AIBU to photocopy school tickets that say strictly admit 2

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School have made it VERY clear to us that only 2 parents with valid tickets can attend the end of year play. I'm going, my ex (dad) is going, he's single so just him, but my partner is so actively involved in our sons life he is such a loving stepdad and really wants to be there too.
The tickets are just on coloured paper. I'm tempted to get some and photocopy an extra 1. AIBU or? Fair play if I am but if I can get away with it it would be lovely for ds.
Probably being a bit pfb 😢

Yes you are being unreasonable. I’m in the same situation, both my ex and I have new partners who are very involved with child, and we get two tickets and two of us attend (me and ex). Get over yourselves!

Ask school if there are any spare tickets. If your school has any FB pages (year groups or whole school) ask if anyone had a spare ticket.
Tempting though it is to copy the tickets it'd be so embarrassing if you're found out.

If you try it on and are rumbled I think you deserve to be banned for any future performances.

That would make you such an arsehole. Tbh even asking is a bit of an arsehole move. Lovely for DS my foot.

Just explain. They do let step parents attend at my sons school and DSCs school, but if they really couldn’t we would make our peace with it.

*explain to the office I mean

YABU and selfish

Schools don’t restrict tickets just for fun you know, it’s about capacity of the hall and fire regulations.

You are absolutely not the only family who would love a third ticket. You are no more deserving than the others.

I also think asking around for spares to your little kid's limited-space concert to which both his parents are going so your boyfriend can go too would be an arsehole move and would advise against it.

pigeon I disagree. Photocopying or otherwise cheating would be massively unreasonable and arseholeish. Asking if someone isn’t using one of their tickets is totally reasonable. The OP says her partner is very involved in her son’s life. He’s not just a ‘boyfriend’. And even if he were, why shouldn’t he use an otherwise unwanted ticket? Is it better the seat stays empty?

Have you got any twins in the class? I always got two sets of tickets for my two so often had spares.

Don't photocopy them, thats really not on.

Yabvu. Fire regs, capacity, parents getting a seat.. use your brain

YABU

Do you want the school to focus on teaching your kids and planning lovely events for the kids or do you want them to have to focus on how to stop dick head parents who think they are special and that the same rules that apply to everyone else don't apply to them from doing stupid things like this.

There are lots of good suggestions on how to possibly get an extra ticket on here. Try them

Also bear in mind that if you do copy the tickets, someone is bound to realise, the system will likely change for future years and no one will be willing to help you out if you ever want an extra ticket

Years ago the school wouldninvite parents and just parents would turn up -

Then you'd get the grandparents who turn up and double the numbers -

So school have to ticket the entry which is time consuming-making photocopying distributing -

So now parents are photocopying tickets and they have to be numbered. Only they still do it, so staff have to label the tickets and number the children ......

At some point the cost will out weight the whole process and schools will just ban them.

Hope your proud.

Of course YABU. Lots of kids have more than 2 parental figures closely involved in their lives, you aren't unique. Talk to the school, ask around. Don't be a dick.

YABU

can’t believe I’ve never thought to do this

Ha ha how funny. You'll try to copy them and, because the school have been savvy enough to put them on coloured paper, they'll be obvious fakes and you'll look like a complete knob.

Or, you could just ask for a spare ticket.

Totally unreasonable.... and teaches your child that they are "entitled" to lie for special treatment... not going to go down well with their classmates....or be great preparation for later life

ABSOLUTELY ask around - even beg - for spare ticket - there is always someone who only wants one

It will be obvious. Number of children in class X2. An adult over said quota (prob for space). Not hard maths.

The rules are not the rules innit...

Of COURSE you can't do this! That would be an awful thing to do and anyway, do you really not think they'd notice? Presumably they know you and your dp and also your ex?

And I don't see how "exceptions" can be made for split families. Around 2/3 of my current class have this situation at home. Can you imagine how many exceptions that would be? It's up there with expecting separate parents evening appointments.

If you can get away with it...
Always a group of parents who are selfish arses who think their child is the most important on the planet, and their wants trump everyone else’s.
35 years teaching, and there are CF in every cohort.

Definitely not. There are H&S regs, and that is why the limit on numbers is even there!
The school could get into serious shit if anything happened, and it would be down to someone like you.
It's selfish and YABVU.

Simple for the school to ask if parents would like one or two tickets and if they would like extra tickets if available. Draw from a hat for extras, or teacher decides in the case of a family known to be going through a difficult time.

Urgh

Of course you cannot do that, hard to believe you would think it is right.