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AIBU - World Cup final and 6yo Birthday party

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Viktorella · 10/07/2018 10:23

A boy in DD1's class is having a whole class party this Sunday (3pm-5pm)

Given that there's now some chance of England making it to the final, I assumed that the parents would be factoring that in to their planning at this stage (I know I would be if it was my daughter's party)...maybe moving the time of the party or having a big screen to show football at party.

I casually asked the boy's mum about it yesterday and it clearly hadn't entered her mind. She huffily responded "Well I can hardly cancel the party!"

AIBU to think that, if she doesn't consider it, she might end up with a lot of kids not attending? I wouldn't want my daughter to go (although would probably still take her out of guilt) and I'm far from being a football fan!

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chillpizza · 10/07/2018 10:48

We also had a Mum rearrange a prebooked party for the last match so it wouldn’t clash. She managed it 2 days before without anyone asking. So clearly people do care in rl.

SoddingUnicorns · 10/07/2018 10:49

The fact that the party would end up really sad is the fault of the parent

No, it’s the fault of the people who wouldn’t turn up.

diddl · 10/07/2018 10:50

Do parents have to stay?

Will the drop off/pick up take hours?

If not-so little would be missed-wtf would anyone care?

A tv showing football at a kids party-hahaha-nice try Op.

araiwa · 10/07/2018 10:51

Changing it now is tempting fate, but presuming all goes well tomorrow, the mum should be making some new arrangements after the semi result is known

HellenaHandbasket · 10/07/2018 10:52

This hadn't even crossed my mind, what do you expect her to do at this short notice? Poor kid.

strawberrysalsa · 10/07/2018 10:52

It was my DBs birthday party, in 1966, when England was last in the World Cup finals.

My DF still talks about how he missed every goal having to deal with party stuff, even though he was watching the match leaving my DM to sort the party.

I think I would try and be aware the match will be important to a lot of people...its a while since the last time and it could be a while till the next time!

SoddingUnicorns · 10/07/2018 10:52

Why can’t people watch it on their phones?

CrochetBelle · 10/07/2018 10:52

I'll be so glad once this is over.

Most people don't give a flying fuck about grown men running around a field.

chillpizza · 10/07/2018 10:53

Data allowance, bad signal, overloaded networks from people watching on their phones.

OutofTyme · 10/07/2018 10:54

I'm so sick of the football being put above all else tbh.

When she booked the party she wouldn't have known there is a possibility that England could still be in at that stage.

YABU

Ginger1982 · 10/07/2018 10:55

Wow, you're so selfish and rude. If I was the Mum I would be so annoyed. Not everybody cares about the football!

araiwa · 10/07/2018 10:55

Most people don't give a flying fuck about grown men running around a field

Thats clearly untrue. Otherwise it wouldnt be an issue

LoudestRoar · 10/07/2018 10:57

The mum of the party shouldn't be having to change arrangements.
If all these football fans had any idea that England had a chance of getting through, they should have declined the invite in the first place.

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Viktorella · 10/07/2018 10:58

I absolutely feel for the child too and that's why I would be moving it or accomodating it somehow if it were me (my own birthday often clashes with world cup/ euro fixtures and I've learned my lesson the hard way!)

We're not particularly friends with the boy and I'd much rather watch the match at home with the whole family and a few drinks than worry about the party but, out of guilt, I'd still take DD to the party. I know that there will be plenty of parents who won't though.

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PorkFlute · 10/07/2018 10:59

Even if the mum/child don’t care about the football - a lot of people do and I would be trying to find a way to make sure he doesn’t have a shit party on her position.

MarthasGinYard · 10/07/2018 11:01

'I casually asked the boy's mum about it yesterday and it clearly hadn't entered her mind. She huffily responded "Well I can hardly cancel the party!"'

I'm not surprised how bloody rude

CrochetBelle · 10/07/2018 11:02

Thats clearly untrue. Otherwise it wouldnt be an issue

How do you know it's an issue for most people?

ReanimatedSGB · 10/07/2018 11:03

The birthday kid is SIX. So the guests will mostly be 5/6 year olds. A lot of kids of that age are not particularly interested in football, or in any other things that some adults obsess over. If the mother is pressured to switch on the television, there is a likelihood that several of the children there will be upset (because the adults are ignoring them and shouting at the television.)

And there are plenty of people who don't have any interest in men's football, and even some who do but who actually have good enough manners to realise that not everyone cares, and that it's really rude and unkind to fuck up a kid's birthday party because you want to watch a sporting event on television.

ravenmum · 10/07/2018 11:04

It's my birthday on Sunday too :) I'm having a football party whether or not we're in it. The mum couldn't have known in advance that we had a chance of getting in, so it's bad luck. Would probably be a good idea to try to move it, though: whether you're into football or not, England being in would be a big deal. These days people can be contacted so fast, it's not hard to rearrange things.

ReanimatedSGB · 10/07/2018 11:06

The problem is the fucking entitlement of men's football supporters. If it's that big a deal you can check your phone to find out how many balls have been kicked, if you have agreed to do something other than watch television while a particular men's football match is being shown. But other people, who don't like men's football or are not bothered about it, don't deserve to have the things that matter to them wrecked because of a men's football match and this peculiar level of insistence (worse than ever this year) that it's more important than anything or anyone else.

ravenmum · 10/07/2018 11:06

This is not just "a sporting event" is it? It's one of the biggest sporting events of most people's lifetimes for England.

dancinfeet · 10/07/2018 11:06

We have a dance event planned for Sunday afternoon that has taken months of planning, and parents have been asking me to reschedule or have been dropping out. I'm thoroughly pissed off.

ReservoirDogs · 10/07/2018 11:08

Half time will.not be at 4.45 but 3.45 (or say 3.49 if allowing for time added on) thus collection cannot be at half time as suggested above.

Once again there are split opinions on the topic.

Once again the party giver should not express surprise or be upset if people chose to stay home to watch. If the party is being held at home without "entertainer" etc then there is an option to move the party. If at a venue then maybe not.

Sugarhouse · 10/07/2018 11:09

Bloody hell im normally bored stupid by football but even I’m exited. The fact we might be in the World Cup final for the first time since 1966 is a big deal. Honestly are some of you on a different planet most people in real life seem pretty excited by it. Yes she should try and rearrange this could be a historical moment for England and her poor child will be disappointed if no one shows up.

ravenmum · 10/07/2018 11:10

It starts at four UK time - an hour later than the usual afternoon matches.

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