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AIBU?

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Neighbour's toddler waking entire street up

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Myheadhurtsintheheat · 27/07/2018 09:04

I've NC'd for this as it might be outing.

Our NDN has an 22-month-old DC who doesn't talk much but squawks like a parrot at top volume. I swear this is no exaggeration - it's the most bizarre noise. From what we can tell, toddler's parents never encourage him not to make the noise - they just let him squawk. I think they're from the "be expressive" school of thought.

My AIBU is that they're bringing him out into their back garden at 6.30am when he's up and he's squawking everyone awake, including my DC, whose room is at the back too. I get that it's very hot and really hard for kids to sleep at the moment, but isn't it incredibly selfish to inflict that noise on everyone else if you're not going to try to teach the child to moderate it when appropriate? Or am I just being a grumpy old moaner?

And if INBU, should I say something?

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BumpInTheOven · 27/07/2018 09:52

*requests for feeds

backinthatdress · 27/07/2018 09:53

The OP has already said the parent is outside with him playing.

There not just putting him in the garden and leaving him with the door shut so they cant hear it.

YourHandInMyHand · 27/07/2018 09:53

Noisily playing in the garden at 6:30am is just plain selfish and inconsiderate.

Yes lots of toddlers are waking up super early at the moment, and yes it gets hotter in the garden later in the day, but 6:30 is not the time to be making a racket in the garden. Not unless you actively want everyone on your block to hate you.

I'd personally either knock and have a word, or pop a note through, depending on how well I knew the parents, politely asking if they can not play in the garden quite so early as it's affecting your own young children's sleep routines.

swishbish · 27/07/2018 09:53

Yes your right formerbabe that is life... the neighbours life doesn't mean it's the whole streets life at 6.30 am!!!!!!!

formerbabe · 27/07/2018 09:53

Because the rights of fully functioning adults trump those of toddlers

Not in my world.

rainbowsandfeathers · 27/07/2018 09:53

This could be a post by me we have one at the back of our house and it's unbearable at 6.30 every morning, totally feel your pain

MarthasGinYard · 27/07/2018 09:54

Really there are some selfish parents out there. That would drive me mad.

Maliali · 27/07/2018 09:56

formerbabe the weather is hot and children make noise. 6.30 am is too early to inflict that racket on all your neighbours. It just is.

rainbowstardrops · 27/07/2018 09:56

Everyone on here except formerbabe agreed that 6.30 am is far too early to let children make loads of noise outside.
It's downright inconsiderate and selfish.
I'd hate to be your neighbour if you think it's ok formerbabe

Gileswithachainsaw · 27/07/2018 09:56

former

No harm will come to said child if parents try and shut them up.

However all those people who worked late or pulled a double shift or worked 2 jobs etc have a right to not be woken up by unnecessary noise.

If they can't find a way to keep him quiet then they can at least keep him inside.

Try a cool bath or something

backinthatdress · 27/07/2018 09:57

Because the rights of fully functioning adults trump those of toddlers

Not in my world either!

mostdays · 27/07/2018 10:00

Because the rights of fully functioning adults trump those of toddlers
What a load of shite.

formerbabe · 27/07/2018 10:00

Hmmm, well as far as I know, the law agrees with me...

backinthatdress · 27/07/2018 10:01

6.30am is to early but just because someone may work nights a few doors up or be pulling double shifts doesnt mean they have to keep there child in.

once its a reasonable time such as 8am then there is no problem with him being in the garden.

no one knows if they child can help the squaking noise. Not all children can learn to be quiet or will engage in a book!

toastfiend · 27/07/2018 10:02

OP, do you live next door to my neighbours? They've been letting their kids, including screeching toddler, out into the garden at 6am since it's been hot. I really do understand that kids are struggling to sleep in this and I'm trying to grit my teeth and rise above it as I'm sure we do stuff that annoys them. But God it's irritating! Especially when the older one just repeats the same sentence over and over again at top volume!

Come to think of it, they've been quieter the past couple of mornings, wonder if someone else has said something to them? You have my sympathies though, I understand that kids can be noisy and we can't all expect peace and quiet at all times, but I really feel that 6-6.30am is far too early and very unfair on those who live nearby.

formerbabe · 27/07/2018 10:03

It's a baby making baby noises...like I said, what does the law say?

CurlyhairedAssassin · 27/07/2018 10:04

I’d be a wimp and put an anonymous note through the door asking them to keep him inside until it’s a more reasonable hour. They might not realise it’s waking people up.

Either that or mention it in conversation in a jokey way when you see her and the baby “ooh I don’t think any of us need an alarm in the morning with the voice on you, do we, baby?” when he starts doing it in front of you. You can gauge her reaction. She might be mortified thatsveryone has been woken up.

One thought though. Making odd loud noises are often a sign of special needs. My autistic cousin did this. His poor parents went through hell as he woke up at 4.30 each morning for the day and was hyper For the rest of the day. Maybe your neighbour has already been up with him 2 hours and just wants a change of scene, and while she knows the neighbours may be disturbed, she might be understandably at the end of her tether and beyond caring about such niceties.

Dieu · 27/07/2018 10:05

What a pain in the arse!
YADNBU.

Seasawride · 27/07/2018 10:05

Oh no that’s not on. Far too early. I would have knocked the door and complained.

Hereshopingforimprovement · 27/07/2018 10:06

Fgs this is a toddler child, not a rave or noisy building works. Yabvu.

FuckKnuckle · 27/07/2018 10:07

YANBU. I don't have a problem with children making childish noises, but 6.30 in the morning in the garden is wayyyyyy too early. I would have a quiet friendly word and ask them if they could keep the noise indoors - even if they only managed an hour, there's a world of difference between 6.30 and 7.30.

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Myheadhurtsintheheat · 27/07/2018 10:08

To be clear, the child is always supervised. My DC looked out of the window when he was rudely awoken and saw the mum with him.

It's not a helpless baby formerbabe. It's a toddler that's waking my kids up at silly o'clock.

I'm sure they'd be quick to complain if I let my kids scream the garden down late into the evening. Which I don't, because I have consideration for my neighbours.

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AfterSchoolWorry · 27/07/2018 10:10

I'd second the possibility of additional needs. It's quite common in babies and toddlers with additional needs, before they can speak.

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Myheadhurtsintheheat · 27/07/2018 10:10

I did wonder that CurlyhairedAssassin. Which is why I'm treading carefully.

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Myheadhurtsintheheat · 27/07/2018 10:11

It's just started raining here. Hopefully the downturn in weather will mean the rude awakenings stop!

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