Older man on holiday

[lplo]

Currently on holiday in Spain. (All inclusive)

Just venting and wondering if you would be annoyed to.

There's an older man with his family he must be around 80 years old. He likes to sit and stare at people but seems very bitter and concerned with others.

Situation 1- dp asked me at dinner if I would go get him some more potatoes, older man was watching and as I sat back down he turned to his daughter and clicked his fingers to his daughter ( to say oh she's under the thumb), he was sitting beside us just staring so I glared at him. Dp does loads for me so why would I not.

Situation 2- dd aged 3 was running towards the pool so I got up and followed her. Older man moved a chair to sit and watch people playing table tennis and I stood on an empty plastic cup he owned which had been under the chair. I was occupied by reaching my daughter so walked in and when I got her and looked back he passive aggressively picked up his own cup and put it in the bin whilst tutting at me.

He's really pissing me off

Fgs stop looking at him.

Ignore him and have fun!

Iplo. Just enjoy your holiday with your partner and daughter and try not to bother about what other people are doing.

Between your all inclusive and the other thread about all inclusive OP's husband wasting milk,

Oh I saw the wasting milk and didn't realize that was the same OP.

FGS OP you really do get worked up about little things don't you? Stop bitching on MN and get on with enjoying your holiday instead.

Shove the fecker into the pool.

Crikey you're massively over thinking this. Why are you letting a complete stranger impact you like this?

Jane

He’s 80! Tempting as thst May be so we want the ops next post to be ‘banged up abroad’

I do know what you mean OP. Some people get off on being nasty 'under the radar' so to speak. Especially men, it seems. Singing 'meaningful' songs under their breath, or belching, coughing, snorting or performing some other act of phlegm clearance loudly, in your vicinity. Little hand gestures. Sure it could be innocent - but if your instincts tell you otherwise, I'd trust 'em.

This old feller is probably feeling a bit bored and powerless. I'd take it as a kind of backhanded compliment that he sees you having a lovely time with your family and has perhaps decided to bring you down a peg or two, as he sees it.

And there's absolutely nothing wrong with your DP asking you to get him some spuds, as you might ask him one night! It's rather sweet and all too rare. I can see this would inflame a man whose wife would think he had a screw loose for even daring to ask.

Give the old git the shock of his life by passing some chatty remark to him. Anything, as inane as you like, about the weather, the food or the hotel etc. He'll be so shocked at someone being pleasant to him he'll pick on someone else to stealth-bully.

Get off your phone and go and enjoy your holiday
He's an old man, ignore him

You sound very weird, I'm not surprised people are staring at you (even if it is only in your head)

Not sure it was the same OP 5foot

Think I worded it really badly 😩

Fuck him. Metaphorically.

Love how much hate he's getting despite doing nothing wrong here!

I hate this
A family member of mine has Alzheimer's and this could easily be a description of him. He does lots of huffing and puffing, his brain is very confused.

I dont think you are entitled to behave as you wish because you are old.

OP are you bored.....I get very bored and lonely on holiday.

You get upset very easily. I wouldn't blink at those behaviours from someone.

How about you train yourself to give fewer fucks what randoms think?

Nobody is excusing him because he's old, petrol. It's because he doesn't seem to have done anything remotely untoward.
He's probably wondering why the hell op is constantly staring at him...

No actually I wasn't the op who wrote about a husband wasting milk.

I know it is easy to say, but please direct your thoughts and energy towards enjoying your holiday, surroundings and family. Try to look for the positives in things. If the man seems weird or grumpy, just let it wash over you and try not to let him impact you in any way. Feel sorry for him even because he is obviously struggling to enjoy life at his age and is easily irritated. You are so lucky to be in a nice all inclusive resort, so do make the most of it and keep minor irritations in perspective.

Yes thanks duck.

When you get home do you want these monies irritations to be the thing you remember about your holiday?

They are tiny, tiny,tiny things in the scheme of really almost any other things.

Is it possible you might need some help with your anxiety?

"when I got her and looked back he passive aggressively picked up his own cup and put it in the bin whilst tutting at me."

How loud was the guy tutting for you to have heard it?!