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Wedding day....England are playing?????

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arghhhhhhh · 04/07/2018 15:11

Just been on fb and someone I know (though not well and I am nit invited to the wedding!) is getting married on Saturday. Obviously England are playing.

She has it a status on saying she has had multiple requests from guests wanting to know if the football will be shown.

Her status basically says she's angry at the messages she's had and under no circumstances will the football be shown. It's her wedding and the day is about that and that only. She's asked that no one checks their phones during the match and is even going to have a sign made for when people enter the venue as a reminder it's a football free zone.

Now she's had a fair few comments - a couple even say they wouldn't attend if they were invited due to her attitude.

What's everyone's opinions?

Me personally, I'd show it! I love football though, I've followed the World Cup through out and I'd be gutted if I couldn't watch it! I'd be making arrangements with the venue to make sure it's on.

The atmosphere would be amazing. I'd be jumping around with everyone else in my dress.....

Also a great way to break up the day. The day goes so fast for the bride and groom but the day guests....it can be such a long and tiring day. What a great way to break up the day!

Also, we are doing well, we haven't been in this situation where we may actually have a good chance of WINNING!!!! for years and probably never will again. The whole country is routing for them. Even people who don't like football are into it. I just don't think it's fair to expect people not to watch it, or not even check their phones!

Saying that....I do understand this lady's frustrations. She's been planning this wedding for over a year. I got married quite recently and know the stress etc of planning....but yeah, wouldn't make any difference to me. I'd be so excited for it to be shown!

Opinions? Is she being unreasonable? It's her and her partners day at the end of it.....I'd be worried my guests wouldn't show up though....

OP posts:

Boxerbinky · 07/07/2018 06:35

@ReanimatedSGB exactly 👏🏻

Sunnyjac · 07/07/2018 07:09

If it was that important to people to watch football why did they accept the invitation?

Oysterbabe · 07/07/2018 07:18

Enjoy the men's football today everyone!

Candyflip · 07/07/2018 07:22

Sunnyjac Because how did anyone know England would be in the quarter final? I think the bride and groom were foolish to have their wedding during the World Cup, but it is not as foolish to accept, because you can always blow it off when more important things, like the World Cup, happen. 😂 I wonder if the groom will even turn up..

waterlego6064 · 07/07/2018 07:27

Still not seeing any evidence that any of the guests have demanded that the B&G show the game. Some of them have asked but that isn’t the same thing.

Curtainshopping · 07/07/2018 07:28

I’ve been thinking about this and wondering why it’s so important to WATCH the whole match. You can keep up with the score discreetly on your mobile, or find out at the end, and then watch the goals etc. back later. Is it so important to be watching the exact moment the goal goes in?

I can see why the experience of watching the game would be good, but that would be in a pub or at home where you can jump around and cheer, which you’re not going to have anyway now....

sashh · 07/07/2018 07:39

Football is a big part of our culture and it’s wrong to try to deny that just because you personally don’t like it.

Actually it isn't, not for everyone.

And even if it is part of YOUR culture you should not impose that on a B and G who share a different culture.

I've been to dry weddings, in my culture wedding = alcohol but when it is someone's culture not to drink I didn't. I would not have messaged over facebook asking if there would be a bar and threatening to not come.

I've been to weddings where you sit on the floor, I've been to one in a back garden, you go along with the wedding party and their culture.

Nearlyadad · 07/07/2018 07:47

We got married during the European Championships, didn’t cross my mind for a minute to check the fixtures and no way would he have had it on, but can’t imagine our guests being that bothered. Can’t they all sky plus it? Either England go out and they’ll be sad, or they’ll win, and there’ll be another match to watch next week.

As someone who’s been following the World Cup quite avidly btw. Some things are just more important!

MisstoMrs · 07/07/2018 07:50

We have a similar situation with my DDs birthday party today. I’m happy to have the TV on in the playroom for those who want to watch, but I won’t have it on in the open plan room that lets onto the garden where the food and presents will be. I’m taking a lot of stick for this from my in laws but I think I’m being reasonable. I get people may want to watch but it’s still my Dds party and I want the focus on her.

Imsodonewithshit · 07/07/2018 07:58

We aren't into football as a famiky...I didnt even know the world cup was on let alone to know match dates.

8 years ago no one came to my son's birthday party because it was in the middle of an England match.

I understand the bride..it's just sport. This is her wedding day. I'd be very upset too...But unlike a birthday party its too expensive to just shrug it off.

3pm could be when the ceremony is.? So it depends on timings. There is often some down time between the ceremony and the evening meal... if the game fit in their then fine. But otherwise it could alter the wedding significantly.

I really feel sorry for the bride.

Candyflip · 07/07/2018 08:03

We haven’t got this far in over a decade. I personally don’t think other people’s weddings are important to anyone other than the couple. I think there are a lot more people that think like me.

Andro · 07/07/2018 08:21

I don’t agree it’s rude to ask.

Seriously? Not only is it rude, it's potentially incredibly offensive to the host(s).

MillieMoodle · 07/07/2018 08:31

DH and his family are huge Spurs fans so we booked our wedding when we knew Spurs weren't playing but the match got changed to our wedding day. We did have people ask whether we would have the match on but I wasn't offended in the slightest; we'd already decided we would. We had a big TV showing the game on in the bar. I didn't mind, I like football and when I married him I knew I was marrying Spurs as well

We also had a guest not turn up as her boyfriend was playing in a cup game against a premier league team that day. Our wedding was a big day for us, but that day was massive for his career so it was only right that she was there to see it.

I wouldn't have booked my wedding for when the World Cup is on but if I had, I would definitely have the England game on!

CheekyCapsicum · 07/07/2018 08:36

Having a bbq this aft at 2pm, planned a couple of weeks ago without the football in mind. The World Cup does not exist in my frame of reference. Had a text from one of the guests yesterday saying he and his dp will be half an hour or so late but will definitely get here before kick-off. That's rather presumptuous!

I texted back to say that we and none of the other guests are planning to watch the football and hope that won't be a problem for him.

Radio silence.

Lweji · 07/07/2018 08:42

Again...
This is the main problem with the bride:
It's her wedding and the day is about that and that only. She's asked that no one checks their phones during the match

It's silly, selfish and self centered to think that the day is only about her. For most guests it's more important for England to go through than whether she gets married or not. Her wedding has virtually no impact in their lives.

And it will be impossible for people not to learn the result before they can watch the recorded version.

DevilsDoorbell · 07/07/2018 08:43

Good luck to all those getting married today. Or going to a wedding as a guest. Have a fantastic day whether you have the footie on or not!

BitOutOfPractice · 07/07/2018 08:48

If it was that important to people to watch football why did they accept the invitation?

Erm, maybe they didn't realise the WC was on. Maybe they didn't expect England to get this far. Maybe they thought England would win their group and would have played their quarter final last night. Maybe they assumed the match would be shown at the wedding. That's 4 ideas there. I'm sure there are more

CheekyCapsicum · 07/07/2018 08:52

Her wedding has virtually no impact in their lives

Like, some other blokes winning a football match in another country will change their lives forever. That makes complete sense.

chocolateworshipper · 07/07/2018 08:55

For most guests it's more important for England to go through than whether she gets married or not
Why accept the invite then?

We often see the phrase "bridezilla" on MN, well I now give you ... "guestzilla"

Actually, I think from now on I'm going to ask for something at all weddings. Wedding evening do on a Thursday night? Can you please show Mock The Week on a big screen. Wedding when Chris Hemsworth is in anything at all on TV - please show that on a big screen (obviously I'd apologise in advance for the drooling).

Candyflip · 07/07/2018 08:57

No cheeky but it is a hell of a lot more exciting to watch!

GameOfMinges · 07/07/2018 09:00

I feel sorry for the bride, I would feel sorry for the groom, but given that he's actually a football fan (so all the posts about how maybe the couple don't care are wrong) he was an idiot not to check in the first place.

I also feel really sorry for the guests. Having to go to a wedding, because it's not like most of them will realistically be able to get out of it, where the bride thinks a reasonable response to what may well have just been a couple of people asking if the venue had a screen they could check now and then, is to ban phones and dictate topics of conversation. If she's that rude and batshit, and it most certainly is rude and batshit despite some of the more strangulated attempts to justify it in this thread, you'd be afraid of what else she's going to do. What next, banning bog breaks from 3-5 in case anyone uses the opportunity to behave in a non-approved manner?

Also, I knew the DM would be here. Hi turd slurpers. Fuck Brexit.

likeacrow · 07/07/2018 09:00

@Candyflip I'd much rather watch friends or family get married than watch a football match. Yawn!!

Candyflip · 07/07/2018 09:02

Maybe the bride could call you when half her guests don’t turn up then crow or you could go to cheeky’s barbecue?

Ifailed · 07/07/2018 09:02

Like, some other blokes winning a football match in another country will change their lives forever. That makes complete sense.

If these blokes win that football match, a lot of people will enjoy the moment far more than yet another wedding reception, and are likely to recall the football match with fondness, the wedding as a tedious side note.

By the time the match is played, the bride and groom will be married - the whole point of the event. Eating a mass-catered meal with a glass of warm wine is never going to be particularly memorable, no matter how 'quirky' the wedding favours are; not even if the guests are 'enjoying' matching seat backs.

likeacrow · 07/07/2018 09:03

Do people not find it exciting to be invited to a wedding?! I do. It's a lovely occasion, plus there's usually free booze & food, entertainment.

Obv the actual ceremony bit can be a bit dull esp if it's a long religious do or something, but still preferable to watching football on tele.

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