Wedding day....England are playing?????

[arghhhhhhh]

Just been on fb and someone I know (though not well and I am nit invited to the wedding!) is getting married on Saturday. Obviously England are playing.

She has it a status on saying she has had multiple requests from guests wanting to know if the football will be shown.

Her status basically says she's angry at the messages she's had and under no circumstances will the football be shown. It's her wedding and the day is about that and that only. She's asked that no one checks their phones during the match and is even going to have a sign made for when people enter the venue as a reminder it's a football free zone.

Now she's had a fair few comments - a couple even say they wouldn't attend if they were invited due to her attitude.

What's everyone's opinions?

Me personally, I'd show it! I love football though, I've followed the World Cup through out and I'd be gutted if I couldn't watch it! I'd be making arrangements with the venue to make sure it's on.

The atmosphere would be amazing. I'd be jumping around with everyone else in my dress.....

Also a great way to break up the day. The day goes so fast for the bride and groom but the day guests....it can be such a long and tiring day. What a great way to break up the day!

Also, we are doing well, we haven't been in this situation where we may actually have a good chance of WINNING!!!! for years and probably never will again. The whole country is routing for them. Even people who don't like football are into it. I just don't think it's fair to expect people not to watch it, or not even check their phones!

Saying that....I do understand this lady's frustrations. She's been planning this wedding for over a year. I got married quite recently and know the stress etc of planning....but yeah, wouldn't make any difference to me. I'd be so excited for it to be shown!

Opinions? Is she being unreasonable? It's her and her partners day at the end of it.....I'd be worried my guests wouldn't show up though....

What has bloody football got to do with her wedding? If it wasn't for facebook this discussion wouldn't have happened and people might have had the manners to behave themselves. Very very rude to want to watch it during a wedding. Watch the replay

Admittedly I have never married and never will, but if I was throwing a big party I know perfectly well that a good 50 % of the people I would want to invite dislike all sport and particularly men's football (which is partly why they are the sort of people I would want to invite to a party.)
The other problem with being pressured to interrupt your party for a men's football match is that there will be several guests who dislike it or are bored by it and who will also resent the event being interrupted for an hour or so while other guests stand and bawl at a television.

Yes I would imagine a world cup England game is more important than a friend's wedding, to a lot of people. I care about my friends but can't say I actually really 'cared' about their wedding days - surely the only wedding day you really 'care' about is your own?

Or maybe it's just me - but then I never wanted to do the whole big 'look at meeeee on my special day' thing anyway - I just wanted to get married.

Seriously @ReanimatedSGB? You despise sport because people love to watch it?

I understand the predicament. I planned a bit fancy-shmancy wedding and would have been a bit fed up with the clash, but if she 'bans people from checking phones', they are not going to suddenly 'not care' about the game and there will be those who try to 'find a bar'' etc.

Far better to be a bit fed up but try to incorporate and accomodate.

Personally, love the World Cup and would accomodate at mine - or a Wimbledon final for example, but possibly draw the line at Darts :)

She needs to show the match. It's only a couple of hours out of probably a long day. She needs to make the best of it not have half the guests not turn up and the others annoyed and resentful.

Sweden will will I'm afraid. Very organised and hard working team. If England lose it will ruin the mood a bit. If I was a guest I would definitely be sitting refreshing the score though.

I do feel for her, honest I do, but I'm sat here imagining half the church watching the match on their phones and the inopportune moments that goals could occur:

Priest: Does anyone know of any just cause why these two should not be wed?
Congregation: Yaayyyyyyyyyyy

Priest: I know pronounce you man and wife:
Congregation: Nooooooooooo!!!!

I can understand her not wanting to be upstaged by the football but she sounds like she's being a rather snotty about it which is obviously going to get people's backs up.

www.thesun.co.uk/world-cup-2018/6693102/england-sweden-world-cup-quarter-final-wedding-weekend/

She can only ban people looking up results if she bans phones in general, which I'm sure people would have a seperate problem with. But I don't think it's insane to have to go without watching it. If you had to work you would have to miss it. If people want to watch it that bad they can skip the wedding, they clearly aren't that close to the bride and groom.

I catered for a wedding once that landed on World Cup final day. The bride gave in and provided a large tv at the reception as people threatened to chose the football over the wedding.

I despise the way people who like watching other people do sport think that this is more important than anything else, and that liking sport is an excuse to screw up someone else's party.

Weddings are often so incredibly boring and unmemorable. I think watching the football would bring a real buzz to an otherwise really dull day (for most people)

I am going to a wedding on Saturday. The ceremony is at 3pm . I haven't spoken to the bride and groom but I imagine they will have it on after the ceremony, otherwise you run the risk of people disappearing to watch it. Rather just embrace it!

I know a friend who is supposed to be going to this wedding but they are going to cancel to watch the football! Well it might not be the same but I have seen a similar post on Facebook for a wedding this weekend!

The wedding could have been booked a year or two ago. Would it have occured to anybody to think about the World Cup or any other sporting event when setting a date? Doubt it.

It's not like it's the final. Bloody rude to expect a football match to be part of someone's wedding if they don't want it to be.

She can't fight this - if England are playing in the World Cup quarters then a significant proportion of her guests will want to watch it. I know I would!

Her best bet is to find a way to make it work - tv in a room at the venue and have the photos during the match? Weddings can be a bit tedious at the best of times so her guests will thank her.

If you ban it outright the sports fans will find a way to watch it - either by not attending, checking their phones or sloping off to a bar...

I really have no interest in football, I mean I'm glad they are doing well and all but I don't watch it and there's absolutely no way it would be shown at my wedding. I don't think she is asking too much at all.

Well if I was invited and I had the choice between a wedding and football, I wouldn't be going to the wedding unless they showed it.

I hate football but I'd have it on if Ireland were playing. Otherwise, won't everyone be in the hotel bar having more craic? It's only on for a while.

I’m sort of with her - a bit of discreet checking during the reception if they absolutely have to but not during the ceremony, and in any case it would be so rude to let it intrude. It’s just a game, no matter how it is hyped up to be important. There was a major sporting event on during our wedding ( we couldn't have known when booking ) and there was some good natured checking and joking during the later part of the reception but not disproportionate disruption.

Unless it actually clashes with the ceremony, then I think she needs to accept that people will watch it regardless so should try and see if the venue will show it somewhere. However a lot of people won't want to watch it and having it on at the reception (especially with the sound on) is rude to those people.

I don't watch football, but there are some sports which are very important to me and I'd miss any event, friend and family weddings included, to watch big games/races/fights.

I would absolutely HATE it.
Because I have football myself so no, having the football on and in effect having people telling me that the match is more important than the wedding they are at wouldnt go down well with me.
Id rather them not come tbh. At least I wouod know who wouod see me as a person more important to them that 11 guys in shorts running around after a ball.

I wouldn't show football at my wedding (neither would I have a sign up about it though)

@Aprilshouldhavebeenmyname why would you have blue in your outfit for England? your flag is red and white.

Theotherproblem with being pressured to interrupt your party for a men's football match is that there will be several guests who dislike it or are bored by it and who will also resent the event being interrupted for an hour or so while other guests stand and bawl at a television.

True! Why should football fans get prioritised above other guests?

I don't mind football, but I don't go to weddings to watch football on TV. I go to see the ceremony, to catch up with family and friends who I may not see often etc.

Considering the last time England were in a World Cup quarter final was 2006, I think watching it is exactly comparable in terms of magnitude to attending a friend's wedding, when you consider the divorce rate and how likely subsequent wedding days are.

And while it might not seem like a big deal on an individual level, an event like a World Cup quarter final plays a lot more into the national psyche than a non-state wedding. And I say that as a Sweden fan miserable Scot