Wedding day....England are playing?????

[arghhhhhhh]

Just been on fb and someone I know (though not well and I am nit invited to the wedding!) is getting married on Saturday. Obviously England are playing.

She has it a status on saying she has had multiple requests from guests wanting to know if the football will be shown.

Her status basically says she's angry at the messages she's had and under no circumstances will the football be shown. It's her wedding and the day is about that and that only. She's asked that no one checks their phones during the match and is even going to have a sign made for when people enter the venue as a reminder it's a football free zone.

Now she's had a fair few comments - a couple even say they wouldn't attend if they were invited due to her attitude.

What's everyone's opinions?

Me personally, I'd show it! I love football though, I've followed the World Cup through out and I'd be gutted if I couldn't watch it! I'd be making arrangements with the venue to make sure it's on.

The atmosphere would be amazing. I'd be jumping around with everyone else in my dress.....

Also a great way to break up the day. The day goes so fast for the bride and groom but the day guests....it can be such a long and tiring day. What a great way to break up the day!

Also, we are doing well, we haven't been in this situation where we may actually have a good chance of WINNING!!!! for years and probably never will again. The whole country is routing for them. Even people who don't like football are into it. I just don't think it's fair to expect people not to watch it, or not even check their phones!

Saying that....I do understand this lady's frustrations. She's been planning this wedding for over a year. I got married quite recently and know the stress etc of planning....but yeah, wouldn't make any difference to me. I'd be so excited for it to be shown!

Opinions? Is she being unreasonable? It's her and her partners day at the end of it.....I'd be worried my guests wouldn't show up though....

It could be worse. My uncle left his own wedding reception to go and watch the Cup final. This was in the 1950s
He did come back though!

I sympathize. We got married on the same day as the Grand National, about 5 miles from Aintree. We booked the date first!

When we got to the reception, which was at DM&D's house, everyone was watching it. We had to wait until it was finished before taking photos.

I wouldn't show it. I hate football and most of my friends aren't interested in it so I don't think it would be an issue.

I've been to a wedding on a world cup day. All the men turn into silly giggling schoolkids trying to obviously watch football on their phones under the table. Couldn't stand the bride or groom so it was fun to watch her get pissed off

Having said that, I don't care about football, and neither do most of my friends. I get that it's exciting to be where we are for the first time in ages. But it should not take overtake someone's wedding. Watch it later for goodness sake!

Funny that the usual Mumsnet etiquette of sticking with the first commitment made isn’t being adhered to here!

It's just so weird that people want to watch television at an event, though.

Scribblegirl
So basically forget summer 2018? May 19th to July 15th is a right off?

Important Sporting Events: May 19th 2018 (FA Cup final), June 14th to July 15th 2018 (FIFA World Cup), May 30th to July 15th 2019 (Cricket World Cup), July 2nd to 15th 2018 (Wimbelon), to name a few.

er, again, sports events are not that important to a lot of people

@wizzywig why did you go if you couldn't stand the bride and groom?

How amazing that people expected the OP to know when the World Cup was on. Wouldn't have even occurred to me to check!

Oh thank goodness. I thought it was just me.

That true Scribblegirl and those people are free to do whatever they want this summer, and just like the sports fans are.

EveningHare No, if you look it says May 19th is the FA Cup Final (one off event) and the World Cup runs from mid-June to mid-July. We didn't want to risk having an international football game happening during our wedding, so that was our decision. The bride in the OP chose not to do that, which is fine, but I'd have rather made the date as easy for everyone as possible than force my guests into having to choose between either.

Tricky one. I wouldn’t really want it on during the reception. It is their wedding day, a hopefully once in a lifetime event (but so would England winning the World Cup be). If it was a final I’d definitely show it. She will never NEVER get people to not check their phones. I worked at a wedding recently where the bride had stipulated that no one be given the WiFi code. Oh my god they kept on and on, sob stories about how they needed to check on their kids, desperately needed it for work. Well one of my staff gave in and within a few mins all the blokes were on their phones checking the scores!

Is she Scottish, OP?

To clarify, I wouldn't miss a friend's wedding for an England game, but I'd be sad about having to miss it and would appreciate someone picking a date where it wasn't going to be an issue.

I would mind about my friend telling me I couldn't check my phone at her wedding, because that is batshit.

I don't think the real problem here is that football is so amazing that people can't put a wedding above it...the problem is that formal style weddings are basically rubbish for everyone other than about a handful of people.

So it doesn't take much for something to be more interesting than:
standing around a venue waiting for things to get started; standing around with canapes waiting for couple to get around to acknowledging your existence; standing around waiting for photographs to be done; sitting around waiting for food; sitting around listening to not necessarily amusing speeches.

Informal wedding where you get married pronto then have a party are both more fun, and also much more amenable to having a side room with the footy on for the people that can't tear themselves away from it.

The other obvious flaw in weddings is inviting loads of people who aren't that bothered and who you are then not going to talk to for more than 5 mins in the 5 hours of their time you have squandered.....and then complaining the day should be all about MEEEEEEEEEEE.

I mean basically yuck.

I can see both sides of this.

If the service and the meal and speeches are over before the game, I can't see the harm of having the game on in one area of the venue if the bride and groom want to do that.

If she's really opposed to that she can't really object to people checking their own phones after the ceremony (definitely not during it).

On the other hand, it's fucking rude to contact someone to ask if you're going to be allowed to watch the television during their wedding. I think people shouldn't have asked her about having a TV.

I don't care if it is football or only once every four years, it's rude to ask for a TV at someone else's wedding.

She will more than likely have paid a fortune for her wedding and the reception and having all these people get in touch to ask if she can put the football on for them because they can't just look at the results later on are being really rude to her.

And it's no use saying she shouldn't have booked the wedding during the world cup, no more so than saying that if people were that bothered they shouldn't have accepted the invitation in the first place.

I feel sorry for her to be honest! She can't really win. Yeah she should show the match as it's just going to cause resentment if not but likelihood is they will lose then everyone will be in a bad mood. I think I'd cancel the whole wedding and elope because I'd be so pissed off! If she or her husband to be doesn't like football it's unfair that the day they are paying for and have invited people to spend with them is taken over.

@M3lon so true. That’s why I opted for a very informal wedding!

I am agog at all the posters who seem to think it will be the menfolk who will want to be watching and that the women wouldn't even know the footy was on or want to watch it!

And to those saying watch it later

I personally think it would be incredibly rude to accept a wedding invitation and then expect to watch football there- if it is that important to you, decline the invitation. I would also be rather bored if the football was on during a wedding where i was a guest.

I agree with a Pp who said good manners say you go with the invitation you have accepted, and it would be very rude to then watch your phone all reception.

*If it were me there is no way on earth i would show or have anything to go with football on my wedding day. But I hate football in general.

It's ONE DAY! If the football is so important to the guests they can record it and watch it later.*

You can't really do that with football. It's in the moment; there's no joy in watching it back later.

There won't be a consensus on this. People will want to watch the game. 23.6 million watched it last night; and that doesn't count people in pubs or watching in fan areas. That's a huge amount of people.

She can embrace it and hope for the best, or refuse to and also hope for the best. She might find people watch it subtly; or that they stream out to a bar or something, but she'll be hard pressed to stop them watching, whatever she believes about football.

England played their first game in 2010 on my wedding day. We made sure that there was a tv for people to watch the game if they wanted to. Everyone was happy and that made the day even better. So long as it doesn't clash with the service or reception meal it seems a bit peevish to demand a news blackout. It is only a couple of hours and this time...... it really is coming home!

Haven't rtft, but has her bridesmaid dyed her hair pink?