To need to hear about vasectomies

[TillyMint81]

Dh is waiting on a letter for the date of his vasectomy.
Can anyone let me know what to expect? I work lates and he does the afternoon school run and subsequent child wrangling.
He's not very good at stopping still so I'm wondering if I need to book the evening off work. He's already said no but then it's not something we've been through before!
Friends of his aren't useful as some sailed through and some found it tough.
Can I hear your experiences please.

I’ve had 4 pregnancies and births, I have three children (one was stillborn) and have suffered great emotional and physical trauma due to bringing our children into the world.

I am 34 and only got pregnant for the first time at 25.

A woman could have multiple children and be at risk of further pregnancies at the age of 25, not 35.

So I’m absolutely not sorry to think less of men who won’t consider vasectomy incase there is a small chance that THEY suffer some discomfort.

@Aretoo

My Dh had this done last summer. He was off work at the time which I strongly recommend !

I do know what you mean here, but this sort of reads like it's an option to have someone come into your work place and give a quick snip at your desk!

Helmet

Your post says nothing, the emotional clap trap is at least somewhat validated if you include some information.

FWIW you don’t need to talk to me about your DH’s vasectomy. I really couldn’t give a toss. HTH

I don’t give a shit about your birth injuries and contraception struggles then.
Boo fucking hoo.

There are many other options

All bar condoms which are the woman’s responsibility no? And all (bar barrier methods) have a good chance of side effects.

So it isn’t as simplistic as saying “there are other options”

There aren’t many other options. It sucks.

Helmet

I don’t need you to give a shit. I require the man whose babies I carried to give a shit and he did, over an above a small risk of him possibly getting some groin pain. It’s part of his ‘not being a dick’ personality.

Which is really all that matters to me. HTH

What are these ‘other options’?

People keep saying it but not actually offering any

People keep saying it but not actually offering any

I believe a male poster suggested the copper coil. Which was totes nice of him.

Ah the one that gave me horrendous periods and then I got pregnant on?

Yes, wonderful.

Fucking blokes. I imagine one in 10
Women have cervical pain after A DOCTOR HAS SHOVED A SPIKY COIL INTO THEIR CERVIX

But you carry on talking about your barely noticeable ‘groinal pain’

Wankers

Ah yes. Here was his other suggestion

Did you consider laparoscopic tubal occlusion?

Did you consider an op so hubs didn’t have to?

Ohhh, because INTERNAL SURGERY on the woman who has just carried your children is absolute the fucking answer and of course has no side effects.

Prick.

a small risk of him possibly getting some groin pain.

barely noticeable ‘groinal pain’

small chance that THEY suffer some discomfort.

Women worked and are still working very hard to get the medical establishment to understand the reality of birth injuries/long-standing problems/ etc etc.

For most of us this has never meant we have to diminish and minimize and lie about men's problems.

Your post says nothing, the emotional clap trap is at least somewhat validated if you include some information

I provided 'information' earlier up the thread, cheers, so did many others, but clearly you're a poster whose opinion is far, far too important to read anyone else's input.

Helmet

I came here to give some support to the OP, not to search for hours for information that you’ve apparently provided(?)

Again, it simply doesn’t matter.

Your post says nothing, the emotional clap trap is at least somewhat validated if you include some information

Ok so you didn’t mean that.

... in YOUR POST. As it stood, all your post did was attack me and give no information.

‘hours to search for information’ is reading a thread now?
Blimey.
Information was provided further up thread. What I posted was valid, cheers.
Calling people’s lived experience ‘emotional clap trap’ is really viscous.
You’ve had a tough time- others have too.

I’ve no idea what your experiences are, nor have I suggested they’re not valid.

thanks for further emotional clap trap

DH had his just after I went back to work from maternity leave. Apart from an anguished phone call to buy "pants, not boxers, a size smaller" on my way home he was absolutely fine. Back at work the next day and no meds needed except paracetamol/ibuprofen.

I’ve no idea what your experiences are, nor have I suggested they’re not valid.

Mm, you don't know what they are because you couldn't be arsed to read the thread, and as you said, you couldn't give a toss about other people's emotional clap tap.

You come across as a really nasty twat. HTH

You could have explained instead of all the emotional clap trap but have chosen not to.

Nothing I said had anything to do wirh you and nothing you’ve said has made me clamour to go and find your posts. Sorry, hun. I just don’t care that much.

I know you don't give a toss, hun, you've already said that, hun, HTH, hun

Great. Then move on Helmet

Go on, you can do it. I believe in you.

Nothing I said had anything to do wirh you

FWIW you don’t need to talk to me about your DH’s vasectomy. I really couldn’t give a toss. HTH

Right hun.

Go on, try again. I believe in you!