Husband gave my purse away and I’m gutted

[hattiesmumm]

Hi,

It’s my birthday today and the husband bought me a lush mulberry purse. The mother in law has been round and while I was bathing Dd he gave her my old Ted baker purse to her. Apparently she asked for it as I wouldn’t need it now.

I’m really upset. It holds a lot of memories. It was the first birthday present he bought me 4 years ago. When I came downstairs she was saying how she doesn’t care what sort of purse it is but it’s better than what she’s got now.

I’m really upset. 😭 I felt like I couldn’t say anything, I’m really non confrontational.

Are you usually this hateful and ridiculously rude in real life??

Girl,stand up for yourself. I know it's not always easy.It took me a long time to be to do it but you can!
Get that purse back, it's yours 💘

Mymomsbetterthanyomom

WTF?

My ex husband gave my fridge freezer to his sister.

Got home from work to find an empty space in the corner of the kitchen

a whole fridge freezer???

I think make it clear to him that what he did was unacceptable, but then maybe decide if you can live without the purse, especially as you have a nice new one. If you really want it, get it back and, as PP said, get DH to buy his mum a new one, with apologies as necessary.

@agerbilatemycardigan ... with contents?

Just tell your husband to buy his mum a new purse and then get him to ask for it back.

He was daft just giving it to her but I assume meant no harm. If it were me I would have said something there and then (in a jokey way), but I’m a loud mouth

OP never came back then? She clearly didn’t like being confronted with criticism of her husband or herself. Maybe people shouldn’t ask for advice if they’re clearly too cowardly to take it.

I think it is a bit late now to ask for it back. It would be different if she took it when you weren't there but you passively accepted it by not saying anything while it was being discussed.

It is much more awkward asking for it back now rather than saying something at the time.

Having said that, hb deserves a ticking off if he said she can have it without checking with you.

Yup Tjzmummabear a whole bloody fridge freezer.

He'd taken out the contents IsaidMrDarcynotArsey then had very helpfully crammed them into my tiny counter top fridge. Anything he couldn't shoehorn in, he'd thoughtfully cooked and eaten.

It's a total mystery as to why he's my ex

@Agerbilatemycardigan 😂

Unfortunately the good memories associated with that purse have been well and truly wiped. Even if the OP got it back now, every time she caught sight of it she'd just think "My husband is an arsehole and my MiL doesn't understand boundaries".

your DH should not be giving away your possessions without asking you thats really odd.
Not your MILs fault tho... so id be having words with him and telling him to pick her up a similar purse from a shop for her then go and swapping it with your so you can have it back.

Juells My ex couldn't even spell boundaries

That would certainly explain why he's on wife number 5. Or at least he was a couple of years ago. Probably managed to shoehorn a couple more of them in by now, just like he did with the freezer contents.

Very odd behaviour of your DH and MIL.

Since when does any women have just one purse at a time? Most people i know have several. If your DH doesn’t want yo ask for it back, he needs to buy the exact same purse as a replacement. Your MIL had a cheek to ask and he had an even bigger cheek to give it away without asking.

Why would anyone need more than one purse?

Since when does any women have just one purse at a time? Most people i know have several.

Really? People have more than one purse and use them all? Why? I must have had mine about 8 years now and whilst it's time I had a new one, I just couldn't imagine chopping and changing on a regular basis.

Just ask for it back, tell her you're a bit embarrassed be honest and give her a nice purse for xmas!

I only have the one purse. A few handbags but only one purse.

I mostly use one purse when running to Tesco, but have a larger one with all my cards etc..

If I had a purse that cost £40 or £50 (I don't!) I'd treasure it, not want it given away even if I got a new one.

EVEN IF YOU DONT WANT IT BACK
make him sort it out because he needs to learn he can’t do this !!

I can’t stand this type of husband. When mine threw away / gave away my things while I was away, without my knowledge because in his opinion I didn’t need them, it almost ended in divorce. We didn’t divorce then but we are divorcing now for a different reason, but the same underlying cause - ongoing lack of respect for me and his conviction that he can dictate others how to live because he’s always right and he knows what’s best for others.

It’s far removed from your purse incident, OP, so it’s not advice or sounding an alarm bells. I just wanted to say that I understand how gutted you are and with you all the best

Really??? Over a purse, get a life - you want it back, then you don’t ....you sound like a spoilt child!

Wish you all the best.

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