Condoms in online grocery ‘favourites’ - AIBU to think DP is cheating?

[ParanoidOrSunburnt]

I’ve just done our online shop and while browsing ‘favourites’ there was a Durex multipack!m on the list! I recognise all the other products in the favourites list apart from one type of men’s deodorant.

Both were ‘sponsored’ items so maybe I’m being paranoid?! But condoms are an unusual item to try and sell us as we - or should that be I?! - haven’t bought any for a few years!!!

AIBU to think that DP is blatantly cheating?!

I’ve had pork sausages and cows milk come up on my favourites before. For one reason and another there is no way I would ever need to buy either. That’s Tesco too. I honestly wouldn’t be worried about this.
Also the chance of him collecting Tesco points on secret condoms?

I quite often see what my husband has been snacking on during his break in work as they pop up on the favourites bar when I do the shop, if it’s Tesco it shows things bought in store as well as online with club card

Favourites, as said, is things you have previously purchased and linked to either your online account or your Club card.

If something you usually buy (let’s say satsumas) isn’t available, it may show a substitute (oranges) but it will be very clear with a banner saying ‘satsumas are no longer available....how about?’ And what it wouldn’t do is substitute furniture polish (or anything else) for condoms anyway. It would substitute condoms for condoms.

Not at all the same but DH has a bad habit for buying a certain bit of chocolate at lunchtime while claiming he’s being virtuous. I always know he’s had it because it’ll pop up in my favourites; he’s got a clubcard keyfob which links to the same clubcard account we both have. Does your DH/P use a clubcard jointly in the same way?

Perhaps your DH has bought some, used the club card because he has no need to be secretive because he's being prepared just in case the two of you resume relations soon? Perhaps he has a surprise romantic weekend planned?

Or perhaps he wants to have a posh wank. (sorry, that's uncouth isn't it?)

Or Tesco has thrown up a random thing. Bad Tesco.

Or he's cheating and is daft enough to use the club card when buying supplies.

If you don't ask you won't know.

Yes, they come up on my favourites list too and I can guarantee I’ve never bought them! It’s headed “why not try...” so I assume an advert.

I'd be jumping to that conclusion too. Though, maybe he isn't buying them if you dont recognise the deodarant either. My other half often uses our clubcard on his friend's buys when they go Tesco together so it could be that as well.

FFS IT SAYS ‘SPONSORED’ this means it’s an AD. That’s why they point it out.....sigh

Ocado are always suggesting cat litter to me and I don’t worry my husband has a secret cat I don’t know about.

Hmmmm.....have you checked for cat hairs on his clothes? Whiff of flea powder about his person? Get digging areyouactuallykidding

OP I had a pregnancy test in my favourites- haven't bought one since I conceived my son 14 years ago!!

I work for a retailer and on our till we get prompted to ask the customer if they want to buy other things that other customers have bought with that item .sometimes these may be the bracket for a TV , batteries to go with a remote control but usually random stuff comes up ... Pie face when trying to buy a cutlery set or a dart board when trying to get a kitchen roll holder ... It just suggests what other customers have bought ! So maybe you have bought something and other customers who have bought that item has also bought condoms so it's suggesting them to you ?

Defo @ParanoidOrSunburnt! I noticed it and thought it was a bit strange...

I've just checked my Tesco favourites list, and I've got sponsored items coming up. First time I've seen that - so I suspect it's a new feature. The sponsored items are likely to come from an algorithm - i.e. "show this product to people who have bought XYZ" There will be something on your favourites list that suggests to them that you might be interested in condoms, but it doesn't mean anyone has been buying condoms with your CLubcard.

I am the only one who orders. My favourites anything I have ever bought or looked at, never sponsored. Have you got a teenage son, who might have looked at condoms and deodorant, out of curiousity

Yes, we each have a Clubcard on the same account. I do the online shopping but he could use his in store and therefore his purchases would show up in favourites.

I totally get the people saying “it’s sponsored...duh!” but there are other sponsored items on the list, all of which I have bought before (apart from the deodorant which, if he is cheating, he could’ve bought at the same time as the condoms).

I’m reassured by all the people who are saying I am BU, especially the cat litter poster :-)

But also thanks to all the people who are also helping me not feel like even if I AM being unreasonable, I’m NOT being unreasonably suspicious
xx

I always have two “sponsored” items on my tesco favourites that are different every time I log in. It’s an advert that’s why it says sponsored. That’s how shops work these things it’s why if you add lasagne sheets to a basket on the tesco app it springs up with a list of things that people often buy with lasagne sheets.
They do it on your favourites because you might order purely from your favourites and not visit other categories so they have found another way of upselling by adding sponsored items to your list to try and encourage you to buy them.

No one else uses the card or the account.

Hi OP. I rarely use the app and can say for absolute certain I'm the only one using it and i've never bought this item. The fact it says sponsored tells me it's just an advert. Tesco are just hoping you will pop it in your basket as its a branded item.

I appreciate that your current situation has made you conclude this I might think so too in your shoes. You need to talk to your partner about how you are feeling xx

I’m loving the idea of a bloke sneaking around having an affair, buying condoms on the sly, but making sure he didn’t lose out on his club card points when buying his condoms.

There will be something on your favourites list that suggests to them that you might be interested in condoms

Chocolateworshipper - I’ve been buying baby items! Maybe it’s the Hand of God Tesco telling me to be more careful next time!

That is quite a long time to go without sex. Sorry, I know that is a bit unhelpful but maybe your spidey-senses are onto something.

On the other hand, why would someone who was cheating buy condoms with their grocery order when it would be much easier and less risky just to walk into a shop?

ask him about the mens deoderant

“tesco has put mens deoderant by Dove in my favourites, weird cause I’ve never bought that online! have you bought that instore?”

if he has, then id be doing some snooping.

On the other hand, why would someone who was cheating buy condoms with their grocery order when it would be much easier and less risky just to walk into a shop?

The implication is that he's been into Tesco and bought condoms with other purchases, but used his Tesco card to get points.

Tbh if I were buying condoms, that's how I'd do it.

Is he a trustworthy man, OP?

These are on my favourites list as sponsored too!! My dog doesn't have access to a club card and he has had the snip, so I'm thinking it is fine! Bizarrely it is the only sponsored thing on my list too - Tesco troublemakers!

Dh, not dog