AIBU to photocopy school tickets that say strictly admit 2

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School have made it VERY clear to us that only 2 parents with valid tickets can attend the end of year play. I'm going, my ex (dad) is going, he's single so just him, but my partner is so actively involved in our sons life he is such a loving stepdad and really wants to be there too.
The tickets are just on coloured paper. I'm tempted to get some and photocopy an extra 1. AIBU or? Fair play if I am but if I can get away with it it would be lovely for ds.
Probably being a bit pfb 😢

Even with the new information about needing a carer, I think a lot of the original responses stand as they relate to the concept of photocopying an extra ticket. You may well have a genuine need for an additional ticket but this does not give you the right to just create your own without asking the school. I am just astonished that you thought that this might be ok as I honestly can't think of any ticketed event where this would be acceptable.

You’d rather cheat and forge a ticket, than point out to the school that they need to be disability-aware? It’s not like a wheelchair is a hidden disability. Your priorities are weirdly skewed.

my partner is so actively involved in our sons life he is such a loving stepdad and really wants to be there too.

Is vastly different to needing a “careers ticket” because you are a wheelchair user,

Best drip feed EVER. Have a prize and an extra ticket, OP.

If you speak to the school they will either say no or say he can wait and see if any spaces on the day.
There will be people who only use 1.

The first scenario and the second are very different OP. The first was about an active step dad and making the child happy. The second is not

Speak to the school l an absolutely sure it would be fine and all other parents would understand

But no circumstances are such that simply photocopying another ticket is the right way forward

Surely this isn't for real? OP is complaining because her original post gave a totally different reason for needing an extra ticket and people didn't understand the real reason? Are we expected to be mind readers here?

What a ridiculous drip feed .

The second detailed scenario is entirely different to the first.

First one - shall I cheat the school to get my partner in? Yes yabu.

Second one - I’m in a wheelchair and need assistance, can I ask for a spare ticket for my partner/career. No yanbu.

As others have said apart from one idiot up thread, there will be some spares around due to parents who can't make it, single parents etc so definitely worth asking the office and asking around in the class /Facebook group etc if anyone has a spare. Don't photocopy.

Don't be such a bloody child OP. You've got an entirely different scenario to the one you presented earlier - you have no grounds for going off in a snit because we aren't mind readers and you made yourself out to be a prize prick in the first post.

The thing is that you didn't ask if you could have an extra ticket for a carer, you said you wanted to photocopy an extra one
I'm a single working mother and struggle with both time and money.
I always do my best to make it to these things because I know how much DS loves it when I'm there. He knows I can't make everything and it makes it even more important to me that I do make it for the important stuff.
I'd be very upset if I took time off that I can't afford, only to find that I can't get in because someone else has photocopied tickets.
The stupid thing is that as a single parent, I only claim one anyway. The other goes back to the school office for people like you who have carers and need extra, as it should.
The rules are in place to make it fairer for all of us.

It's because of people like you that schools have ended up having to introduce tickets for things like this instead of just allowing any old person in.

Next you'll be asking if it's OK to photocopy your tickets for the World Cup final or something! It's the same bloody principle.

Even with the monumental drip feed when the thread didn't go your way , the principle is the same:

You can't cheat the school to suit. Why should other parents lose a seat so you can get someone else in?

Either acquire a proper ticket through another channel or accept you have 2 tickets.

YA still BU.

Staff don't need to know 'all the details', just that you are not with your child's father and that you would need an extra carer's ticket in order to attend.

Oh, so
Now you’re in a wheelchair?!

OP these are for health n safety, fire regs etc etc. You know you’re being an asshat

Suddenly it's a completely different situation??! Either way you can't photocopy the ticket.

HTH

YABU if everyone did that there wouldn't be enough seats and nobody would know whose were genuine. It is a fire safety thing. Most schools would love to have far more parents and family watching but don't have the space. Ask at school for a spare. Ours ask us to return any tickets we are not using to issue to families in your situation.

YABU for that monumental drip feed

YA still BU to consider photocopying a ticket

YABU to assume that people are mind readers.

YWNBU to explain the basic situation to the school and ask for an extra ticket for a “carer”

I’ve been successful in getting tickets for grandparents a day or two before production by asking school office. It is common for parents to swap extra tickets on class WhatsApp’s group.

Does the school have a Facebook page? You could post on there and ask if anyone has a spare ticket.

Brilliant drip feed!

1. AYBU to try and cheat by photocopying a ticket? - Yes.

1. AYBU to point out to school that you are a wheelchair user and might require assistance so need an extra ticket? - No.

If you'd started this thread with the latter OP you would have had nothing but support and positive comments.

I can't believe the school would be so uncaring / discriminatory as to not make a reasonable adjustment for a wheelchair user.

I get the reason why you want to do it. 119az. YABU. Almost every family will 1 a story about why they need another ticket.

Its 2 tickets per family for capacity and safe guarding reasons.
Not only that but wouldn't they be able to tell they were photocopied

119az. İ dont know WTF that came from

You may feel (rightly) that your disability does not define you, but the organising staff do need to know that you are a wheelchair user, so that they can make arrangements for your comfort and compliance with 'Elf'n'Safety regulations (emergency exits etc.)
I help out with a music festival which uses local schools for classes, and one of the competing schools advised that one mum would dearly love to come but was unsure about access.
Given due warning, the lovely caretaking staff went out of their way to accommodate the request (opening another door for access, bringing the portable ramp round etc.) Daughter of said mum was also thrilled that mum was in the audience to cheer her on, which wasn't always possible; her talents had already taken her into some venues where mum couldn't come.
Your child's class teacher will no doubt be well aware that you use a wheelchair, but if it's a big school, you can't assume that all the teaching and secretarial staff are in equal possession of all the facts.

Oh. OP I am one of the posters who you must think was unsympathetic.

The dripfeed puts an entirely different slant on it. I would have said yes the school should provide an extra ticket if you’d said that up front.

Schools are flexible IME. They apply a standard approach and are happy to flex when needed. They just can’t cover every eventuality on the initial booking form.