Would this annoy you?

[LokiBear]

My family and are flying long haul on Saturday. PIL have paid for the whole family to go on a 'once in a lifetime' holiday. I have a 6yo (who will be fine) and an 18mo who will be sat on knee for the flight (12 hours). MIL has paid to upgrade us to premium economy. If you were a passenger eho had paid extra money for your flight, how pissed off would you be at being sat near a potentially wriggly and fractious 18 mo? Ive just been sent this video of a kid kicking off on a plane and the other passengers getting angry. SIL sent it saying 'this will be you with dd2!' Dh is talking about making 'apology gift bags' for the other passengers. Im panicking a bit. I have an Ipad loaded with Teletubbies and toys at the ready, plus snacks.

I have two young dc and id be totally pissed off!! Short haul fine. Long haul, no! Sorry!

So you'll have three seats between you?

Don’t bother with apology bags and don’t apologise in advance or all the time you’re on the plane.
Anyone who gets fed up if your child plays up will get over it. It’s just 12 hours out of their whole lives.

Don't worry about it she will have lots of people to entertain her, last lang haul flight i did in premium there was child the same age as your daughter and they just let her play on the floor when they could and it caused no problems, in fact it made the flight better as he was very entertaining.

I must admit that my heart would sink, especially if long-haul.

It's not just the noise from the child, but it's the incessant Peppa Pig sounds coming from the iPad that annoy me!

We took our just turned 2 year old on a long haul flight in PE and it was fine. She spent 4 hours watching Peppa pig on the DVD player we took with us, had something to eat and then slept the rest of the way. She is obvs never normally allowed that much screen time so thought it was a great treat.
I would recommemd you check the layout of the cabin though. As far as I remember, most PE cabins are 2 +3+2. So if there are 3 of you plus LO book the 3 seats together across the middle and then you can use the middle seat area as a sort of kids space. That way so long as they are not either shrieking or kicking the seat in front they are not going to be near enough to anyone else to be annoying.
But sounds like you will be well prepared so I'm sure you'll be fine

Peppa pig was on headphones!!

Are you talking about the video of a child who was screaming for whole 8 hours? I fly only short distances, but honestly make sure I carry headphones since I saw that. Still gives me shivers... "Luckily" I only had 'the kicker' who kept kicking my seat for 20 minutes solid without mother interfering....

Remember one thing. If your little one misbehaves for a bit, it happens. People are angry when child screams non stop while parents put their headphones on, not when child goes on for few minutes and parent is obviously trying to calm them down.
I agree that apology bags, I assume he was joking tho, are ott. But if you really feel bad you can carry bag of chocolates or something like that. Just for your piece of mind.

My heart would sink a little if I was sat next to you but presumably you'll all be sat together.
In front or behind, no problem.
But really it's just luck, don't worry about it, your seats have been paid for like everyone else's.
little ones often sleep a lot after the initial excitement.

Weve got the three middle seats so ibwas planning tp make the middle the kid zone. Dh was jokinh about the goody bags but I do think anxiety is kicking in for us both!

The only time a small child has annoyed/upset me on a plane was when they kept asking if we would crash and if we would all die and what would happen if...
Freaked me out as I'm a very nervous flyer so I begged to move seats

It doesn’t annoy me at all, no matter how much I have paid for my flight. You pay for more room not to be in isolation from other humans, if you want that, pay for a private jet. If there was a child behind me constantly kicking my seat and a parent doing f all about it, THEN I’d be pissed off. But a baby with a parent trying to do their best, no problem. The last three flights 14hrs+ I’ve been on, I’ve been a couple of rows back from the bassinet seats. Every time the baby slept soundly for most of the flight. Ignorant adults (who flip their seat back immediately and refuse to move it even at mealtimes) annoy me far more. Disclaimer: I can sleep through anything and frequently have had to be woken up by crew at disembarkation time

It really wouldn't bother me at all. Everyone's kids have been toddlers once!

Depends on if you're working hard to keep her amused or not

Your seat is paid for as much as anyone elses

The apology bags are a good idea, I saw someone post on Facebook about getting one, signed from the baby and explaining, it had earplugs in. I wouldn't be too bothered but that is because I am a mum with young kids.

Wouldn't bother me OP. Hope the flight goes well. We travelled with kids at that age and they were way better than we expected.

I don’t have DC, and all I can say is, if your child starts doing that blood curdling, ‘I’m-definitely-being-murdered’ type of screaming, please stuff their mouth with jelly beans immediately.

We ended up on a coach for 27 hours once (stuck in snow) with a toddler. She was way better behaved than most of the adults (who pulled their faces at sitting near us when we got on the coach)

Agree with PP

It's public transport, same as getting on a bus, and PE will be full of children.

She will pick up vibes from you. If you act like you think she will be well behaved, maybe she will be good? It sounds like you are well prepared so chill and have a great time.

I think mumsnet would be more understanding than most. I would be ok for a 2 hour flight but yea annoyed in PE with a toddler.

I used to fly business class all the time with 3 DDs when they were very little. I made sure they had plenty to keep them entertained and always breastfed the baby during take-off & landing or if she began to chunter. There was only one truly horrendous journey when our 18 month old ran amok & gripped the arm of a businessman with her jammy fingers.... He was very nice about it and we couldn't apologise enough.

It your kid is being a pain then I think huge apologies at the time go a long way, as well as LOOKING like you are trying to control the situation. So if little Jeffrey is screaming/kicking then trying to distract, giving sorry glances, saying to the people annoyed how sorry you are will for me go a long way. Its the people who smile at their badly behaving kids and say "he's just so full of personality" AND DO BUGGER ALL TO STOP THEM who boil my piss.

In short if you are trying your best then I will do my best to not be annoyed/play peekaboo/make origami birds to help. If you aren't then I will silently seethe and stick pins in a model of you.

I'd just have a bag full of earplugs just in case people do complain

I absolutely will do my very best to keep her entertained. Ive just spent a small fortune on clip buckles that ive attached to brightly coloured ribbons because she loves playing with the highchair buckles!

If people are seeing that you're trying your best to keep her entertained and well-behaved then most of them won't mind. The ones that do mine need to save up for a private jet or just sort themselves out somehow. It's still public transport after all; you have a right to be there (but a duty to actively parent your toddler whilst you're there!). You sound like you've got it all covered and will be a considerate passenger.

I don't think how much they've paid for a seat should come into it particularly as this isn't an check-in desk airport style freebie upgrade for you.