she stayed with us for a month. We came close to splitting up over it and I had to pack her bag for her and ask her to leave. I have told husband how much of a threat to our marriage this is. He stands firm that it suits him to have her there... i am livid!!!
Omfg, I bet you are. That really sucks. My dh did at least come round when I said she could stay but I would have o leave I feel she did.
Here's how I present it when it comes round, which it does now and again (not about movin gnext door, but just being at our house all the fuckign time day in day out)
You want to see your mum, that's great and fine, go for it, but please not here because when she is here a lot I feel stifled and intruded on
Then he says it's better at our house because it's comfy etc.
Then I say that's ok then, if you really feel you can't see her somewhere else and it absolutely has to be here that's fine but I will be moving out for x amount of days to be tsome space. I will do that because I love yu an Douro marriage anvalue my sanity, so I'd rather do that than break all of the lovely life We have together.
I really mean it to, and have gone as far as checking rooms in a youth hostel nearby for me, and given him the option of kids stay with him or come with me.
This has done the trick every time so far of getting through to him how seriously I a man suffering, and that I won't jus tell Ke tit happen because he's too blind to it to ask his mum to back off a bit.
The stupid thing is she's fine about it, but he always encourages her to come more and more an d more until I be ttowards breaking point, and round we go again.
I'm hoping to get to a point where if I mention yha it will be enough!