YANBU @ShirleyPhallus I have no idea how people can sleep together in the same bed all through their marriage. It's so much more comfortable in your own bed (and your own room.) Not only do you not have to tolerate his snoring and grunting, and being prodded throughout the night, but you have your privacy and 'me-time' too. No matter how good your marriage is, you NEED your me-time.
I love going to bed at 10pm ish (some nights) and sitting in my bed in my bedroom, and reading a few chapters of my book, or watching something on netflix, and then going to sleep at 11.30pm ish.
I also agree that sleeping together in the same bed is worse as you get older. And a bigger bed doesn't cut it. There's the sprawling and fidgeting and snoring and coughing and huffing and puffing.
Me and DH have had separate beds since the kids were junior school age, (they're adults now,) and I could never share a bed with him again.
I lost count of the amount of times I would be dozing off to sleep, and he would prod me in the back sharply, or cough loudly, right at the back of my head. And his snoring (when he got past 32-33 y.o.) got unbearable. I regularly used to go sleep on the couch, like 3 or 4 nights a week. (Or I would wake him and demand that HE goes to the couch!)
After 2 or 3 years of spending half my nights on the couch - or booting him out of bed and sending HIM to the couch, I said 'enough is enough, we need to move into a bigger house with a spare bedroom.' It didn't cost much more at the time, like maybe an extra 10%, and we have had separate bedrooms since.
@SleepFreeZone
I couldn’t even share with DP in a super king 😂. He has insomnia and huffs and puffs, throws himself this way and that, has sneezing then sniffing fits. We slept together for a year or two then I said either I get my own room and bed or I think I will leave you (or murder you). So we are now in separate beds and have a very good relationship.
Yeah this. As has been said, even if you have a bigger bed, it makes very little difference, as some men snore VERY loudly. An extra foot of bed space doesn't make a jot of difference.
And I agree with all the posters saying no WAY do I want to try to sleep whilst DH is cuddling me. Ewwww, no. We're not 17 years old, and we're not in a cheesy rom-com! And I need my sleep!