Older man on holiday

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Currently on holiday in Spain. (All inclusive)

Just venting and wondering if you would be annoyed to.

There's an older man with his family he must be around 80 years old. He likes to sit and stare at people but seems very bitter and concerned with others.

Situation 1- dp asked me at dinner if I would go get him some more potatoes, older man was watching and as I sat back down he turned to his daughter and clicked his fingers to his daughter ( to say oh she's under the thumb), he was sitting beside us just staring so I glared at him. Dp does loads for me so why would I not.

Situation 2- dd aged 3 was running towards the pool so I got up and followed her. Older man moved a chair to sit and watch people playing table tennis and I stood on an empty plastic cup he owned which had been under the chair. I was occupied by reaching my daughter so walked in and when I got her and looked back he passive aggressively picked up his own cup and put it in the bin whilst tutting at me.

He's really pissing me off

I experience this quite a lot on my travels.

I would say, pretend he is not there, go confidently and happily about your business, don’t make any eye contact, behave as though he is completely invisible to you.

I have watched other people doing this successfully and now copy them myself.

The man in question will be frustrated not to elicit any response in you!
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I didn't see the cup and was too busy worrying about my child to apologise as I wasn't thinking

In those circumstance I don’t think it was unreasonable for him to have tutted at you. I think I would have too. 🤔. I would think you rude not to have bothered apologised.

I don’t get what relevance the fact he is an older man is? It’s agiest.

I think your anxiety is getting the better of you.

I really don't understand what you're getting worked up about, let alone going to the trouble of posting about it. Just ignore him. He's just someone on the same holiday as you.

OP you really are being VU.

You are making a mountain out of, well, nothing actually. People on holiday are watching other people and making comments - hardly a shocker is it?

Maybe you should see someone about your anxiety when you get home?

Maybe he wasn't tutting you about the cup at all, maybe it's because you had to run like a mad, cup destroying woman, in order to catch up to your 3 year old in time. Maybe he thinks you should have had a closer eye on her around the pool. Can you tell I have a tendency to overthink things too

I actually find the clicking and under the thumb comment amusing and I would laugh it off if it was directed at me

You have mentioned op that he is studying others also.

Stop staring at him. Problem solved. He's probably getting really weirded out by it. And could people please stop calling an elderly man an 'old git'. It's so rude and disrespectful.