There are two men from my past where it felt like from the second I laid eyes on them it was inevitable we’d be together. Even now, years and years later I can remember the intensity of the way I felt about them without even having talked to them.
It wasn’t lust, it was more than that, something deeper. When I think back to how I felt when I first saw them I have absolutely no recollection of whether I had feelings of fancying them or not, the possible lust or attraction wasn’t a feature at all, I don’t even know if it was there, but there was just something, some kind of connection where I just knew they were going to have a huge impact on my life and that we were going to come together to form something special.
Do I believe I loved them at first sight? Maybe. Maybe those intense and immediate feelings I experienced when I first saw them were love, maybe they weren’t, but I do believe you can meet someone and immediately know that something magical is going to happen and that it was always destined to happen.
However, they are both now Ex-boyfriends.
I’m married now to a man who I didn’t have intense feelings about when I met him and I definitely didn’t fancy him. Meeting him was nothing like the two experiences I’ve written about above, it all seemed quite boring really, but we ended up married, we have two children, he’s an absolutely wonderful man, he makes me so happy and I am so unbelievably lucky to have met him.
So even if love at first sight do exist that doesn’t mean it’s right.
And just because love at first sight doesn’t happen, it doesn’t mean that the relationship still can’t turn out to be amazing.