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To complain about TA comment

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dungandbother · 19/07/2018 13:42

Dd was told off by a (strict) TA to untuck her PE T-shirt because it didn't look right.

I am outraged that she would comment on the appearance of a child and how they choose to wear their PE kit.
Yr 6 if it matters.

DD always tucks her shirt in because she doesn't like the feel of the waistband on her skin - no matter which uniform she's wearing.

Should I write and complain ?

OP posts:
likeacrow · 20/07/2018 08:09

It's not worthy of a complaint, no. YABU.

kaytee87 · 20/07/2018 08:21

At first you said the TA said 'it' didn't look right, then it was that your daughter didn't look right and now it's that it looked stupid.

Honestly op this is not complaint worthy. The TA might be a bit of an arse, who cares she didn't bully your daughter.

When I was at school I wouldn't have even thought to mention this to my parents. We are definitely raising a generation of snow flakes I'm afraid.

SoupDragon · 20/07/2018 08:40

I haven't deviated at all.

Yes you have

  1. ... because it didn't look right.
  2. ... because you don't look right.
  3. ...Untuck your shirt that looks stupid

Anyway, this is ridiculous.

SoupDragon · 20/07/2018 08:42

Darling child didn't omit any details. Darling child didn't embellish any details.

How can you possibly know that? Were you there?

PoptartPoptart · 20/07/2018 08:59

Please send in a letter of complaint op.
I’m sure the staff could all do with a good laugh in the staff room at the end of term,
It will also probably come up at the staff end of year drinks.
Go on, give them some entertainment Grin

QueenoftheSilverDollar12 · 20/07/2018 09:23

Has anybody else picked up on the fact the OP works in a school ponders as to what rôle OP has.....

rainbowsandsmiles · 20/07/2018 09:33

Oh, good grief. I'm going to assume it's nearly summer holidays on MN and people are going daft with the heat.
If real, you are being absolutely ridiculous. In fact, channels inner oey from Friends you are so far beyond ridiculous, ridiculous is a dot to you Grin
You couldn't pay me enough to be a teacher now if this is the kind of utter drivel they have to put up with.
Are they still allowed to look at kids now? What about a Paddington Bear stare? Or would that be too traumatizey?!

rainbowsandsmiles · 20/07/2018 09:40

Simply- my DD was singled out and shouted at by a TA.
She didn't break any rules.

"Untuck your shirt that looks stupid"

Hang on, wohhh back. Most of MN - YABVU, give your head a wobble and get a grip.
So now you've gone from "told off" and to "untuck her shirt" to "stupid and shouted at".
What next? Are you going to tell us next that she got her in a headlock and chucked her into the chokey Matilda style?! Grin

Booie09 · 20/07/2018 09:43

Before to long the only ones able to speak to the children and tell them to tuck/untuck themselves will be the teachers everyone else will have to get written consent from the parents!! I would love for some parents to work in a school for a week and see how teachers/la/dinner staff are spoken! It's always my child has done nothing wrong!! Thank Fuck it's half term...

VickyEadie · 20/07/2018 09:47

I've asked the OP twice now what it is she wants to happen as a result of her complaint, should she go ahead and make it.

Mommasoph30 · 20/07/2018 10:36

get a a grip

Caribbeanyesplease · 20/07/2018 17:29

Very poor example you’re setting your daughter. To get highly strung angry and pissed off about something astonishingly trivial.

Jojofjo44 · 20/07/2018 17:31

Have a Snickers I don't think that you are yourself today.

pollymere · 20/07/2018 17:33

I've done that to a child. Usually it's because it's causing something embarrassing, like the shorts riding up or similar. She was probably sparing blushes tbh. If you want to embarrass your child further, then by all means complain, then the TA can tell you so you can mortify your dd.

Katherine2626 · 20/07/2018 17:35

This is why a lot of people give up working in schools. Is this really a big issue that needs a complaint? Recently a teacher at the school I work in was out on a trip, and at lunchtime a child stood up and knocked into her as she was drinking a carton of juice. About half a spoonful went on his polo shirt and she wiped it off with a wet wipe. Mum came in the next day full of outrage and said he had been humiliated and she wanted the teacher to apologise. I really do fear for the future of children with mothers like that - they are never, ever going to be able to cope with the world and the knocks that life hands out to us all.

Teen13nightmare · 20/07/2018 17:37

Oh, my you wait till secondary school, that's a challenging time very strict and very stressful times ahead. Don't complain it's not worth the trouble. Just tell your daughter it's not important and prep her ready for a whole new school. The rules will be very strict at the new school so prep yourself for stressful nights and tons of homework.. enjoy your holidays.

Lizzie48 · 20/07/2018 17:37

I somehow don't think the OP will be coming back to this thread. Grin

Twinkle7 · 20/07/2018 17:37

Errrmmm, whaty what now?? Honestly, chill out!! You're going to make yourself look very silly. No doubt dd replayed the dastardly scene to you!! Do you not think this has been exagerated and you are adding to it!!

Highfever · 20/07/2018 17:39

Remind them of sensory issues

Pengggwn · 20/07/2018 17:40

Recently a teacher at the school I work in was out on a trip, and at lunchtime a child stood up and knocked into her as she was drinking a carton of juice. About half a spoonful went on his polo shirt and she wiped it off with a wet wipe. Mum came in the next day full of outrage and said he had been humiliated and she wanted the teacher to apologise.

Surely the teacher didn't? Honestly, hell would freeze over before I apologised for nothing at the insistence of a lunatic parent. I would just say no.

Cardiganqueen71 · 20/07/2018 17:40

Parents like you are the reason there is no discipline in schools any more. Undermining teachers and not supporting them when your little darling complains about them. I assume you never bother to discipline your DD either??

urkidding · 20/07/2018 17:41

Maybe you should speak to the TA about what the rules are, as a conversation (not as a complaint) when you see her next term?
I understand how you feel as you felt your child was bullied.

viques · 20/07/2018 17:41

I agree, you need to tell someone . does anyone have the emergency phone number for the Fashion Police...........

Isawthelight · 20/07/2018 17:43

Your DD won't last 2 minutes in her new 'strict' high school.

Boulty · 20/07/2018 17:46

Targeted…. bullied....

wow just wow

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