as usual. He was with family so its a no go.

Your nieve was quite rude talking to a complete stranger for any reason other than to say sorry or to warn them of an emergency.

What a load of bollox!

I've complimented people on what they were wearing, and they've been pleased, as I am when someone says something nice to me.

Also - I'm from t"north, and we talk to anyone about anything up here - we don't regard it as being rude to chat to a complete stranger at a bus stop - on the contrary, it's the done thing.

We can also be quite blunt, so if (say) Famous Person was approached here they are just as likely to get - "I saw you in X. You were shite." as they would be to be asked for a selfie.

(Now that iS rude . . . )

Your nieve was quite rude talking to a complete stranger for any reason other than to say sorry or to warn them of an emergency. The celebrity thing is a red herring here.

Are you a Regency time traveller, racecar?

Do you always wait to be introduced? How do you ever meet new people outside of the debutante ball?

Your nieve was quite rude talking to a complete stranger for any reason other than to say sorry or to warn them of an emergency.

I once passed a girl who looked amazing. Her outfit was so well put together, very chick that I just stopped as I was jogging by and told her: I just want to tell you that you have an amazing style, you look gorgeous.

She seemed delighted and just told me I made her day and we both went our separate ways.
Not sure where this ridiculous comment comes from but if we stop talking to strangers and just initiate a general conversation, we are fucked as species.

Yep another northerner and northerners talk to anyone so I don't agree with it being rude to talk to a stranger except in an emergency 😂

And Helpthetigers yep some celebrities can be right twats at official work events too!
I found a big boy band member who has a lovely persona to be a total twat at a record signing.

I also worked with someone who had come through a TV entertainment show and was utterly awful.

Your nieve was quite rude talking to a complete stranger for any reason other than to say sorry or to warn them of an emergency. The celebrity thing is a red herring here

What bollocks! I’ve asked a stranger where her fabulous floor length denim skirt was from, she was delighted to tell me. I’ve told others how amazing they look, never celebs, wouldn’t approach them, I reckon they don’t need the hassle.

I agree with a PP who pointed out declining politely isn't that big a deal, but I do sympathise with celebs who may be getting it constantly and the fact that the type of person who approaches them while they're buying tampons in Boots is also very unlikely to be the type who will happily go away when told, "sorry, I'm off duty currently."

I NARROWLY avoided accidentally hounding a celeb years ago. We were both rushing for a train, I accidentally bashed into him. He politely said sorry, as did I. But then I thought I knew him (didn't realise who he was at first), and kept stealing glances trying to work out if I was being rude by not acknowledging him. Thank god, i finally figured it out and casually got my book out and pretended to be super engrossed...!

I live near to two very famous people. One is an actor, the other is a sportsperson. They have both been household names for years.

I'm on vague, 'nodding hello' with the actor if we catch each other's eye, but they usually both assume the same 'eyes straight ahead,' no eye-contact, fast walk to avoid getting stopped or stared at too much I assume.

I see one in particular fairly frequently and I've occasionally watched the effect they have as they walk along the street. I don't blame them one bit for trying to duck the attention.

A well-known TV cook/writer has moved in nearby as well, which I didn't know about until I walked past them a few weeks ago. I did the standard, 'Oh that's a familiar face...can't place them...oh it's So-and-so from the telly!' which was completely instinctive, but must be irritating when it happens 20 times a day.

I place no greater expectations on celebrities than I do on anyone else. They're just people doing a job.

HelpTheTigers - I’m sure I’m not the only one making guesses and awaiting the revelation with bated breath 🤣
Years ago we were at the theatre, a friend came excitedly from the Gents saying he’d stood next to tall, unmistakable, John Cleese at the urinals. From a distance we saw him take his seat in the stalls. Before the curtain went up he’d had so much attention that he left, poor chap!

I often chat to random strangers. On Saturday I was in M&S waiting for my husband to come out of the changing room. There was a lady standing next to me with a cute baby and I admired her baby and said she was cute (the baby, not the mum). Mum was happy enough to chat, baby gave me a big smile. Didn't realise it was rude to do so. Often chat to dog owners about their dogs too.

Beez, it will probably come over as boring, so don't get too excited about it!
I was well pissed off with it though, although the word is used by a few posters on Mn (and no, I'm not being judgey, each to their own, it's just not my thing). I'm quite a pottymouth in my own way and would probably offend a few people with my brand of sauce.
I did calm down about it but am definitely not impressed with the celeb / arsewipe. My OP was taken aback too but as we are both very wimpy, we just put on a show of being amused at The Word and left, not wanting to appear uncool. How wimpy was that?

If they're at an appearance or meeting people backstage after a show or doing some sort of event they should be friendly and civil.

Ive bought VIP tickets for my favourite band, i now have The Fear that theyll be utter twunts

YABU.

Yes, ideally people should be civil all the time, but it's got to be awfully draining being nice and smiley to endless strangers who think they are entitled to your time.

@Norma27, my brother worked in a sports shop a few years ago and Paula Radcliffe was in one day for a signing. The place was absolutely mobbed and she was only supposed to be there for an hour, but she stayed on and signed autographs and posed for selfies with all the kids who were there because she said she didn't want to disappoint or upset them. He said she was really lovely, but she definitely puts a lot of pressure on herself.

@HelpTheTigers....c'mon, stop teasing us!!

I've worked with quite a lot of big name celebrities and seen how they can't go for a simple walk to the shop without being pestered by fans or press.

Not a celeb, but the late Tony Benn used to tell a story about a man accosting him in the street, saying "You're Tony Benn, aren't you" and then following this up with "I fucking hate you, you're mad".

Tony Benn was unfailingly polite and pleasant, btw.

Your nieve was quite rude talking to a complete stranger for any reason other than to say sorry or to warn them of an emergency. This is hilarious!!! You would never survive in Ireland

I used to work for a professional sports club.

When we used to go on nights out with the players, the behaviour from "the public" was appalling.

Abusive, trying to goad them into reactions, throwing stuff etc. I got sworn at for walking into a VIP area with them - "slag", "whore" etc.

Made even worse by the fact the sport is very much a "family" atmosphere and these players would regularly give up their down time for kids, fans etc.

NoCanoe. Ohh shit, I've dug myself into a hole now. 😈

I'll have to do the post but only on the understanding that it's really boring and not worth the effort of people reading it. I'll put up a disclaimer too, accepting the flaming that will result. I've also probably outed myself a bit from this post, but I'll use a new name as I should have done, before blabbing on here! Hopefully, I won't be too recognisable from this thread (always hopeful...).

Your nieve was quite rude talking to a complete stranger for any reason other than to say sorry or to warn them of an emergency

Haha what a load of crap.

@HelpTheTigers....if it helps Id be pretty annoyed if the book signer defaced my book with something I didnt find funny or particularly nice.
So....go for it!