To be topless around the kids pool?

[WaitrosePigeon]

Backstory...

On holiday at an all inclusive hotel with kids club etc. Got some tan lines from my bikini so this afternoon took the bikini top off to try and sort them out. DH comes over and says it is inappropriate near the kids pool. I said that he had his top off so why couldn’t I. He said because I was female.

I didn’t put the bikini top back on but is it inappropriate? It’s just boobs?

Wouldn't bother me or mine.

In fact, a few years ago we went to turkey and my son (7 at the time) said very loudly "mum, that lady has taken her top off and her boobies fell onto her tummy!"

So just be warned!

It is ridiculous to say it is attention seeking. In places like Spain women go topless on beaches all the time, and men are totally relaxed around these women, as are teenagers. Lets not make women's bodies a problem! As others have pointed out, older boys will have seen breasts online, porn videos and pictures. It can only be a good thing that they see real breasts on real women, even if it makes them a bit uncomfortable. The problem is the discomfort, not the breasts.

Plenty of women here wearing tiny bikinis, tiny thong bikinis. I don’t think about it to be honest.

My children haven’t commented on the styles of bikinis or other topless women.

I don't understand why you need to parade your breasts to every one on holiday. what reason do you have to want brown breasts you could alternatively wear a strapless top. Would you pick up your child from school topless?

Wouldn’t do it, wouldn’t like to see it, wouldn’t like nudity shoved in my kids’ faces. Fine on a nudist beach. It’s courteous to everyone not to flash it all about.

Sunbathing topless was really popular in the 80’s and possibly the early part of the 90’s. This was a time, when some women were wearing brazilian / g-string style bikini knickers. Then things changed and it seemed to fall out of fashion.

When I was a teen it was fine to talk to guys topless and no one batted an eyelid. It now seems as though topless sunbathing and bikinis with bums on show have made a comeback. A few years ago not many women were covering up apart from the odd woman here or there around the pool was surprising. I don’t think you’re doing anything shocking.

So - just to be clear - none of the women on here who are claiming that 'they're just breasts' have ever put on a low-cut or tight-fitting top in the hope of looking alluring?
Because either breasts are sexual - or they're not.

In places like France women are often on the beaches and around pools without tops, not seen as a problem. I am sure teenagers would rather look at others their age!

Just keep your top on. It's not classy.

@NotTakenUsername 😂

sirlee66 I agree completely. I used to sunbathe topless on the beach in France, Greece and Spain and probably would've done next to the kids pool.
Nowadays I'm more likely to be seething with jealousy at the perk boobs around me

WTF to the PP saying would you pick your child up from school topless?!

Anyway, I would just like to know if you would also get in the pool or walk around topless, as I am presuming your DH does, and if not, why not? BTW I wouldn't have an issue with topless sunbathing, I have done it myself in the past. And I wouldn't particularly want to see your boobs but I just wouldn't look, lol.

Would you do it walking down the high street? If not, then why is it different when on holiday?!?!

Seriously? Are you unable to differentiate between being around a pool and walking down a high street?

I don't see what the kids pool has to do with it. I doubt any of the kids will care. Personally I wouldn't be bothered by the sight of a pair of boobs but whether it's appropriate surely depends on the venue. It wouldn't be appropriate in Tesco or the local swimming baths for example but would be fine in a pool where some nudity is expected.

Cam we stop with the idea that breastfeeding and going topless in your bikini at the kids pool and sod what anyone thinks are the same thing?

This is EXACTLY the sort of thinking that people use to try and stop people breastfeeding in public. One is the practical nourishment of a child, the other is not and has no necessity attached to it whatsoever.

none of the women on here who are claiming that 'they're just breasts' have ever put on a low-cut or tight-fitting top in the hope of looking alluring?

I have great legs and have worn short skirts for the same reason. Should I start wearing jeans by the pool because some guys are leg men?

Don't get me started on foot fetishes.

Yanbu.

Even by the kiddie pool. I doubt my kids would even notice, let alone care.

As to people staring, well they weren't taught well by their parents were they. It's rude to stare, and the person staring is in the wrong not the person being stared at for doing something completely normal

Primal I’m not trying to be classy

There’s nothing classy about a big hat over my moon head!

I don’t like having two white triangles, that’s why I do it.

Waitrose I was wondering if he was usually quite 'bossy' about your clothing choices or had a known 'modesty' issue. I understand he couldn't ask a stranger why she was topless

Wonen dont get turned on by mens chests

Lies!

Winnie, ah sorry I misunderstood.

To be honest in 10yrs he’s never said anything of the sort, that’s why I was taken back and started the thread.

Just enjoy your holiday. Get off mumsnet and enjoy the sun.

Thing is once it is in your mind, depending on the size of the area you're in, how populated it is etc. it would almost seem a bit perv to then expose yourself if you suspect it is making people with their kids uncomfortable.

Sorry if that sounds harsh, I probably wouldn't make a fuss in real life, if I was with DC and someone was doing this we would probably just pack up and go do something else.

The thing is, we teach children in schools that certain parts of our body are private. The bits that we keep under our underwear. It's part of child protection. And IMO, private means being covered.