Wedding day....England are playing?????

[arghhhhhhh]

Just been on fb and someone I know (though not well and I am nit invited to the wedding!) is getting married on Saturday. Obviously England are playing.

She has it a status on saying she has had multiple requests from guests wanting to know if the football will be shown.

Her status basically says she's angry at the messages she's had and under no circumstances will the football be shown. It's her wedding and the day is about that and that only. She's asked that no one checks their phones during the match and is even going to have a sign made for when people enter the venue as a reminder it's a football free zone.

Now she's had a fair few comments - a couple even say they wouldn't attend if they were invited due to her attitude.

What's everyone's opinions?

Me personally, I'd show it! I love football though, I've followed the World Cup through out and I'd be gutted if I couldn't watch it! I'd be making arrangements with the venue to make sure it's on.

The atmosphere would be amazing. I'd be jumping around with everyone else in my dress.....

Also a great way to break up the day. The day goes so fast for the bride and groom but the day guests....it can be such a long and tiring day. What a great way to break up the day!

Also, we are doing well, we haven't been in this situation where we may actually have a good chance of WINNING!!!! for years and probably never will again. The whole country is routing for them. Even people who don't like football are into it. I just don't think it's fair to expect people not to watch it, or not even check their phones!

Saying that....I do understand this lady's frustrations. She's been planning this wedding for over a year. I got married quite recently and know the stress etc of planning....but yeah, wouldn't make any difference to me. I'd be so excited for it to be shown!

Opinions? Is she being unreasonable? It's her and her partners day at the end of it.....I'd be worried my guests wouldn't show up though....

There's an old motto: if you can't beat them, join them. Might as well, and everyone can enjoy themselves.

Everyone perhaps except the bride, someone who had put hours of work into planning the day...only for it to be hijacked by a sport she doesn't enjoy.

It's only a couple of hours. And if everyone is dancing later on, all the better.
Or guests refocus on the wedding.
No point in getting stroppy. People invest too much effort and money on bloody weddings anyway.

Will she want it to be remembered for all the wrong reasons?

If you'd prefer to watch the football than celebrate their marriage then you're not close friends and don't bother going anyway

Out of, say, 150 guests how many do you think are close friends anyway?

Will she want it to be remembered for all the wrong reasons?

Will she want to remember it for all the wrong reasons? (although in fairness I suspect that's already going to be the case)

And it's not either or. It's a small part of the day. There are few things with friends that take up entire days in exclusivity.

Important games are shown in some workplaces, even. I've been to congresses that have interrupted procedures to broadcast a key game. Congresses, even. Better than have everyone stop or disappear to check the game, or miss the entire day.

Will she want to remember it for all the wrong reasons? (although in fairness I suspect that's already going to be the case)

Yes, if she needs to threaten people and some won't attend.

That's what you get by being too self centered.

Lweji

I have to disagree about it being a small part of the day. People who are so invested that they'll ask the b+g to show a match on their wedding day are not likely to switch off after the final whistle, whether agony or ecstasy the rest of her day would likely have a distinct football flavour to it.

Plus, if she dislikes football that much, it's going to take over in her mind anyway.

They still will. That was my point.

People will find out the result one way or another.

Out of, say, 150 guests how many do you think are close friends anyway

Maybe she can save some money with people who aren't real friends coming and reducing costs!? 🤣🤣

The bride is just putting her hands over her ears and going la la la. It won't work.

I got married on FA Cup Final Day. No one expected us to have a frickin' TV at our reception! Although the radio was on in the kitchen and the scores were relayed via various people. The same year some friends got married during the world cup. England were playing in the evening and some people went into one of the guest bedrooms to watch. But that was well after the ceremony, reception and speeches and during the evening party. And it was before social media.

The match on Saturday is 3pm. Whatever time the wedding is, 3pm is likely to be part of the important bit. I would tell guests to suck it up but they could watch it afterwards on their ipads or whatever. If there's an easy way to show it on iplayer or whatever later, then fine. But no way should the happy couple have to change their plans to accommodate babies who can't keep their phones turned off for a few hours.

She's asked that no one checks their phones during the match and is even going to have a sign made for when people enter the venue as a reminder it's a football free zone.

This is where the bride is going wrong, not the not showing the game, which is understandable, although I still think she might as well.

The way I see it, is either England win - in which case there will be an even more important match for people to enjoy later, or England will lose - and that will just be disappointing to watch.
So no need to watch at all.
But then, I'm not a sports watcher.

If I were the bride I'd try to rejig the timings to enable football watching.

Personally, I'd change the wedding day. If England lose it won't be a happy wedding.

If you'd prefer to watch the football than celebrate their marriage then you're not close friends and don't bother going anyway. You wouldn't be present if you went to the wedding anyway.

The problem with this argument is that at every wedding, there are guests that the B&G are obliged to invite (partners of friends maybe, or some family members), and equally there are guests who accept out o LG a sense of obligation.

It's actually those people who are more inconvenienced by the bride's demand. She needs to ask herself if she'd prefer the empty seats.

I'm officiating at a 2pm wedding tomorrow. It's been planned for nearly 2 years. At the brides request, I'm starting the ceremony with an announcement about no phones... if you have to check them between 3-4.30, please do it discreetly. It's their big day so please be respectful

Personally, I'd change the wedding day

Yeah, cos she wouldn't lose any money by changing the wedding date with so many hours to go would she? FFS.

Change your wedding day for a stupid irrelevant men's football match? WTF? Cab some people really not understand that for most of the population it is a minor side show, with nasty aggressive undercurrents. I'd rather change my 'friends', frankly.

I’d rather people that thought football was more important not attend my wedding, quite honestly.

The bride and groom have paid for guests to be there, it’s really rude to even ask to watch the football!

I wouldn’t have a problem with checking phone for scores as long as it’s not during the ceremony though.

Well just on the daily mail and they have a story taken from Mumsnet and. Surprise surprise it's about this thread... don't know how to do a link to it...

I'm officiating at a 2pm wedding tomorrow. It's been planned for nearly 2 years. At the brides request, I'm starting the ceremony with an announcement about no phones... if you have to check them between 3-4.30, please do it discreetly.

Bloody hell. How long is that wedding ceremony?
If the bride is too late, then she only has herself to blame if people start checking their phones after 3pm.

I don’t agree it’s rude to ask. If one of my loved ones or close friends asked what I considered to be a CF question (eg ‘Do you mind if I propose to my girlfriend at your wedding, straight after the speeches?’ or ‘Do you mind if I sleep in your room as I can’t afford one’), then I would laugh and say ‘Not a chance, you cheeky fecker’. I don’t understand why anyone would get uptight about someone asking a (cheeky) question.

They’ve not asked if they can take a shit in the middle of the wedding cake.

I'm just so sorry for this bride. Maybe she hates men's football because she associates it with sectarian bullying, or her dad beating her mum. Maybe (because no one close to her is interested in men's football) it hadn't occurred to her that there would be some men playing with balls in another country on her wedding day, and she and her H2B and her family planned out a nice, enjoyable, expensive day - and all of a sudden guests are demanding that the focal point of the day is not the wedding, not the party, not the food, not the prebooked entertainment, but watching fucking television. And if she objects to this she's called a bitch and a bridezilla and told she has to suck it up and that she really ought to allow all her guests (never mind how many of them, like her, are not remotely interested in watching men run around after balls) to watch television or have their phones out all the time, because how dare she not accept that men's football is the most important thing in the world.
I really can't think of many other televised things that people would be told they must accept and feature at the event they have organised, because whatever they care about or have planned for is less important than watching television.

ReanimatedSGB

Bravo!! You articulated my feelings far better than I could!

THE most important day of their lives

Surely there must be an equivalence to Godwin's law for wedding related discussions, whereby once the above phrase is trotted out, the debate is over?