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They attacked Alison Moyet when she objected to being called a cis woman...

129 replies

loveyouradvice · 16/07/2018 12:05

I find this astonishing ... I'm a huge fan of Alison Moyet's and she has been so supportive of the LGBT community....

You can identify as anything you want these days, except as a woman. Consider what happened to British singer Alison Moyet. Last week, on Twitter, she said she didn’t want to be known as a cis-woman, just as a woman. ‘I defend everyone’s right to have the pronoun that they choose and will honour it’, she diplomatically said. And ‘I do not choose Cis for mine’, she continued. ‘It took women like me long enough to own the title “woman” in the first place. It’s a long enough word for me.’ The response to this calm, clear, polite act of self-definition? Fury. And insult. And abuse. On such a voluble level that Moyet eventually recanted her linguistic heresy, deleted her tweet, and left Twitter."

Rest of article is here
spiked-online.com/newsite/article/trans-activism-is-now-just-misogyny-in-drag#.W0x7Ha2ZPNA

Moyet's response to being called cis was quite gentle. Yet she got attacked on twitter with a pile of hate tweets and eventually gave up after being assertive but not aggressive with comments like
"I will name you as you identify. Must you afford me less?"

How could they do this?

OP posts:
Mummyschnauzer · 16/07/2018 19:07

I’m getting really fed up with this shit. I’m a woman because I have a vagina and female specific chromosome make up. My husband and son are male because of their chromosomes and they have a penis. Men who undertaken full surgery and hormone treatment are transsexuals. They aren’t women because their chromosomes are still male and they have not experienced the lifelong position of being a woman. You can’t just feel something and become it.today I feel like a whale but I’m not painting myself black and white, jumping in the ocean chasing seals demanding money off greenpeace! Male or female, man or woman no need for a prefix to either you are what you are born. No one can even explain to me what the difference between sex and gender is apart from gender is a social construct, so presssbly if your not a girly girl you’re now a bloke????

SchadenfreudePersonified · 16/07/2018 20:54

Just reading that makes me want to cross my arms over an ample bosom and shout at a wean to come in for their dinner

Aye - and it's a proper dinner an' all - with GRAVY!

SchadenfreudePersonified · 16/07/2018 20:56

Mummyschnauzer

Wot you said!

noeffingidea · 16/07/2018 21:14

Alison Moyet is fucking great. It was a bit of an own goal to attack her in that way, IMO.

TammyWincyette · 16/07/2018 21:27

Just reiterating babel's link:

" If you feel strongly about this, you can fill out the consultation here: www.gov.uk/government/consultations/reform-of-the-gender-recognition-act-2004 "

InionEile · 16/07/2018 23:39

If 'transwomen are women' is the TA battle cry then surely 'ciswomen are women' is the logical corollary to that thesis? We are either all women or nobody is a woman. It makes no sense to say 'transwomen are women' and then deny the right of 'cis' women to call themselves women.

My biggest problem with this TA-shaming stuff, apart from the fact that it's always aimed at women and rarely at men, is that it has such weak logic at its core. They go around in circles to the point where we have now reached the lunacy where a born-male who wears a mini-skirt and renames themselvesTiffany has more right, in their eyes, to say 'I'm a woman' than a biologically born female. Complete lunacy.

ballsballsballs · 16/07/2018 23:48

Another woman here, no prefix required.

I have no time for gender tourists.

shakingmyhead1 · 17/07/2018 02:54

Men have always had rights, they have never ever been in debate, never been considered, never been threatened, since our ancestors fought, and how they fought, to get some rights for us, we have slowly been demanding we are treated with the same respect automatically and without question given to a man , it seems that now we are starting to seem as though we are on a equal footing, now a lot of the hard work has been done that some men now choose to become "woman" and share in those same rights, but not only that they want to take over and be womens rights and the actual women are expected to step aside quietly and accept what ever left overs there are, taking over so much that we are no longer meant to be called women but cis-women or risk being called trans-phobic or a trans-shamer or any other insult meant to put us back in our place... as far as i am concerned you can dress like a girl as much as you like, call yourself Dorothy if you want but you will never BE a girl no matter how much you want it or how much you cut off, because you are man with a mans rights, you will NEVER know the struggle of a woman and NEVER understand actually being a woman, so telling me a woman, that from now on i have to be called a cis-woman to please you, a MAN, well you can get fucked i am a WOMAN! and nothing you say or do will change that, i do not give up any of my rights, they were and are hard fought for and will remain MINE, you find your own path, dont take the easy way out and try to take what is mine or you might find you have a very real very unwomanly fight on your hands... you can dress like a girl, call yourself Martha, fuck you can call yourself a Donkey if you want.... none of that will ever make you Martha ( or a Donkey) no matter how much you want it

ShotsFired · 17/07/2018 06:44

This thread, these responses.

THIS IS WHY women, en masses, need to make their voices heard via the GRA consultation and/or MP (ideally both). This is your last chance to reject being called a non-man, a cis woman or whatever other label is foisted on you, and your daughters and every other woman.

www.gov.uk/government/consultations/reform-of-the-gender-recognition-act-2004

MyRelationshipIsWeird · 17/07/2018 13:03

I blame Shania Twain for this whole mess!

“The best thing about being a woman
Is the prerogative to have a little fun and
Oh, oh, oh, go totally crazy, forget I'm a lady
Men's shirts, short skirts
Oh, oh, oh, really go wild yeah, doin' it in style
Oh, oh, oh, get in the action, feel the attraction
Color my hair, do what I dare
Oh, oh, oh, I want to be free yeah, to feel the way I feel
Man! I feel like a woman”

She basically gave them the green light.

If only the lyrics had included having a vagina, period pains, the gender sex pay gap, maternity issues and being treated like a second class citizen maybe it wouldn’t have sounded so appealing?!

InionEile · 17/07/2018 16:18

Funny, I’ve always fucking hated that song MyRelationshipsWeird. So stupid. Even as as a teenager my feminist friends and I thought it was ridiculous.

Hygge · 17/07/2018 18:10

I've completed that consultation.

I hope they listen.

ReginaBlitzkreig · 17/07/2018 18:21

I think govt is listening.

After having sat down with a calculator and worked out how many votes there are if you please the hard-line trans lobby and anger a lot of women, compared to how many votes there are if you do the opposite.

UpnAbout · 17/07/2018 19:32

I like jerk chicken more than haggis and ska more than fiddles, just dawned on me now I’m not Scottish, I’m Jamaican!

pfttt · 17/07/2018 19:57

The idea that you literally "are" whatever you claim you "identify as" is bizarre.

When people used to swear blind they were Jesus or Napoleon, we didn't all meekly agree, and call them by their preferred name, we sympathetically got them medical help for what is clearly a mental illness.

I am tired of men gaslighting women by pretending that male = female or that biological sex doesn't exist.

By all means, if you're a bloke and you want to wear a skirt or have long hair or make up, go for it and enjoy it. Lots of gorgeous men eg Bowie, Bolan etc carried off that look very well.

But don't try to take the piss by pretending you're a woman. We're not all fucking stupid. And you shouting it lots and threatening violence doesn't make it true. It just means you're an abusive man rather than just a man.

pfttt · 17/07/2018 20:02

Of course, this gaslighting en masse doesn't exist on its own. It's the fall out of postmodernism, it's part of and springs from the deliberate far right and Russian muddying of the waters, attempts to deny that objective truth exists and to use liberalism's soft underbelly - it's tendency to tolerate intolerance - to destroy it.

Feminism is under attack just as multiculturalism and democracy are under attack.

toomuchtooold · 18/07/2018 12:23

Hey look, we're not the only ones getting sick of this shit:

open letter from the Lesbian Alliance to Stonewall

Hygge · 18/07/2018 13:12

@toomuchtooold - that's a good letter.

I hope they have sent it to Penny Mordaunt as well, and the consultation on the GRA.

I'm going to forward it on to my MP I think.

defectiveinspector · 19/07/2018 16:08

Thanks for the link to the Lesbian Alliance toomuchtooold. Do you know if they are planning anything at Manchester Pride?

P00ka · 19/07/2018 16:14

omg it's nuts alright. Only a trans mtf can identify as a woman. A woman who was born a woman cannot!?!?!? Beggars belief.

P00ka · 19/07/2018 16:17

Just read that link there. ''Lesbians must be open to having sexual relationships with men''. Omg the nerve of the transactivists.

Hygge · 19/07/2018 16:30

Not sure if this blog post has been linked already but I thought it was very well written about about issue.

Elocampane · 19/07/2018 17:51

Wow. That survey took a while to complete!

Still Spartacus

toomuchtooold · 19/07/2018 21:25

Do you know if they are planning anything at Manchester Pride?

No idea sorry, I just came across the letter on my Twitter feed. No Pride for me as I live abroad/middle of nowhere.

Mumminmum · 19/07/2018 21:38

I love Alison Moyet too. She is intelligent, a good singer and a good person.

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