Wedding day....England are playing?????

[arghhhhhhh]

Just been on fb and someone I know (though not well and I am nit invited to the wedding!) is getting married on Saturday. Obviously England are playing.

She has it a status on saying she has had multiple requests from guests wanting to know if the football will be shown.

Her status basically says she's angry at the messages she's had and under no circumstances will the football be shown. It's her wedding and the day is about that and that only. She's asked that no one checks their phones during the match and is even going to have a sign made for when people enter the venue as a reminder it's a football free zone.

Now she's had a fair few comments - a couple even say they wouldn't attend if they were invited due to her attitude.

What's everyone's opinions?

Me personally, I'd show it! I love football though, I've followed the World Cup through out and I'd be gutted if I couldn't watch it! I'd be making arrangements with the venue to make sure it's on.

The atmosphere would be amazing. I'd be jumping around with everyone else in my dress.....

Also a great way to break up the day. The day goes so fast for the bride and groom but the day guests....it can be such a long and tiring day. What a great way to break up the day!

Also, we are doing well, we haven't been in this situation where we may actually have a good chance of WINNING!!!! for years and probably never will again. The whole country is routing for them. Even people who don't like football are into it. I just don't think it's fair to expect people not to watch it, or not even check their phones!

Saying that....I do understand this lady's frustrations. She's been planning this wedding for over a year. I got married quite recently and know the stress etc of planning....but yeah, wouldn't make any difference to me. I'd be so excited for it to be shown!

Opinions? Is she being unreasonable? It's her and her partners day at the end of it.....I'd be worried my guests wouldn't show up though....

"Yet another wedding reception"

How many weddings do you lot get invited to?

Rude and ungrateful.

Well the weddings I've been to have been fun occasions to catch up with relatives etc over a nice meal and some drinks and dancing.

Shame for the those on this thread where they've been a tortuous occasion to be endured.

or you could go to cheeky’s barbecue?

I probably have a couple of spare seats because I still haven't heard from the guests who are going to arrive a bit late but definitely before the kick-off.

Shame, because they're neighbours who moved in a couple of months ago and I invited them to introduce them to other neighbours they've not yet met. They likely won't come. That'll make a good impression.

I've liked pretty much all the weddings I've been to, but then I've never been to one where the bride has facebooked the guests to tell them the day is about her wedding only and that they're not allowed to use their phones. I feel like that's a factor we might have to control for in our research.

m.youtube.com/watch?v=6UW_fHm7SQo

It is of course lovely to be invited to a wedding, and often lovely to go to a wedding. However, for those of us with large families who have also married into large families, there are a LOT of weddings. Dozens. Most of them blur into one after a while 😬

Just counted 25 straight off and I am sure there are more.

I'm not keen on attending weddings either, but it would have the edge on a football match. If I arrived at a wedding that was showing a football match I'd think I'd arrived in hell.

OP are you aware that this post has made the news? I've just seen it on birmingham mail's Facebook page.

@myusernameisnotmyusername yes lol, it was in the mirror yesterday. Headline was something along the lines of 'bride refuses to show footy so guests threaten to boycott wedding'....not the case lol.

Also in another it referred to me as her good friend who was wanting advice for her - I'm not. Barely know the woman which I've stated from the beginning lol

@Bobbydeniro69

What horrible sneery attitudes towards football there are on here.

I get that some people aren't interested, but let's not demonise ' men's football' because it's something you don't like.

As it happens, for a lot of people, England doing well in a World Cup in our most popular sport transcends normal boundaries of what people are interested in.

This is about national pride without the nastiness that comes with it. Reclaiming the St Georges flag for a short while from the knuckle dragging scum that normally where it.

Maybe I hate arrogant attention seeking brides as much as some people hate ' men's football' , but I acknowledge that is just my opinion and others believe in them ' having their special day.

The bride in question has now hopefully realised she can't control the world and everyone in it, and that she might have to make a compromise.

Excellent post. Best post on here!!!

I am pissed off with the ridiculous attitudes towards football, (and also the football fans,) on here, and I am also sick of denial from some that most of the population of England is excited about it.

Some people need to realise that refusing to like something popular does not make them cool and edgy, or more interesting, or more intelligent, or better in any way. The posters on here this past couple of weeks who are bashing people who like the football (and the people who like Love Island,) are just coming across as dicks who think they're better than anyone else. They are also coming across as miserable mood hoovers.

I seriously pity the people who are so negative about this whole world cup, and I actually don't trust anyone who isn't excited about it tbh.

Having said that, I don't know a living soul who isn't excited about it now. Men, women, children, young and old, and different classes and professions... From the Vicar, and the local Court Judge, to the workmen who came to fix our fence last week, from the workers in Lidl, to the nurse who gave me a blood test last week. Also teachers, police officers, water board workers, gardeners, lawyers, you name it.

As per usual it's just individuals in the parallel universe of mumsnet who have (supposedly) 'not a jot of interest in it!' I don't know a soul in real life who isn't excited about it.

@ReanimatedGB

The type of men's football fan I find most annoying is actually the middle class twats who think it makes them cool/edgy/street to watch men's football and talk about it endlessly. Those are the ones who keep insisting that men's football 'unifies the country' (no it doesn't, as is clearly shown here: lots of people don't give a toss about it and some actively loathe it) or that there's something wrong with people who don't like it or who find the screaming and the aggression associated with it upsetting.

I agree with @waterlego What a ridiculous post!

I’m not interested in it, not in the slightest

Just been to buy some booze and BBQ supplies. There's a great atmosphere everywhere already, nervous excitement and anticipation.

Some people need to realise that refusing to like something popular does not make them cool

But. . . . people who don't like football aren't 'refusing' to like it. They simply don't like it. They can't wake up in the morning and decide to like it because there's a lot of it about. It being popular, and there being a lot of it about makes them like it even less.

I'm not refusing to like football. How would that even work?

@chrisinthesun I know plenty of people who aren't excited about it. You're wrong.

It's just bloody boring. I don't like watching any sport and just because this particular event is popular it doesn't make it any less dull to me.

I definitely don't think this makes me "cool and edgy". Quite the opposite. In order to try fit in and get involved in the supposed excited atmosphere I have tried to watch England games with friends in the past. It's so fucking dull! And so fucking weird when grown ups break of mid conversation to start shouting and clapping at a t.v. screen.

I don't enjoy it and I'm not going to pretend I do. Thankfully I'm not in my twenties any more and don't care if this means not fitting in.

Unless you mean refusing to pretend to like football.

PS out of interest, why are people calling it "men's football" and not just football?

@likeacrow I am not WRONG when I say I DON'T KNOW ANYBODY in real life who isn't excited about the world cup right now. I fucking don't!

Don't talk such rot!

Really? We're not! We half planned a trip to peppa pig world today as we thought it would be quieter but I cant manage direct sun for that long!

I wouldnt want to be stuck in watching tv on a nice day - we're going to some woods to play instead!

@chrisinthesun

Ooh, shouty! You can meet me, my sister, my mum, some mates from uni and a few colleagues if you like. Then you'll have met more than one person IRL who, shock horror, doesn't give a tiny rat's about this ball game bollocks. Plus it seems like we'd get on great...

Why do people say record it and watch it later. Whilst that is technically possible, it's practically impossible. The likely lads could barely manage to not find out the score in 1974. In the social media age, it will be impossible not to find out before watching it later.

It's all a moot point as the ceremony will be over now and surely that's the important bit. A party where I won't know many people isn't the most interesting of occasions and certainly I'd be wanting to keep an eye (at worst) on the match.

Having said that, I don't know a living soul who isn't excited about it now. Men, women, children, young and old, and different classes and professions... From the Vicar, and the local Court Judge, to the workmen who came to fix our fence last week, from the workers in Lidl, to the nurse who gave me a blood test last week. Also teachers, police officers, water board workers, gardeners, lawyers, you name it

That might be them being polite because you keep bringing it into the conversation. I work in a shop with hundreds of customers every day, and not one person has mentioned football. I expect if I'd enthusiastically asked each of them if they were looking forward to the football, the vast majority would have responded politely and said yes.

likeacrow same I know people who couldn't care less. Rugby they follow and Intrested in that and six nations etc but rather do anything else then watch a game of football. Each to their own. They do exist though..

I'm a Chelsea fan so it's different but for some reason not as overly fussed about the word Cup. Maybe cause not blown away by England so far and know what they're like.. Hopefully this time round be different.

Do people not find it exciting to be invited to a wedding?! I do. It's a lovely occasion, plus there's usually free booze & food, entertainment.

It's fine if it's somewhere that's easy enough to get to, but when it's some country barn in the middle of nowhere, and requires 2 nights in a hotel, having to book a taxi about 7 days in advance to get from the venue back to the B&B (because it's the country and there's one cab firm for miles around, and no phone signal), it takes up an entire weekend and costs a fortune for travel and accommodation.