to pay the nanny less when she brings her own kid with her

[beclev24]

Genuinely unsure- am about to employ a nanny for my baby. Round here rates for a nanny share are 13 per hour, or 20 for one on one. The nanny I've interviewed has told me that she wants to bring her son with her sometimes when he has a day off preschool. I think I should pay less on those days (not the share rate but in between the two rates) but she is adamant it should be the same. Not sure if it makes a difference, but she charges more for the hour if one of my other kids is home (28). AIBU to think I should pay a lower rate when her kid is there? She says my baby will benefit from having another kid around but he already has 2 older brothers and I really want him to have his own time, so not sure this really applies... I am generally a good and generous employer. What do you think?

I wouldn’t employ her tbh, she sounds like a cheeky fuck and if she’s trying to fleece you already then what else is she going to try and pull when she’s actually with you

Hmmm interesting question. Certainly from
a mathematical viewpoint, charging more for 2 children means paying less when she has another child there as well as one of yours. Whether that second child is hers or someone else’s is immaterial really.

But I’m not sure what the done thing is in practice.

TBH being ‘adamant’ makes her sound a bit difficult.

I agree - she sounds cheeky and argumentative. If she'd asked nicely it might be different, but arguing the toss is a bad sign. And if you're paying her and your other child is home, you shouldn't have to pay more, either.

my baby will benefit from having another kid around

Following this logic, she should nanny for 2 families at once and charge you each the full rate! Because they’ll benefit! She’s doing you a favour!
I’m neither pro- nor anti-nanny BTW, I’m just trying her arguments on for size here.

Why do you think you should pay less?

Id keep looking

Nannies should charge per a family not per a child. Also NWOC (nanny with own child) usually have a 1/3 drop in price. At least that was what I was advised when I was looking at taking ds with me.

I wouldn’t employ her either. Usually nannies are paid a set rate so it seems unusual to be charging more for when you second child is home. Then to bring her own child with her, especially since preschool is generally term time and school hours only so that is a lot of the time she will have her own child with her. What provision does she have in place for when her child is off sick?

I wouldn't employ her. Already she's getting awkward.

You're paying her £20 an hour to be 100% focused on your child. Her bringing her own child to work is not acceptable. Would your boss be OK about it if you took your child to work?

I'd be looking for another nanny tbh. She can't expect to bring her son without any change to the hourly rate, especially as she would charge you for any other extra children.

Am I being really thick or are you saying she charges you extra when your 28 year old is over?

Soo confused!!

You’re paying her to look after YOUR child. Not to devote part of her time to her own child. IMO if your child is getting half the attention you should pay half the money.

One kid = 20
Two kids = 28, or 14 per kid
Unless one of the kids is hers, in which case you pay the full rate and she “pays” 8 (tax-free)

Can you not agree to one rate
Balance out more if your other child is home or less if she brings her own child. Assuming roughly same number days over the year?

Yes I am! Just realised its what she is charging you! Not the age of the other child!

Please ignore, it's been a long day!

That’s the most expensive Nanny I’ve ever heard of and I had one working one on one for my son in SW London recently!

You should be paying less when she has her child there. She is basically expecting you to pay for her childcare at the expense of your child.

I wouldn’t hire her for her cost, attitude and inflexibility anyway.

I agree I would keep looking.

My nanny brings her child (not every day) but this was agreed and she doesnt charge £20 ph!

And I agree it should be less bringing her own child or you just say no and she has to sort her own childcare
I don’t like the sound of this nanny-these niggles now can you imagine down the track?

It can't be one rule for her and another for you. I'd carry on interviewing. She sounds awkward.

That price is batshit.

£28 per hour?? Really?? Where do you live?

I've never hired a nanny, but shouldn't the first question be how well she gets on with the child and how good she is with him/her and how much he/she likes the nanny?

Once those questions are answered, doesn't that make the rest of it simpler?

Charging per child is batshit, regardless of the price. That’s not usual.

Whether you want to pay her less on those days is up to you. It’s not uncommon. But tbh I’d keep looking for another nanny.

I’ve never heard of a nanny charging that much extra for care of an additional sibling (specialists in care of twin babies do tend to charge extra, but that’s a special case). Very cheeky.

And yes, NWOC normally charge a discounted rate. Not a 50% discount, and still above minimum wage of course, but enough to reflect the fact that your own children’s needs will not be the only priority.

Hang on, she charges HOW MUCH ?! The most I’ve ever been on has been £16 gross. 2 kids, one in nursery. I work and live in London. How many hours per week are you needing?