Is it appropriate to wear a very very low cut wedding dress?

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A friend has posted photos of a wedding she went to yesterday. When I saw photos of the bride I actually felt quite shocked.

Her wedding dress was so low cut you could actually see part of her nipples. She was bursting out of the dress and it looked about 3 sizes too small.

It was a church wedding and I feel it was really inappropriate to wear such a dress. A non church wedding would not have been so bad although the dress would still have looked tacky

Loz222 A vicar said it wasn’t appropriate to wear a veil over your face?

Sounds like he needed to brush up on his theology.

If a vicar or priest said that to me, I would look them straight in the eye and ask them if they wanted me to take it off. Absolutely no need to shame a bride and make her feel like crap as she’s about to walk down the aisle.

DH is clergy, has seen some right frocky horrors but always makes a point of telling every bride how lovely she looks. Because what’s to be achieved by saying otherwise? Although if we are going to be scrupulous here, lying is a sin.

Anyway, nips out or acres of heaving cleavage inappropriate at any formal family occasion and definitely in church.

Okay, even though you can see nipples, I admit I would go to this wedding too!

Hey MNHQ, sorry, don't know where you draw the line, did I just violate any posting codes of practice? Seriously - don't mean to cause a problem! I will try to find the rules now!

Still curious - why are breasts with or without nipples showing so taboo?
Are they sexual? and if so, in whose eyes?
There was a time when women not wearing a hat in church was frowned upon. We no longer think that.
Did God change, did the reverence in church change, or did mankind change?
I can also remember being told that rock music in church was sinful.

I really can't help but think the expected reverence is man-made.

Speaking as someone who chose to wear a slutty outfit on her wedding day (not church one mind) it may not be appropriate however I didn’t realise it was slutty till years later. I wish I had something more demure but I was young and didn’t know any better.

Temper the clothing to the occasion and venue just as you would a mosque, catholic church or synagogue. Wouldn't it be rude to wear clothes in a nudist church?

(Equal opportunity nipples! Hers then his! )

I think we're all guilty of some fashion faux pas when we were young (and still today!). You might expect a bride to get good advice, but at the same time, if someone's hell-bent on a certain look, or certain type of wedding (fancy theme, weird accessories etc) - then it's hard to change their mind.

Hindsight's a wonderful thing!

Not appropriate. Bride choosing to wed in church is going for tradition and religion and should therefor have given respect to both and worn something less revealing
think what it will be like in a few years when looking at the photos. Bride's choice, but sounds as if a bit of an exhibitionist.

Just because someone asks for an opinion after giving theirs, it doesn’t mean they’re complaining about it ffs. And yes, I think it’s tacky. But then again there aren’t many people with class these days...

Bride choosing to wed in church is going for tradition and religion

Are they though?
I think many couples are going for a picturesque environment and have to suffer the religious part in order to get the lovely venue.
I really don't think many are going for the religion - but I could be wrong. Maybe there is some latent feeling that they want to be blessed by God?

Well1

I am very very anti-religion.

However, I still have respect.

The dress sounds grossly inappropriate.

Well,personally,and im not particularly religious,but I wouldent,It degrades the whole meaning of the marriage,There is a time and a place for hanging your boobs out,and a marriage isnt one of them,Its upsetting for the older people as well,what was she trying to prove? Then you have to explain why to your children and Grandchildren.Tacky !

I agree with that. But I was talking to a friend recently about the blatant way people attend church two years ahead of primary admissions, just to secure a place, and she pointed out that it's actually excellent outreach. Some will stay, and so will their kids. So in that sense, even if the tradition and the venue and the sense it's vaguely more meaningful is the draw, some will end up attending afterwards, especially if they have a preparation for marriage course involved. So it's maybe not the imposition people assume? It does get people through the doors.

But then again there aren’t many people with class these days...

'Cause everybody hates a tourist, commonpeoplelikeme. ;)

Sorry, that was to Torn. Several posts since.

I think the outreach is a total misnomer and it's a church's get-out clause.
Yes, it might attract a certain percentage who opt to keep attending, but it's a hell of a compromise to actively take part in the mass deception of school admission. The church schools know it, the churches know it, the regular congregation know it. It's an awful sham (imo).

To me 'outreach' is a church actively reaching out, not letting itself be taken for a ride in the hope that one of the 'users' stays.

Problem is - how does a church ever really know the motives? I guess it has to give everybody the benefit of the doubt and see how it goes?

But back on topic - I think there's a world of difference between a bride 'hanging her boobs out' and 'her boobs were very visible'. The difference is in the intent the bride had, and nobody here knows that. I really don't believe many brides want to show off their tits. I think they WANT to look beautiful.
They might make a mistake in getting that right, but I don't think they set out to be disrespectful or overtly sexual.

www.mirror.co.uk/3am/style/woman-shocked-brides-inappropriate-tacky-13005090

Oh ffs. Without even a pic of the dress in question, it genuinely isn't a story. Even by Mirror 3am standards. For fuck's sake. I know it's silly season, but 'woman posts on the internet complaining about a dress nobody else has seen' is NOT A STORY.

A cynic might be forgiven for believing a story is planted in order to publish it!

SchadenfreudePersonified I wouldn't really bring up other places where you have to cover your head, as you, as a woman presumably, wouldn't be allowed behind to go behind the altar even to clean let alone be a vicar.

Not a fan of the look, but boobage isn't the main issue in a church.

Someone thinking that and simultaneously claiming to be a Christian has one massive plank in their eye

I'm just as entitled to my opinions as the next narrow-minded, cat'sbum-mouthed moralist.

Oops!

Meant to add a , but the dogs were playing and knocked my arm.

A cynic might be forgiven for believing a story is planted in order to publish it!

No, if that were the case they'd mock up a booby bridal picture, using a very generic-looking model, and then they could publish it. Or at least come up with a better story. Mumsnetter outraged by low cut wedding dress that we can't even see? That's too lame, even by 3am standards.

I'm wondering if the odd nipple's ok at a funeral?