Wedding day....England are playing?????

[arghhhhhhh]

Just been on fb and someone I know (though not well and I am nit invited to the wedding!) is getting married on Saturday. Obviously England are playing.

She has it a status on saying she has had multiple requests from guests wanting to know if the football will be shown.

Her status basically says she's angry at the messages she's had and under no circumstances will the football be shown. It's her wedding and the day is about that and that only. She's asked that no one checks their phones during the match and is even going to have a sign made for when people enter the venue as a reminder it's a football free zone.

Now she's had a fair few comments - a couple even say they wouldn't attend if they were invited due to her attitude.

What's everyone's opinions?

Me personally, I'd show it! I love football though, I've followed the World Cup through out and I'd be gutted if I couldn't watch it! I'd be making arrangements with the venue to make sure it's on.

The atmosphere would be amazing. I'd be jumping around with everyone else in my dress.....

Also a great way to break up the day. The day goes so fast for the bride and groom but the day guests....it can be such a long and tiring day. What a great way to break up the day!

Also, we are doing well, we haven't been in this situation where we may actually have a good chance of WINNING!!!! for years and probably never will again. The whole country is routing for them. Even people who don't like football are into it. I just don't think it's fair to expect people not to watch it, or not even check their phones!

Saying that....I do understand this lady's frustrations. She's been planning this wedding for over a year. I got married quite recently and know the stress etc of planning....but yeah, wouldn't make any difference to me. I'd be so excited for it to be shown!

Opinions? Is she being unreasonable? It's her and her partners day at the end of it.....I'd be worried my guests wouldn't show up though....

WE arranged a BBQ months ago for Saturday. We’ve arranged a big screen and I can’t wait - atmosphere should be amazing. Not quite the same though I’ll admit 😳

She could look at it from another perspective: if England win (little prayer) no one will ever forget her wedding.

This happened to me in 1998. My parents (step father in particular) made a really really big deal out of it. So much so that whilst at first I wasn't particularly worried and kinda knew my step dad would have the TV on in the afternoon and wasn't phased by this eventually was so pissed off (because of threats by my mother and step dad) that took a stand and said NO FOOTBALL! Now my step dad is a major footie fan, so I fell hook line and sinker! Yes they had definite plans to watch the footie, but (bless them all) they had plans to ensure that I had the wedding of a life time. I'd always planned a 2 day wedding event. The friday was tiny, but the Saturday was the big (and for most evening) event. At 5.30pm whilst most of us were eating our pudding I heard a helicopter - not strange for anyone around the perimeter of the M25 for that is how they watch the traffic. But it landed. It landed for me! My darling dh and mum/step dad had ensured that the world cup game was of no issue. My brand new dh and I were whisked away to a hotel a few miles away via helicopter for our first night. (luckily my dh was not a big footie fan, but hell if he were we'd have not have arranged the date then!). That was 20 years ago (I think it was when they last did a decent anthem football song). I was teased mercilessly about my wedding guests watching the footie and on the day they did, but I was blissfully unaware in an amazing hotel having arrived via helicopter, to an enormous bottle of champagne and a loving card from the staff. The best bit was the small book of pictures given to me of the church ceremony that one of our dearest friends had taken and run to Tescos to get compiled then shoved into our hands as the helicopter prepared to depart. So yes its completely possible to have an amazing wedding during the world cup, even if you're not footie fans. And by the way...... We celebrated 20 years 2 weeks ago and yes if he suddenly appears unexpected he still has the ability to make me go weak at the knees. Sooooo In answer to the original question. The people closest to her - the bride - should have warned her/arrange the situation. That they haven't speaks volumes about their (hers and her family - and possibly his) about their inability to understand people generally. So my advice to OP - if you want to see the match live - don't go - they're not the kind of people worth your friendship if they can't understand your passion.

There's no other 'hobby' that everyone else is expected to care about.
If this were something the majority women cared about the idea of showing it at the wedding would be laughed at. But because it's a sport men do and men like we are all expected to curtail.

I think she made need to embrace it tbh. There's no point in making your guests miserable!! Will be such a great atmosphere and people will still have something to celebrate if they lose!! My wedding clashed with the Strictly Come Dancing final (I know, not quite on a World Cup scale 😉) and we ended up asking the staff to put it on at our reception!!

Id not go lol especially if she even putting a phone ban on. Screw that
Its fine to say she not showing it but to ban adults from checking their phone? Who she think she is, their parent?

Ive missed events just to watch a footy game, everyone who knows me knows this is possible when planning. First half of my nephews birthday last week i hid with my phone watching footy. No one cared.

The day I married my husband 11 years ago I kept having a sneaky look on my mobile phone to check the football scores! It was still prem season at the time at the beginning of May.

I think she is going to have people disappearing and some not coming

We get married tomorrow, hand on heart we didn’t have a clue - probably until England won the last game that it was likely they’d be playing. Even my dad who’s a massive football fan thought it would be Friday if any. Our reception venue is a village hall in the middle of nowhere, and we’ve specified that everyone needs to come back and not bugger off to the pub. They are welcome to use their phones to live stream and etc and we’ve moved the food slightly to accommodate. Fingers crossed it will be ok :)

@Oopsusernamealreadytaken

Good luck for tomorrow. Hope you have an amazing wedding day!

Thanks, likeacrow!

OP

OP thanks for the update.

Right those of you, who like me, hate football, lets organise a coach and go to the venue. We can act as 'fillers' like they do at the Oscars, when someone goes to watch football then one of us joins the wedding party.

There’s an exciting tennis match tomorrow too 😂

Have a lovely wedding day and well done for moving food

Sounds very sensible oops. Can't imagine why you weren't tempted to tell your dad he should've refused his invitation just in case, or tell the guests they're all banned from their phones, or assume that they'll all just have to put up because you're convinced they should...

Have a fab day!

www.itv.com/news/granada/2018-07-06/world-cup-wedding-football-fans-big-day-clashes-with-the-big-match/

Wonder if it’s them?

It's her wedding and the day is about that and that only

Anyone asked the groom's opinion? His day as well

First half of my nephews birthday last week i hid with my phone watching footy. No one cared.

Now that last sentence, I can believe. If you’re that rude, I’d rather you weren’t there as well.

Is it really beyond imagining that some of us who do not follow football ourselves do not begrudge those for whom it is a very important part of their lives? I’d say the same for Rugby, Athletics, tennis....

I have a lot of sports fans in my family. It enriches their lives, creates bonds with new family members, and helps them keep healthy, as they are motivated to participate in sports themselves.

And some o the assumptions on here about football fans are generalisations. Not all football fans are overweight men who’ve drink too much. There are plenty of women, children and pensioners enjoying football, as well as people from various different cultural backgrounds. It’s a unifying thing! (Unless you choose to allow your disinterest in it to make you angry).

I have no problem with people being interested in a game of football.

I do have a problem with people who would prioritise watching a game of football involving people they do not know and have never met, over the wedding of a family member or friend that they do know.

I think some of the comment here are truly sad. This lady has spent probably thousands of pounds for an event to celebrate her marriage. Now a bunch of people want to go, eat her food, drink her drink and ignore her to watch 2 hours of football? And they think it unreasonable that she says no?

All I can say is this. Either , go and focus on her wedding, or don't go. But if you do drop out at the last minute, be prepared to be downgraded as a friend. Deserting your friend at such short notice is NOT the action of a friend.

I am going to a wedding tomorrow and wouldn't dream of making such a request. I've made a commitment, and plan to stick to it.

"England World Cup tickets

A friend of mine has two tickets for England World Cup match in a corporate box. He paid £1000 for them including flights but he didn't realise when he bought them months ago that it was going to be the same day as his wedding . If you are interested he is looking for someone to take his place.

It’s at Kingston Registry office at 3pm. The brides name is Nicola, 5ft 4in, about 8 stone, quite pretty, has her own income and car and is a really good cook."

Lol!

Been to numbers of Saturday weddings when the local team has been on TV. Guests have been allowed to watch in a separate room. Their temporary 90 minute absence (mainly men) from the main event, has been barely noticed. Is it possibly a problem that a World Cup match would attract significantly more viewers distracting from the main event ?

Domestic violence increases after major men's football matches as does alcohol related brawling. I really do not understand the veneration some people afford this sport. Not everyone cares about men's football, we find the related mindless violence grim and resent having I seen shoved down our throats. Personally, I wouldn't have married a man who was a men's football fan. Maybe the bride should rethink her life choices? There is still time for her to walk away from this man and his charmless family.