I've just been a complete twat...

[AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley]

I think, anyway! Not sure now! So I'll put it to the MN jury...and I'll happily apologize, because I have the ability to own my shit.

Chatting to a friend about going out tonight (after the week I've had, I bloody deserve it!)

She started on a massive stretch about me claiming PIP to "piss it up the wall", I obviously need the disposible income, etc, etc. It was really bitchy!

She's made catty comments in the past, but tbh I thought that was down to me- I have a weird sense of humor, and take the piss out of myself all the time. But never like this.

She said that, if I was independant enough to go out alone (I'll be meeting a friend, but eill be making my own way) I shouldn't be claiming Personal INDEPENDANCE Payment, and that "I'm what's wrong with the government atm!

I sent her a REALLY sarky text in reply, but it's made me doubt myself!

I need to calm down...

yes, Personal INDEPENDENCE Payment. As in, it's there to help you have the life you want to have, and YOU choose how you spend it.

What a horrible woman.

AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley I don’t mind at all, in fact I’m grateful for your offer! I’ve done DLA forms for my kids before, but never PIP and the whole process terrifies the shite out of me tbh.

I’ll get some forms and take you up on the offer, thank you!

Also, you’re a bloody scream and your former friend is a massive twat. Not only for her crap nasty comment, but because she didn’t realise how bloody funny you are

Andtheres that was on purpose...I see with my hands! 😂

I receive PIP for very good reasons, I also still work part time (from home, seasonally). The struggle some people have with that, One friend did let slip an 'it's all right for some' when she also discovered my mortgage is also paid off due to critical illness insurance.

I'd trade my inevitable early death for a mortgage, full-time job, seeing my family grow up, ability to walk, not being in constant pain etc etc. That 'friend' has been jettisoned. My life is going to be short, no time in it for fuckwits.

Your former friend doesn’t understand “critical illness” do they Storm?

Why why why do people make such utterly ridiculous and offensive comments????

So they're PIPist...

And I'm hoping to get PIPissed tonight!

I know, jealousy of a terminally ill person over their 'luck'. Astonishjng.

Whatever your so-called friend thinks, I think you are awesome. I LOVE your sense of humour - your self-deprecation is brilliant and once you can laugh at yourself, you remove a key weapon from such muppets. OP, you rock. Have a fantastic evening tonight and celebrate your unique qualities

Ah, a self-appointed arbiter of disabilities & people's entitlement to the related benefits.

Such fun, aren't they?

You don't need "friends" like that.

Ive not read the full thread but wanted say ditch the friend. They are no friends. My ds has an iPad for school so he can blow his reading book up to font size 48 and still holds it at his nose. The number of parents that say it’s unfair he gets his own when everyone else only had them for specific lessons is beyond belief.
He’s at the stage where he’d rather take he punishment for not reading than use his iPad, sit out of gym than admit he can’t join in and get sent out of assembly than point his face at the abyss and pretend to join in. I really worry he’ll avoid getting out there. I’m trying to find VI adults to show him that with a little bit of help you can have a full life.
Living with a disability is shit. I don’t do it but I can see how shit it is.
Enjoy your night out.

OP, you sound like my kind of person. I've had a good chuckle at your responses on this thread.

As I think you've worked out, you definitely weren't the twat here!

Flash tell him you've been chatting to someone who's proven that you can be VI and still a sarky twat! And you get into Alton Towers for cheaper! 😁

I get wtc, ctc and cb. I used to get housing benefit as well while me and DP were working 2 jobs each and yet some cunts would still judge us for going out for a drink when my mum has DD.

You go out and enjoy yourself. I've also been sitting giggling away at your jokes.

Come on, enough of all this sympathy, we all know that anyone who claims disability benefits isn't really a human being. IF they're a good little girl or boy and behave in an abjectly subservient, grateful and saintly manner, we'll be able to shake our heads pityingly and say "bless the poor little disableds".

Any other type of behaviour from them instantly transforms them into a benefits-scrounging, lying, cheating MONSTER who is ruing the fabric of society and destroying civilization, and they should be repaying the national debt to make up for their sins.

(I am so hoping that the sarcasm above is blatantly obvious even though you're reading this, not hearing my sarcastic voice)

More seriously: DH used to work for a company making websites accessible for people with sight impairments. He once got into a huge argument with 'friends' who didn't think that Victoria's Secrets online catalogue needed to be made accessible as lacy lingerie isn't a necessity!!

You need your PIP otherwise you would not be receiving it in the current climate.

Your friend was unbelievably tactless and insensitive. I fell out permanently with a friend over something - not the same - but fairly similar because I told her straight, in a polite way but straight nonetheless.

How you proceed with your friend is up to you but be careful, if you don't put her right she might say the same again and you really should not have to bear such hurtful comments.

YABVVU

Don’t you know receiving PIP you need to constantly be upset, bleeding from at least one orifice and have a limp or crutch.

Your “friend” sounds like a total pillock with no concept of how hard it is for others.

I think you were pretty restrained. I’d be tempted to post of picture of myself with a big g&t just to really piss her off.

,Kickass I am mortally offended...

Where on this thread did I EVER claim to be a human being????

😁😁😁😁😁😁

(Ps. Stop fucking justifying yourself. This is my thread. Sarcasm is welcome.💖)

I want more stories of you being a twat. You keep using that word, but I do not think it means what you think it means.

allroads I definitely will tell him. We haven’t used any of the discounts and we tried applying for dla but were turned down.
I think you’ve just inspired me to get on with it. Reapply for dla and use it access all the things he can’t.
See now you are an “inspirational disabled” therefore worthy.

Ooh...what about the time me and DH went to Alton Towers?

There's a huge rock near to a wall. He'd done something which warranted revenge...I can't remember what...

So I put myself in between the wall and the big rock, and I pretended to bump into thr wall, turn around, bump into the rock, rinse and repeat... cue a fuckload of daggers in his direction, because he was just stsnding there (knowing full well what I was up to) because he wasn't helping the poor little blind girl!!!

Every time there's a sale on at MFI, DH reckons he's going to try to get a bargain for me...never any takers though! 😁😁

Omg. So even if you have eyes, PLEASE try the Audio Description feature on DVDs and some TVs???? It is heeefuckinglarious!!!!! "There is a man inside taking a dump" (Zombieland). You eill never need to go out again!!!

On a serious note. Those of you who have issues: do you ever get schooled for not giving your kids a "normal life"? The fact that my 6yo has been used to having to shift his shoes since he was old enough to shift them, and shows me where the bathroom is in the Wacky Warehouse is apparantly child cruelty! Lu killy they have my sense of humor! I was telling DD by text the other day that the neighbors were drilling so I couldn't hear the TV. DD (11) Texted back "well put the subtitles on. Oops!" And a poo emoji.

I can be darker somerimes, too, when I'm in the right environment. I once told a potential date that I used to work in an abbotoir, but because I was vegan and refused to butcher animals, they made me practice kn myself first! (I'm a self-harmer...three years "clean"). I have scars on my arms.

Ps, she wanted a second date, I didn't. She hated PCBH. My standards are low...but a Peisoner-disser??? Deal breaker!

OP your post has really given me the rage!

I had a friend who told me I was lucky as my benefits (PIP included) was more than her bring home wage.

Yep I'm so lucky that I'm no longer earning my salary which was 3 1/2 times her wage. Or lucky that I need support showering which my exdp does several times a week and my dp when he's up. Or when the pain is so bad my teen sons take it in turns sleeping with me so that they can hear me if I need turning or going to the toilet in the night. Or having my sons hold me when I'm unable to weight bare and I have to pull out a tampon or change a pad (sorry TMI but it's the reality). Or if I've been feeling good and have showered alone only to pass out and have my sons then have to help me back up, dry and change. I could go on but you get the idea!

I've been out 3 times this year, which is twice as much as last year so I'm doing well! But it's amazing that we try to have some sort of a so called life, as some assume we should be kept inside never to be seen again! (Actually if I haven't done my hair and make up, it's probably a good idea if I'm inside, I look scary otherwise!).

I have bipolar, hyper mobility syndrome, fibromyalgia, osteoarthritis of the spine and a few other things wrong. I still have my hair dyed, I have hair extensions once a year (combined Birthday and Christmas present off my dad). I have my nails done every few weeks. I still wear my clothes from before I became unwell, so a lot of Karen Millen for example. I love Jo Malone bath products and perfume, so have these as gifts (or when they do the offfers like the lucky dip recently!!). But I have been told on more times than I care to remember, mostly by extended 'family' I don't look like a disabled person. I am still trying to find the disabled persons shop that I should now be purchasing my clothes, toiletries and shoes from. Feel free anyone to let me know where it is!! Some people are just twats. (Jeez that was quite cathartic).

Audio descriptions are brilliant! I use subtitles (I’m not deaf, I struggle with processing verbal communication) and accidentally hit the AD button once. Funny as fuck!