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To think it should be an actual criminal offence to get two adults to share a double bed?

146 replies

ShirleyPhallus · 04/08/2018 08:33

Fuck me a double bed is so fucking small for two adults! A child in a single bed gets more space.

Have spent a hideous night at DM’s in a tiny double but my MIL and grandmother is the same - all have double beds. I’ve been elbowed in the back a number of times and feel like I could fall off the bed at any time. Obviously all these beds have super soft mattresses so you either feel like you’ll fall off the edge or there is some droopy magnetic force pulling you both in to the middle.

How does anyone sleep with their DP in a double? I miss my big bed so much!

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Fletchasaurus · 04/08/2018 08:42

Double for many years, but I freely admit that upgrading to a king was the best idea ever. As it has been so hot we can both sprawl on it without touching, but in the winter burrow up together. Bliss!

MismatchedStripySocks · 04/08/2018 08:42

Listen carefully to my tip......starfish! 😂 You get loads of room then, always works for me.

FruitOnAPlatter · 04/08/2018 08:43

We used to have a king, and I thought it was too big, so we've gone back down to queens, but last night we stayed in a king at a hotel, and I don't remember when I last slept so well (DP is 6'+ and snores, and fidgets, and is a quilt-stealer), so I think next time we need a bed we'll go back up a size.

Doubles are basically impossible, he has to sleep diagonally, which inevitably leads to me being pushed out of bed, and having to get up, go round and get in the other side in the middle of the night as he fidgets closer and closer to me.

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 04/08/2018 08:44

We have a king size too. DP is average height and I am titchy, but just hate being touched while sleeping. DP is frequently banished to the far side of the bed.

OverTheHedgeSammy · 04/08/2018 08:44

I agree with you. I hate being touched when I'm sleeping and in doubles there's too much touching....

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ShirleyPhallus · 04/08/2018 08:46

Listen carefully to my tip......starfish!

Sharing a bed with a starfisher is pure torture that should result by capital punishment

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Neshoma · 04/08/2018 08:50

Yuk, can't stand DH anywhere near me in bed and vice versa. None of us are tall or big. We have a super king and I still have to shout at Dh if he get too close and breathes on me.

Both our faces drop when we go somewhere that has a double bed. It means no sleep, perched on the edge and unable to turn over as you end up face to face touching each other. A romantic weekend for us would be twin beds, or better still, separate rooms.

MargaretCavendish · 04/08/2018 08:51

I think the message of this thread is only to get used to a bigger bed if you can guarantee you'll always be able to have one! We (both tall and not skinny) share our double very comfortably, though I do enjoy the treat of a bigger bed in a nice hotel. For the first six months of our relationship I lived in a room with a single bed and we both used to share it when he stayed over and we managed - but that was nine years ago when we were young, thinner and still in the 'want to constantly touch you' phase then!

ShimmeringIce · 04/08/2018 08:51

We’ve always had doubles, but had super kings exclusively on our (USA) honeymoon. It was the complete opposite of romantic! Felt like I had to shout across to DH!
We’re both tall, and not cuddly sleepers Confused Have got a very good mattress though

sexnotgender · 04/08/2018 08:53

Shared a double bed with my husband with no issues at all. We moved and bought a king size and actually I hate how far away he is.

SuburbanRhonda · 04/08/2018 08:53

DH and I have shared a double for 25 years with no problem.

I really don’t like how much space a big bed takes up in the room!

W0rriedMum · 04/08/2018 08:54

I also hate touching when sleeping and it's certain death if he breaths on me Grin

LRDtheFeministDragon · 04/08/2018 08:55

I'm fine in a double, but I do object to sharing it with a toddler whose preferred mode of waking up is to kick me energetically in the face while simultaneously headbutting her mum in the boobs.

RageyMcRage · 04/08/2018 08:55

I’m (very) pregnant and me and (6’3) DH fit fine in a double bed, we don’t even have to touch! We stayed at my parents’ recently in a small double and were absolutely fine too.

Sweetcarrielynne · 04/08/2018 08:55

We have a double and have never had a problem - I suppose it's just what you're used to!

DeepfriedPizza · 04/08/2018 08:57

I’m 5f9 size 14, DH is 6ft 3 and we manage in a double fine. DD has a double all to herself, she has done since she was 3. Completely unfair

SoyDora · 04/08/2018 08:58

I entirely agree OP. We stayed somewhere with a standard double last weekend and I ended up making myself a bed on the floor!
I’m 5ft 5 and 9 stone (although currently pregnant). DH is 6ft 4 but not particularly wide. I do not want to be snuggled (or touched!) in bed. I don’t want sleeping to be ‘romantic’, I want to sleep.
Currently debating upgrading from a king to a super king.

DumbledoresApprentice · 04/08/2018 08:58

DP isn’t a small man but I’m under 5 foot tall. We’ve had a Kingsize for years and now find sleeping in a double deeply uncomfortable. It’s actually me that takes up the space. I fidget and sleep in odd positions.

SoyDora · 04/08/2018 08:59

We have a huge bedroom so a super king would still leave us loads of space!

FrannySalinger · 04/08/2018 09:00

We have a super king sized bed as I cannot stand people breathing on me while they slept. Fuck off to your own side of the bed a good two feet away from me.

We arrived at our hotel last week to find they'd messed up our booking and given me, dh and (lanky and fidgety) dd6 one room with a double bed instead of a family room with adjoining bedrooms. Horror. I ended up sleeping on the bathroom floor on a pile of towels.

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ShirleyPhallus · 04/08/2018 09:00

I’m wondering also if this is a generational thing cos my parents / grandparents are all fine with doubles. Plus some posters here say they’ve shared for 20+ years with no problems.

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Shinygoldbauble · 04/08/2018 09:01

Shimmer that made me laugh because when DH and i got together we both had single beds and had no trouble sharing one. Ah, the romance.
We have a king size now that we bought when I was pregnant and couldn't face another night in the small double that was in our rented house.

PolkerrisBeach · 04/08/2018 09:03

Totally agree. We have a king size which is therefore what we consider "normal" and when we're in a standard double we feel very cramped.

The very best beds are the American king sized ones which are mahoosive and twice the size of a UK double.

CherryPavlova · 04/08/2018 09:04

Not a generational thing. I can’t do a double anymore but could share a single back in the day. We moved into a super king when the children joined us. A double means no sleep. Sofa bed ‘doubles’ are worse.

Happypuppy · 04/08/2018 09:05

I thought this was going to be about Love Island.

I agree OP, we love our super king size here.