Would this annoy you?

[LokiBear]

My family and are flying long haul on Saturday. PIL have paid for the whole family to go on a 'once in a lifetime' holiday. I have a 6yo (who will be fine) and an 18mo who will be sat on knee for the flight (12 hours). MIL has paid to upgrade us to premium economy. If you were a passenger eho had paid extra money for your flight, how pissed off would you be at being sat near a potentially wriggly and fractious 18 mo? Ive just been sent this video of a kid kicking off on a plane and the other passengers getting angry. SIL sent it saying 'this will be you with dd2!' Dh is talking about making 'apology gift bags' for the other passengers. Im panicking a bit. I have an Ipad loaded with Teletubbies and toys at the ready, plus snacks.

I’m really intolerant. However when I’ve been on flights with kids playing up, it really doesn’t wind me up as long as the parents are trying to do something about it.
No seat kicking, no peering over my chair, no loud tech, no making more noise than the kid and all will be good :)
Don’t forget there’s a noise dampening effect on the plane too.

I'm not sure you'll get the cartons of milk through security - it depends how much is in them. Anyway you should be able to buy them once you're through security. Don't forget your charger for your iPad - that way you can charge it on the flight & don't have to worry about a flat battery.

I've flown long haul with my kids many many times as we live overseas. Don't worry about your little one. It is impossible to predict what she is going to be like on the plane but it sounds like you are well prepared. It is usually adults not babies on planes who annoy others I find actually.

I've done UK - Singapore many times with my kids as babies and toddlers. The other passengers will just have to deal with it and you will do your utmost to keep her quiet and entertained. However, have you ever sat with her on your lap for 12 hours? It's a killer. In economy, she will be literally sitting against the seat in front. I did this once with an under 2 yo and the next time bought a seat for her (children at any age can have their own seat). Have you considered this?

So people actually drug their DC's so they can go on a plane? Jesus wept.

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So people actually drug their DC's so they can go on a plane? Jesus wept. angry

I don’t think they actually do.

It’s the drugged adults I worry about. What happens in an emergency wjsn they’re too dopey to react to instructions? Do they expect others, including crew, to put themselves at risk by helping them?

I think gift bags is over the top. But the following should help keep everyone happy. Headphones for iPads, etc, no kicking seats, look like ur trying! (Now is not the time for saying they have so much personality or other completely naff stuff). Don’t let them climb on, bother, wipe their hands on other passengers or their belongings. Whilst you find your child endearing other passengers are not obliged to engage with them.

I know plenty who drug their kids on planes, mostly in expat circles. Benadryl is a favorite but can have the opposite effect. I do know someone who gave her kids a type of anesthetic once (available over the counter in Asia) which was horrific as once you're on the plane, there's no way of reversing the effects.

Get one of these. It'll extend your space.
www.fly-tot.com/

Those aren't allowed on some airlines.

I've had to skip a couple of pages ... but has anyone commented on what your SIL was thinking about sending you that link? How mean!!

What I found travelling with mine when they were little, was that they really enjoyed the luxury of our mostly undivided attention compared with usually being at home when we were trying to do other things as well.

With a toddler you can definitely "explore the plane". Enjoy the trip.

I've no children and I have no issue with being sat next to a toddler even if they are being noisy or wriggly. They are toddlers and being expected to stay seated must be annoying for them. I find flying boring as hell and at times could have a full blown tantrum about it mid flight.

If you fly to a holiday destination at this time of year you should expect children of all ages. I honestly don't know what we did before iPads.

Just to answer a couple of questions:
SIL wasnt being mean - she has a boisterous 3 year old to deal with. She is more relaxed whereas I am in a panic and, according to my family, overplanning. She was joking.
I wish, more than anything, that wed got her a seat. However, we had nothing to do with booking. Mil said she couldnt habe a seat (im guessing so shec didnt need to pay for it) and by the time I realise this wasnt true the seats were booked up.
Im not going to drug her. Im taking calpol and nurofen in sachets in case she develops a temperature as she is prone to febrile convulsions.

Have a lovely time, people who comment or give you 'the look' are arseholes. Everyone gets fed up in a chicken coop after 12 hrs don't apologise for your toddler doing what most toddlers do.

It's 12 hrs you'll be fine, mostly relax and enjoy yourself!

Can you put together a bunch of well washed old real keys on a key ring That would annoy me as much as a crying child/drunken person on a flight.

Yes, I thought the keys was a ridiculous idea and i can’t believe anyone thinks that is ok. I’m a patient type and would be irritated within seconds!

I've previously discretely asked if I can move seats when I've been sat next to a child and I'd do this again, if they were unable to accommodate my request I wouldn't have a problem and certainly wouldn't say anything to you.