Sex shop wouldn't sell me vibrator.

[CarlottaAlotta]

NC for this as slightly embarrassing...

Went in to a well known sex shop to buy a vibrator. I'm 27 weeks pregnant and wanted to buy one of the wands. I took it to the till and the woman at the front stated that these vibrators weren't safe for use in pregnancy and wasn't happy selling it to me. Told me it can cause preterm labour. She then pointed me in the direction of something entirely different and said this would be safer as the vibrations are less and it is internal.

I have spoken to my midwife since who has told me it's absolutely fine to use a vibrator. I have no issues with my cervix, no concerns about preterm labour etc. She told me it is actually more dangerous to use a dildo as it can introduce bacteria, which is what the lady in the shop told me to buy instead! Told me that pre term labour CAN be caused by orgasm but only if you have other underlying issues which I do not.

AIBU to go back and ask them to sell it to me? Going on holiday tomorrow morning and really wanted to take it with. Not the end of the world if I can't but would've been nice...

Who the fuck asks a midwife if its safe to use a vibrator??!!
Fucking hell
whats wrong with your hands

I've read in cosmopolitan, that some people use a tap of running water to pleasure themselves if they have no toys.

But it occurred to me that you need to be quite flexible and you're pregnant so it would be hard.

Cosmo has some crazy tips sometimes.

Everyone please go on Amazon and read the reviews for the body wand very funny

I actually got told not to orgasm during pregnancy due to placenta previa. It started with the Dr saying no sex, then she said nothing in the vagina and eventually, after me asking lots of coy questions, it turned out that I wasn’t meant to orgasm in any way, shape or form. Why she didn’t just say that in the first place is beyond me!

Well to me no sex would be obvious enough tbh. What did you want her to say?

Pinkheart I was wondering the same thing!

She was just a bit ambiguous about it, sort of said it in passing. It also wasn’t in the UK so I needed a bit of clarification given the risks involved (and I also didn’t want to miss out unnecessarily!). To me, no sex would mean no PIV, not no orgasms at all whatsoever for the duration.

Id have been scared of sounding sex starved.....surely no sex means no action towards you. Just blowjobs for 9Mths then dont think so

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Well to me no sex would be obvious enough tbh. What did you want her to say?

I'd hope a female doctor would have an idea of how rare it is for women to orgasm from PIV sex, actually. And to realise how ineffective the advice would be if what she actually wanted the poster to do is refrain from orgasming...

I am pregnant and have used this Vibrator for years, used it on my last pregnant too. It’s ace!

I’m just impressed you can reach! Anything past 6 months and it was a struggle to wipe myself after a wee nevermind anything fun

That's why you need a wand if you can't reach well with your fingers when heavily pregnant...

Dixie are women that thick really?
Should she have said no sex, that means no dick in your vagina but also no oral no fingers anything? Who actually talks like that except with friends when drunk?

Wow a road trip at 27 weeks pregnant?
After a vibrator?
Partner in the armed forces?!

Just go somewhere else and say it’s a hen party joke present for the bride.

Dixie are women that thick really?
Should she have said no sex, that means no dick in your vagina but also no oral no fingers anything? Who actually talks like that except with friends when drunk?

I’d hope most grown women are able to discuss their sex life factually with a medical professional if it was warranted.

Saying ‘no sex’ is completely different to saying ‘no orgasms’. None of those are dirty words. If the medical professional wanted to be understood they should use plain language.

Surely it makes them a bit thick if they cannot verbalise what they actually mean?

@MonumentVal Even with, ahem, battery powered assistance, my hobbity arms couldn’t reach/angle anything as bump was pretty massive, thankfully DH was more than willing to oblige (although not helpful when he was at work pffft)

Good for you OP. But I’d never in a million years have had that conversation with my midwives!

Hang on a minute, being pregnant is a protected characteristic under the 2010 Equality Act. Go back in and tell 'em you'll sue 'em if they don't sell you that vibrator right now!

My friend offered to lend me a dildo once. I just wanted to share that. I said no thanks in case anyone's wondering. Whatever you do OP, don't borrow one.

My friend offered to lend me a dildo once. I just wanted to share that. I said no thanks in case anyone's wondering. Whatever you do OP, don't borrow one.

"Aibu for thinking my friend should have accepted my dildo?"

I saw a lesbian comedian on Netflix recently who joked about the "new chick, new dick" rule.

I've just bought a 'body wand massager' for my very painful back, it's debilitating actually but there's no way my husband will believe that I've bought it for innocent reasons is there? this thread is funny as hell.

CreepyPasta

Sweep...as in chimney? The mind boggles 😂😂