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AIBU - World Cup final and 6yo Birthday party

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Viktorella · 10/07/2018 10:23

A boy in DD1's class is having a whole class party this Sunday (3pm-5pm)

Given that there's now some chance of England making it to the final, I assumed that the parents would be factoring that in to their planning at this stage (I know I would be if it was my daughter's party)...maybe moving the time of the party or having a big screen to show football at party.

I casually asked the boy's mum about it yesterday and it clearly hadn't entered her mind. She huffily responded "Well I can hardly cancel the party!"

AIBU to think that, if she doesn't consider it, she might end up with a lot of kids not attending? I wouldn't want my daughter to go (although would probably still take her out of guilt) and I'm far from being a football fan!

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SoddingUnicorns · 10/07/2018 11:42

The answer is loads, because it was not only the most historic moment in British sport, but a historic moment for Britain

No I’m sorry but it’s not. It is absolutely a hugely historic moment for England, and quite right that there is enormous excitement and joy, but the use of Britain to mean England is really quite offensive.

greendale17 · 10/07/2018 11:43

if we win it will be historic moment

SoddingUnicorns · 10/07/2018 11:44

Team GBs medals, Andy Murray winning Wimbledon twice, they were historic moments for sport in Britain and British sport.

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Viktorella · 10/07/2018 11:44

Party is in village hall and I think she will have it for whole afternoon so would have some flexibility to move start/finish times. I have no idea what else she has planned for the party though so don't know if it can be moved.

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MiddlingMum · 10/07/2018 11:44

We have family plans for Sunday afternoon and I'll be really cross if the organisor decides they want to postpone.

DH has volunteered to do something tomorrow evening as they were short of people. He's not remotely interested in the football so it's not a problem for him but the country does seem to be getting a bit obsessed.

I do have it on good authority that Croatia are going to win tomorrow though.

chrisinthesun · 10/07/2018 11:45

Have to agree it's passive aggressive and rude and nasty (and WRONG) to say 'it's just 11 men kicking a football around a field.'

Stupid fucking comment that is! Hmm

It's a worldwide sport that England has done extremely well in, and it's looking more and more likely that England will be in the final. This is a historic period in time, and a massive event that very few people will pass over for a fucking kids birthday party!

Hell would freeze over before I would move away from my telly if England were in the final.

As I said though, many 6 y.o's are not going to be fussed, so you can't screen the bloody game in the middle of the kids party! Move the time to 1pm or something FGS!

diddl · 10/07/2018 11:46

"If they are in the final there's going to be no one at that party. Poor kid"

Depending on where everyone lives, perhaps uninterested parents could take & collect kids?

strawberrisc · 10/07/2018 11:47

Well I certainly give a flying feck! I've thoroughly enjoyed every game. I was monitoring my hear-rate on my fitbit during the last England game!

SoddingUnicorns · 10/07/2018 11:47

That’s a point OP, if there are parents who aren’t fussed about the football could they be taxis to at least make sure the birthday child isn’t disappointed?

chrisinthesun · 10/07/2018 11:47

@MiddlingMum

I do have it on good authority that Croatia are going to win tomorrow though.

I do have it on good authority that you are making that up though. Grin

ravenmum · 10/07/2018 11:47

I'll be amazed if they do get through, but then again I was amazed that they got into the quarter finals.

CtrlCandCtrlV · 10/07/2018 11:48

it was not only the most historic moment in British sport, but a historic moment for Britain

what difference will it actually make if England wins or loses? Strictly none. People will drink just the same, and move on. It has absolutely 0 significance for the country, just for some very bored people who will remember that in 2018 England didn't lose too early in the world cup.

No wonder our country is mediocre at best if that's the message we give our kids.

listsandbudgets · 10/07/2018 11:50

chrisinthesun Have to agree it's passive aggressive and rude and nasty (and WRONG) to say 'it's just 11 men kicking a football around a field.'

Not necessarily passive aggressive -its a reasonable point of view for someone to hold. It is however wrong since IIRC there will be two teams of 11 on the field making 22

(retires to pedants corner)

Confusedbeetle · 10/07/2018 11:50

I am so sick of these wretched football matches muscling in on my life. GO AWAY all football fans, Stay at home and watch your matches while the rest of us get on with life

Bombardier25966 · 10/07/2018 11:51

but the use of Britain to mean England is really quite offensive.

Only if you're in the habit of getting offended for the sake of it.

ProfessorMoody · 10/07/2018 11:52

Pathetic to put a game before children.

Bombardier25966 · 10/07/2018 11:52

I am so sick of these wretched football matches muscling in on my life. GO AWAY all football fans, Stay at home and watch your matches while the rest of us get on with life

That's what the OP is trying to do. We're not stopping you doing anything, just don't expect us to attend events during the matches.

ReanimatedSGB · 10/07/2018 11:52

A lot of people are aware that the English men's team won the men's football world cup in 1966 in the same way that they are aware that a lot of people went to the Woodstock festival, or that Elvis Presley appearing on the telly for the first time was a big deal then. They might remember such events when someone mentions them in contexts of news stories, but treat them all with the same lack of real interest.
It isn't a big deal, for an awful lot of people. It's not that we mind you enjoying it - enjoy what you enjoy. It's the selfish insistence that it's OK to eg upset a little kid by wrecking their birthday party, just because you want to watch men chase balls round fields on television.

SoddingUnicorns · 10/07/2018 11:53

Only if you're in the habit of getting offended for the sake of it

ODFOD. There is constant use of the word Britain to mean England and it’s out of order. I’ve already said it’s completely understandable that England and English football fans are excited, it’s lovely that they are, but saying that the English National team doing something was the most historic moment in British sport is not only ignorant, it is offensive.

If you can’t see that, that’s your problem not mine,

Jaxhog · 10/07/2018 11:56

It's very interesting to compare the comments about a kids party v. a wedding. Whereas people thought that you MUST make TV available for people to watch England in a quarter final at a wedding, it seems you should honour a commitment to a kids party if England are playing in the final.

We've just cancelled an event on Wednesday to avoid people having to make the choice. Even though I firmly believe that once you've made a commitment, you should stick to it. Actually, no-one has dropped out, but I know many would like to watch the footie.

If I were her, I'd wait to see if England ARE in the final. Then if they are, to change the date or time.

FrogsAreMean · 10/07/2018 11:56

116 responses with people getting all irate and uppity and the actual mum of the birthday boy probably doesn't give a flying fuck what MN think about her son's party.
Save your breath people, you might need it to cheer on your team during the "historic moment" Wink

MaryMcCarthy · 10/07/2018 11:57

the use of Britain to mean England is really quite offensive.

If that's offensive to you then I can only imagine how badly you respond to things that are actually, genuinely offensive.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 10/07/2018 11:58

I wouldn't grudge anyone enjoying their interest, but isn't the level of obsession starting to get a bit silly now? Ditto the insistence that "in RL most people are excited", "it's only on MN folk claim not to care", "the vast majority are really into it" and so on?

Personally I know very few people who could give a toss, but I don't claim awareness of what the vast majority want because I don't know the vast majority

Strange, then, that some football fans seem to .. I wonder how they manage it?

SoddingUnicorns · 10/07/2018 11:59

If that's offensive to you then I can only imagine how badly you respond to things that are actually, genuinely offensive

I find it quite sad that people cannot understand why ignoring 2 entire other countries isn’t offensive. Scotland and Wales are part of Britain too (NI is part of the UK but not Britain before anyone decides to try and get smart).

Britain is England, Scotland and Wales.

England is England.

Why is this so hard?

stationthirteen · 10/07/2018 12:03

Party is about 20 mins drive away so whoever does pick up (that'll be me then!) will miss a good chunk of the match.

No you won't. You'll miss about 20 minutes. It starts at 4:00 so you'll see pretty much the whole first half before leaving to pick her up. You'll be back at 5:20 when there will still be at least half an hour left. If England do win the family will be together for that.

I do have an interest in the football but not everybody does by a long shot and it's madness to expect somebody to rearrange a child's party for a match we might not even be playing in.

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