Older man on holiday

[lplo]

Currently on holiday in Spain. (All inclusive)

Just venting and wondering if you would be annoyed to.

There's an older man with his family he must be around 80 years old. He likes to sit and stare at people but seems very bitter and concerned with others.

Situation 1- dp asked me at dinner if I would go get him some more potatoes, older man was watching and as I sat back down he turned to his daughter and clicked his fingers to his daughter ( to say oh she's under the thumb), he was sitting beside us just staring so I glared at him. Dp does loads for me so why would I not.

Situation 2- dd aged 3 was running towards the pool so I got up and followed her. Older man moved a chair to sit and watch people playing table tennis and I stood on an empty plastic cup he owned which had been under the chair. I was occupied by reaching my daughter so walked in and when I got her and looked back he passive aggressively picked up his own cup and put it in the bin whilst tutting at me.

He's really pissing me off

Ignore. Don't let him ruin your holiday.

Just ignore him. Don’t look to see what he is doing.

With the best will in the world, I think you are making a mountain out of a molehill.................

I don’t get your examples. He clicked his fingers? How does that mean ‘under the thumb’? He put his own cup in the bin? How is that passive aggressive?

I'm full of anxiety so he's making me paranoid.

Forget him, don't sit anywhere near him or watch him looking at people, enjoy your holiday.

I won't lie my first thought when you said that your DH asked you to get him more potatoes was "what are you his servant"?

I'd be tempted to look him in the eye and give a cheery grin

You seem to be reading too much into things. Just... step away. Calm down and live your life.

Where were the potatoes? Why didn't your husband go and get them himself?

As for the man, just ignore him.

Well you do sound paranoid but I don’t think it’s anything this man is doing
Try not to let him ruin your holiday, he sounds mildly irritating at best

Dp was trying to get my daughter to eat as she was sitting beside him so asked me if I'd grab them for him.

Not the point I know but didn't your husband get his own potatoes?

And as for the rest of it? I wouldn't even have noticed never mind being bothered about it. You must be watching him as much as you think he is watching you!

Just smile and wave at him Iplo. Smile and wave.

I ask DH to get me stuff like in that situation. He's not my servant.

OP try your best to ignore him.

Dp was trying to get my daughter to eat as she was sitting beside him so asked me if I'd grab them for him.

Fair enough

Or you stood on his cup he has forgotten about so he picked it up and put it in the bin.

Just chill out.

It's your anxiety that's spoiling your holiday. Are you getting any treatment for it?

I find it so weird that people are commenting asking why OP's husband didn't get his own potatoes.
Don't you want to do anything nice / a favour for your partner? Really strange.

Anyway OP, yes just ignore the man.

He didn't just pick his cup up he stormed behind me, glared at me and tutted whilst grabbing the cup and putting it in the bin.

I find it so weird that people are commenting asking why OP's husband didn't get his own potatoes.
Don't you want to do anything nice / a favour for your partner? Really strange

No, no it isn't that, it's the fact that he's asked her to get them, rather than her offering to get them, but her explanation makes sense for why :p

Neither thing sounds bad here at all. Also his age is completely and utterly irrelevant to the story.

Sorry, I can't get past the potatoes.

Ignore the grumpy old git.

I find it so weird that people are commenting asking why OP's husband didn't get his own potatoes

It's MN. Lots of bees in bonnets about the little woman being put on.