Wedding day....England are playing?????

[arghhhhhhh]

Just been on fb and someone I know (though not well and I am nit invited to the wedding!) is getting married on Saturday. Obviously England are playing.

She has it a status on saying she has had multiple requests from guests wanting to know if the football will be shown.

Her status basically says she's angry at the messages she's had and under no circumstances will the football be shown. It's her wedding and the day is about that and that only. She's asked that no one checks their phones during the match and is even going to have a sign made for when people enter the venue as a reminder it's a football free zone.

Now she's had a fair few comments - a couple even say they wouldn't attend if they were invited due to her attitude.

What's everyone's opinions?

Me personally, I'd show it! I love football though, I've followed the World Cup through out and I'd be gutted if I couldn't watch it! I'd be making arrangements with the venue to make sure it's on.

The atmosphere would be amazing. I'd be jumping around with everyone else in my dress.....

Also a great way to break up the day. The day goes so fast for the bride and groom but the day guests....it can be such a long and tiring day. What a great way to break up the day!

Also, we are doing well, we haven't been in this situation where we may actually have a good chance of WINNING!!!! for years and probably never will again. The whole country is routing for them. Even people who don't like football are into it. I just don't think it's fair to expect people not to watch it, or not even check their phones!

Saying that....I do understand this lady's frustrations. She's been planning this wedding for over a year. I got married quite recently and know the stress etc of planning....but yeah, wouldn't make any difference to me. I'd be so excited for it to be shown!

Opinions? Is she being unreasonable? It's her and her partners day at the end of it.....I'd be worried my guests wouldn't show up though....

Oh, the poor woman. Part of the problem with these tedious month-long football competitions is that you can't know, years in advance, when the more important bits will be happening: her wedding will have been booked long before the actual schedule of football games was sorted.

This isn't really accurate.

The actual detailed schedule probably came out after she'd booked the wedding, but the World Cup is held in non-leap even years in June and July. Russia were awarded the competition in late 2010, and we all know which hemisphere they're in and when their summer is, so it was never going to be at any other time than this. There's one world cup in the last 30 years, one, that had finished by 7 July. World cup ties being on this weekend are the norm in world cup years.

Either way though, she's stuck with it. So whatever feelings anyone has about this, including her, the sensible thing would be to try and minimise the impact. People will be sneaking off watching it, especially now you can watch it on your phone. That's going to happen. Signs asking for it to be a football free zone will do absolutely nothing to prevent that.

To be honest, I have no idea what time she's getting married. If it were at 3pm....I suppose there's nothing you can do.....if it were me then I'd be gutted myself lol.

But if it's at 12\1pm then surely they could show it.

I think the way she's come across is rude and snotty. I love weddings....and I love football. With this particular fb post I'd probably think 'stuff you I'm not coming with that attitude'.....she has to understand people want to watch it. She could of been nicer.

As for her husband to be....no idea....the poor bloke hasn't been mentioned.

As it stands, she's had only one supportive comment and a handful of 'likes'

I think she could of worded it all better if I'm honest.

I'd show it and do photos while the game is on.

I detest football and would be really annoyed if friends and family chose it over my wedding celebration. That said, I wouldn’t have picked a date during the world cup. A colleague is getting wed on Saturday and I understand that they are going to show the match while bride and groom are getting photos done. Which sounds not a bad compromise.

She clearly has no sense of occasion

Hahahahahahaha

It depends if it is during the reception or the ceremony. If during the ceremony then perfectly reasonable as people shouldn’t have their phones out at that point. If during the reception it will come down to either people sneaking off to watch it or being sulky. You can’t police phones after the ceremony, that is just silly.

We got married last year during the rugby season. I don’t like watching any sport so didn’t occur to me that it might be the case. We ended up having a short break so people could nip downstairs and watch before the food was served.

However, football is my least favourite sport so if I was shown I would probably be the one sneaking out to escape It is one of the reasons I love my H so much as he hates it too

Annoying though it must be, there's absolutely no way that the bride can expect guests not to be following the match on their phones. I personally don't even think there's any way to stop people finding a way to watch it. The bride should accept that she might have to work around the match somewhat, to the extent she can.

The match is a big deal to a lot of people, and a decent percentage of people would/will be stopping what they're doing to watch it happen live.

It's worse to have guests either not turning up or turning up distracted/resentful than it is to find some way to let them watch or follow the football.

How amazing that people expected the OP to know when the World Cup was on. Wouldn't have even occurred to me to check!

Football isn't a part of my life but I probably would make some inclusion of people's ability to see the match but only as long as it was not during the ceremony or the meal.

The game kicks off at 3pm so, depending on the wedding timings, it's probably quite difficult to incorporate it.

3pm is usually the inbetween ceremony and dinner time so would be perfect timing to watch the match

I don't watch football, but there are some sports which are very important to me and I'd miss any event, friend and family weddings included, to watch big games/races/fights

Which is fine and the choice for anyone too make.
However, if someone was telling me that a match is important than me as a friend or family member, I would take notice and act accordingly.

I mean, if you listen to posters in here, the person who is getting married (remember your wedding, your rules?) should accept to have football on during their wedding because SOME people want to watch the match/it’s only once in every 4 years etc... and EVEN IF they hate football themselves.
Well the wedding is once in a lifetime (hopefully) for the OP, shouldn't that count too? shouldn't the wishes if the bride and groom count too? It seem snot when it comes to football then.....

No-one should be on their phones during the ceremony anyway, surely?

I understand whys she’s fraustrated but there’s no way she’s going to be able to stop people checking on the match, she can’t watch every guest and what they do on thier phones. It’s unfortunate that the game is being played the same day. If it was me I would probably organise a big screen being a major football fan. And if I was her guest I’d still go but would defo be checking the score 😊

The wedding could have been booked a year or two ago. Would it have occured to anybody to think about the World Cup or any other sporting event when setting a date? Doubt it.

It would.

If you like football, which I accept lots of people don't, it's incredibly and immediately obvious that a wedding on a weekend in June or July in a world cup year has the potential to clash with a big game. And if you like football, you know what the world cup years are.

I can see how this would happen if neither the couple nor anyone close to them is bothered, but if you are, believe me you'd know.

I think she's fighting a losing battle she can't ban guests watching the game on their phones, checking results and talking about it they'll just be more sneaky about it and scuttle off which will ruin the atmosphere more. If I was her I would set up a TV, It's only for a couple hours and it'll make the guests happy plus I would want my guests first thought when looking back on the day to be that they had a great time not that I tried to ban them from watching England in the World Cup!

I was at a wedding when England were playing a world cup match in 2006. They had a big screen in the marquee. It fitted into the gap between ceremony and dinner and meant everyone watched together instead of checking phones. It worked really well and did not in any way detract from their wedding.

It's worse to have guests either not turning up or turning up distracted/resentful than it is to find some way to let them watch or follow the football.
I personally wouod see those people not turning up as a good thing..... they Obvioulsy arentvthat bothered about the wedding anyway are they?

I also believe that peoplemwiuod then spend the rest if the evening taking abiut sauf football match, thebgoals or no goals etc etc.

If you really hate football or dint care, that will be fun won’t it?
Fun for the other guests and fun for the bride and groom...

Maybe it’s time to remembervthat it’s not right to impose your choice and taste in other people - in that case, not everyone has to enjoy watching Football!

I would put it on (provided it didn’t clash with any important parts). I’m not a football fan, but so recognise that it’s really important to some people. I wouldn’t begrudge them a 90 minute break from the proceedings. In fact, I reckon if the B&G could coordinate it at the same time as the photos, that’d be perfect!

I went to a wedding a number of years ago under the same circumstances. The bride didn't embrace it and we thought it was a bit daft of her husband to have not double checked the dates considering how football mad he is.

So at kick off the venue looks like the Mary Celeste as half the men have gone to the nearest pub to watch the game including her Dad, the best man and the ushers. And then surprise, surprise, England lost and the party just couldn't get going again (the £8 price of a single vodka and coke didn't really help though to be fair).

She looks back on it with regret as she wished she'd asked for a big screen TV to keep the guests entertained instead of losing half her guests...

Also this is totally one of those threads that's going to end up in the Fail or similar, so tailor comments accordingly!

I'm getting married this summer (after it's finished) and neither me or my DP care about football. All those saying if you get married during the World Cup what do you expect - neither of us genuinely would have considered that the games may clash with the wedding, just wouldn't have crossed my mind.

I feel bad for that bride, I think I'd feel the same!

If it goes to penalties, the match could be on from 3.00 - 5.30 pm.

People will have accepted the invite months ago, and it would have took some planning and real football prioritising to say I won't go because England MIGHT be playing in a QF that day.

The bride has got to incorporate this into her wedding. It is the most important day of her life to date probably, but for her guests it's just a nice thing to go to and certainly something not worth missing a possible once in 30 years occasion for the England football team.

Hopefully it will coincide with that dreadful bit of the wedding where the bride and groom go and pose for hours on end for expensive , contrived photographs whilst leaving the guests bored stupid.

Although I can appreciate it's exciting that England are doing well, she only gets one wedding day.

I'd show it and do photos while the game is on.

How does that work if close family or members of the wedding party, who will be wanted in the photos, are also the kind of people who refuse to prioritise a wedding over football (like many on this thread)?

I am not anti-football, but it simply isn't that important. Imo, if someone would choose not to attend a wedding because it clashed with a match, they weren't worth inviting to start with.

I also believe that peoplemwiuod then spend the rest if the evening taking abiut sauf football match, thebgoals or no goals etc etc.

If England hadn't qualified, it's entirely likely that the people at the wedding who would be talking about football would still be talking about football. Unless there's a social rule for weddings where topics of conversation must not deviate from a pre-approved list of topics, including: How lovely the bride is, "That weather", "How's aunt Doris?", uncle Bertie's funeral and "surely that can't have been the last time I saw you?".