To think my pram looks fine as it is?

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Fairly lighthearted, but this is driving me slightly bonkers.

I’m 29 weeks with twins. First grandchildren for both sides of the family. My DM is understandably very excited about it all.

We’ve bought a Icandy Peach Blossom pram and I’m very happy with it. It looks really nice

However DM is insisting that we need to “make it look prettier” with fancy pram blankets etc. I’ve tried putting one that my MIL crocheted for us over the carrycots, but I think it just looks weird. The carrycots aren’t really designed that way from what I can tell. I’ve tried explaining this to DM, but she gets shirty with me and goes on about how I need my babies to look nice She’s also just bought me two highly padded, frilly pramnests that’s she’s insisting I use. Tbh they just look like a massive SIDS risk, but I daren’t tell her!

I visited yesterday and she told me her friend is going to be knitting something for the babies. I said that’s very kind of her and asked what. DM then said she’s knitting you covers for the carrycots! I tried nicely explaining that I probably won’t use covers, that sorting two babies will be time consuming enough without faffing with unessacary covers etc. It just totally falls on deaf ears.

AIBU? Is the appearance of your pram such a massive thing? Am I just an utterly lax and careless mother to be by not wanting my pram to look like a frilly cake?

The best things I ever persuaded my mum to make for the pram and Moses basket was to sew pillow case type things that fitted the mattresses. Easy and quick to put on, no bits to fold or stretch under or ruck up when they wiggled , And If (when) the DCs were sick or exploded I could just turn the mattress over or round for a fresh clean surface. They could often have 4 goes before having to change the whole thing 🙄 A godsend when visiting or out for the day.

@Cats I see what you mean, my Nana was the knitter when I was a baby and it would have been nice to have her knit something for my son had she been here to do so.

But as someone who makes things myself, I wouldn't want someone to waste the time and money making something I really didn't want or like, just for me to nod politely and put it away.

Surely it's better to say "that's not my style" and give them the chance to make something else or nothing at all. I'd rather people said that to me than have me make something they would never use.