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AIBU to photocopy school tickets that say strictly admit 2

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tigerroundfortea · 11/07/2018 22:32

School have made it VERY clear to us that only 2 parents with valid tickets can attend the end of year play. I'm going, my ex (dad) is going, he's single so just him, but my partner is so actively involved in our sons life he is such a loving stepdad and really wants to be there too.
The tickets are just on coloured paper. I'm tempted to get some and photocopy an extra 1. AIBU or? Fair play if I am but if I can get away with it it would be lovely for ds.
Probably being a bit pfb 😢

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Hugepeppapigfan · 12/07/2018 00:13

Please do not do this. I work in a school. My school hall has a fire regulations limit. That’s why we limit tickets. We don’t do it to spoil your fun. There are proper health and safety reasons why!

So YABVVVVVU and it is parents like you who make me think twice about running school events. Please do not be entitled and selfish. It’s really really obvious when a parent is being a CF. School are likely to be too polite to tell you to your face when you turn up with a fake ticket as we are really generally very nice people but every little CF incident like this erodes a little bit of staff’s goodwill. Please just don’t.

Honeyroar · 12/07/2018 00:19

It's rude, not fair to the school and just wrong.

I'm a stepmum and actively involved in my stepson's upbringing. Sometimes I got to go to his events if there was room/tickets, sometimes I couldn't. That's life as a step parent sometimes.

clumsyduck · 12/07/2018 00:22

Eughh believe me I'm not some mumsnet goody two shoes but people like you fucking infuriate me . Yeh mate go for it and then they can turn some other poor sod away .ffs

MidniteScribbler · 12/07/2018 00:25

Do you realise think that no one is going to notice? Some parents see everything, and I can guarantee, one of them will be up at the head demanding to know why her son's step parent can't come while you've bought yours. You're likely to then told that one of you has to leave before the play will start, which will be embarrassing for your child, and far worse than your boyfriend not seeing him in a play in the first place. Then there'll be the stream of complaints when some people find out you've got an 'extra' ticket. School then has to put a new procedure in place for the next one where names are manually crossed off at the door, which creates more work for the teachers
.

But don't worry about any of that. What's important is that your boyfriend gets to go to the play hun.

BackforGood · 12/07/2018 00:38

I'm surprised you even have to ask. Of course YABVVVVU.
As eveyone else has said, there are all sorts of 'vlid reasons' why many of the dc would like a 3rd, or 4th ticket, but there is only limited space.
You need to ask at the office if there is a waiting list for any 'returns', or ask about amongst people you know from the playground/ in a whatsapp or FB group if you have one, or directly to parents of your dcs friends, if anyone has one they can't use, as you'd appreciate it.

JustJoinedRightNow · 12/07/2018 00:54

As nearly everyone has said, so I think you’ve got the message now, yes, YABU.

SadieHH · 12/07/2018 00:59

Of course it's a bad idea and unfair on others but blimey the Mumsnet mafia is out in force! Can people not just say YABU anymore?

schoty77 · 12/07/2018 01:21

You know it’s done for a reason. If your partner goes someone else gets booted. Selfish. Ask the teacher if there’s extras, don’t be sneaky, you’d probably be caught.

BrewDoggy · 12/07/2018 03:29

Sneaky and dumb.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 12/07/2018 04:05

Does your school only have one showing of the play? Ours has 4 showings, specifically so that split families and grandparents can attend (small hall among other issues)

It's a bit shit, but you would be very much in the wrong to try and squeeze an extra person in like that. I'd do as others have suggested and see if there are any spares, or if anyone you know only needs one.

Weedinosaurus · 12/07/2018 04:17

And the votes are in...I think they're in favour of YABU!

Daddynosharing · 12/07/2018 04:20

YABU. Don’t do it.

ittakes2 · 12/07/2018 04:29

YABU - and selfish. You will would not be the only family wanting extra tickets. There might not be enough seats and the school has to think of fire regulations etc. Just ask if there is a spare seat.

FurryDice · 12/07/2018 04:45

Why would you think this is acceptable? What if everyone did the same? Or is your set of circumstances special? Entitled much?

NotAgainYoda · 12/07/2018 05:48

Oh I get it. You are more important than anyone else

By all means, go ahead!

Cherrysherbet · 12/07/2018 06:03

I know someone who did this for the school Christmas play. She was asked to leave by the Head, in front of the whole school....mortifying. Personally I wouldn't.

ACatsNoHelpWithThat · 12/07/2018 06:25

What's the betting the OP will try and talk the dad out of going?

londonrach · 12/07/2018 06:32

Op there be loads of children in that play will have more than two active adults in their life. You not soecial. It says strictly two per child. You cant be that selfish. Yabvvvvu. Ask in the office for extra tickets. The whole play not about your child. If you try this selfish move i hope the school bans you from all other performances.

WizardOfToss · 12/07/2018 06:37

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TidyDancer · 12/07/2018 06:42

You really can't do this. It would be stupid and selfish to attempt it.

grasspigeons · 12/07/2018 06:45

Ours are limited due to fire regulations and we have actually had a small fire so I take those regulations seriously. We have two shows and still have to limit. The problem is just how many people need an extra for special circumstances. We do operate a list for spares though.

Buggeritimgettingup · 12/07/2018 06:45

Wanky move, why are you more important than other parents/carers. It's fraud.

TigerTooth · 12/07/2018 06:48

No! Thats an awful cheating thing to do - do you really want to be 'that parent' - disgraceful behaviour!
Just go to the class teacher or Deputy Head and explain - not the office, they have rules to follow - go to the decision makers. If its a firm 'no' then ask if your partner could attend the dress rehearsal.

Hippywannabe · 12/07/2018 06:50

What an awful thing to suggest! I work in a school, we are knackered and organising our play alongside the school fair. For the fair, we have had precisely 5 parents agree to help but have sold nearly all our play tickets. We limit to 2 per family too and keep a list of who has what. It astounds me every year when entitled people turn up with grandparents in tow and expect to 'stand at the back' or turn up with siblings 'they can sit on my lap'.
Rules are rules, you can't always get what you want in life. Lookmin the mirror and think how you would feel if your child remembers you as a cheat.

huha · 12/07/2018 07:03

YANBU.

If school performances are so popular then schools should rent a hall and charge per ticket. Simple.

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