Wedding day....England are playing?????

[arghhhhhhh]

Just been on fb and someone I know (though not well and I am nit invited to the wedding!) is getting married on Saturday. Obviously England are playing.

She has it a status on saying she has had multiple requests from guests wanting to know if the football will be shown.

Her status basically says she's angry at the messages she's had and under no circumstances will the football be shown. It's her wedding and the day is about that and that only. She's asked that no one checks their phones during the match and is even going to have a sign made for when people enter the venue as a reminder it's a football free zone.

Now she's had a fair few comments - a couple even say they wouldn't attend if they were invited due to her attitude.

What's everyone's opinions?

Me personally, I'd show it! I love football though, I've followed the World Cup through out and I'd be gutted if I couldn't watch it! I'd be making arrangements with the venue to make sure it's on.

The atmosphere would be amazing. I'd be jumping around with everyone else in my dress.....

Also a great way to break up the day. The day goes so fast for the bride and groom but the day guests....it can be such a long and tiring day. What a great way to break up the day!

Also, we are doing well, we haven't been in this situation where we may actually have a good chance of WINNING!!!! for years and probably never will again. The whole country is routing for them. Even people who don't like football are into it. I just don't think it's fair to expect people not to watch it, or not even check their phones!

Saying that....I do understand this lady's frustrations. She's been planning this wedding for over a year. I got married quite recently and know the stress etc of planning....but yeah, wouldn't make any difference to me. I'd be so excited for it to be shown!

Opinions? Is she being unreasonable? It's her and her partners day at the end of it.....I'd be worried my guests wouldn't show up though....

No, it would be if you were watching it on the telly.

I didn't realise the majority guests were active participants other than watching and making the same sort of comments that they could if they were watching it on the telly. Spectating.

Wow. I literally can't believe anyone would show the world cup at their wedding, I can't think of anything worse!! She's OTT to try to ban people looking at their phones though, that's going to happen whether she 'bans' it or not. The signs, etc. are ridiculous too. Hopefully she was joking!

I think she should just make it part of the day. How ever it turns out, their wedding will certainly be memorable.

Our wedding day: Euro 2000. England v Germany. Coincidentally reception at a football stadium who agreed to show the match in a side room so was fab as footie fans went into that room. Gave the other guests chance to have a catch up and the kids to do knee slides on the dance floor during match. Best memory of the whole day was England winning and all the footie room guests entering main room singing Three Lions. Didn’t want people turning up late to evening do so made it quite clear football would be on. No one forgets our wedding day! Bit difficult at 3pm but roll with it or expect several sudden ‘sickness bugs’

She sounds like a total Bridezilla.
Put a big screen up for those who want to watch it.
My mate got married the year of the messed up Grand National - all the guests and the bridal party had bets on and the bride made sure a TV was available. Nobody won, of course, as the race was declared void.
Then we carried on with the rest of the festivities.

I’m seeing the Cure at Hyde Park on Saturday. They’ve announced via NME that the football won’t be shown during the day. Now there are loads of tickets for sale on eBay. Even if she’s not into football she has to appreciate that a lot of people are.

Some people keep saying they should change the time of the ceremony.

Is it possible to even DO that once it's booked?

I'm running a wedding on Saturday and I'm dreading it tbh - speeches at 4 food straight after right in the middle of the game, Ive been hoping all week couple would ring to push food back because it'll be too late on the day. It'll be up to them whether we show it or not. I've had to book agency staff as our usually reliable casuals have said they can't work it.

I'd worry about what impact it'll have on the service they receive as well. I've told everyone to keep phones away but am sure staff will be asking guests score when I'm not around.

TBH it would annoy me a bit. Quite frankly football bores me and I can only assume the bride feels the same, so why should she be put through a game she's not interested in on her big day? I imagine she went to great lengths to organise some entertainment and is now being told her efforts are worth nothing to her guests. I think they should respect her wishes.

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You’ve got to embrace it, haven’t you?

Maybe the groom fancies watching it princesstwilightsparkle?

Maybe he does, maybe he can watch the matches that come after on say another day? Maybe he can watch the entire world cup next time round. Or all The other football that happens inbetween. The wedding won't be a next time round (you'd hope anyway ) .

When I got married my new sister-in-law disappeared to her hotel room after the ceremony to watch a football game (not a cup final, just a regular game) and she’s not in any of the wedding photos as a result. Her choice - I certainly didn’t make anything of it - but I did think it was incredibly rude and, if I’m honest, a wee bit pathetic. If I was your friend OP I wouldn’t want it shown at my wedding but I’d be fine with people checking scores etc

Poor woman. The very last thing i would want on my wedding day is football. I always root for whichever team England plays against in hopes it is over sooner and we get our regular tv back. Hope it doesn't spoil her day too much.

People that don’t care about or usyallly watch football will be excited about England being in quarter finals of World Cup esp after winning last game on penalties which bucks a very long trend. So ppl will be checking their phones & at least a little distracted no matter how polite they are if other ppl are following the match. If I were the bride I wouldn’t wanna try to compete & fail. I’d def try some compromise.

Some people keep saying they should change the time of the ceremony

Then perhaps they didn't notice OP's post saying the ceremony is at 12 noon?

I wouldn't want a tv showing the world cup at my wedding but I think the bride had lost all goodwill here; you can't police phones in that way. Despite not being too keen on footy I wouldn't ban people announcing the score and I like the idea of a compromise & showing it on a mute/low vol tv if possible to accommodate.

However, it's still our day and I would want certain aspects of it mine & DPs way - we don't do football. I purposely don't go to pubs that screen football, none of mine or DPs close relatives are especially in to football and quite a few would find it intrusive and vulgar to have a "big screening". Only 2 of DPs mates are proper footy fans and would hopefully feel accommodated as I'd love them there & wouldn't want to be a bridezilla. If not though, they'd be reminded that we go to quite a few events that they organise that are fun but more aimed at their tastes than ours mine. They can sit through a wedding.

With all their tips on how to plan the "perfect" wedding, do wedding magazines warn about "World Cup danger" when choosing a date, especially as many weddings are in the summer?

With our wedding, we chose our date very carefully indeed; taking into account when work leave was allocated, availability of the church etc. But football couldn't have been further from our minds. It wasn't a World Cup year, but it could easily have been. And it would have been right in the middle of it if so.

It's a queer thing. It's always the non football fans who are expected to accommodate the football fans isn't it, never the other way around!
While I think the bride will have a hard job policing people looking at their phones, if this guests really care more about the football match than the couple then frankly give their invite to someone else and good riddance!!
Though I think guests quickly checking their phones (other than during the ceremony/speeches) is perfectly fine and she is being a bit OTT about that, but I guess she is probably worried about some guests taking the piss by actually watching the match on their phones.
Life doesn't stop for football, I hate to break any bubbles but the World Cup really is just a game where grossly overpaid and easily hurt men kick a ball about for 90 minutes or so. The world doesn't stop for significant medical or scientific breakthroughs or Elections or things that, you know, might actually affect our daily life, but everyone, even non-fans, have to drop EVERYTHING for sport, especially football.

I'm expecting to get flamed but it's irked me all my life.

So funnily enough we have our families coming to a bbq on Saturday to celebrate our silver wedding anniversary. Everyone arriving 3pm. I’ve emailed everyone to confirm the telly will be on, but those who are not interested can sit outside in the garden and have a catch up. For those concerned about how we are celebrating, we also have a big ceilidh but we haven’t had a get totgether with all our parents,brothers and sisters and their children (and their partners) at once for years. it will be very relaxed. But quite different from a wedding which is a much more formal, and expensive, affair. I feel sorry for her, but I wouldn’t have booked a wedding at all during the World Cup. It’s asking for trouble.

Yes, that's the thing - most people who actively hate men's football and all the bullshit surrounding it are generally fine with other people's other hobbies and interests that they are not keen on. The contempt for men's football is usually based on years and years of inconvenience, harassment and outright bullying from people who cannot or will not accept that men's football is just of no relevance whatsoever to a lot of us. We've usually had at least one party or get together spoiled by someone insisting that the television be switched on, and then no one else can have a conversation because of the bawling and bellowing; we'll have had nights when we fancy meeting mates in a pub spoiled because you can't find a pub that isn't full of baying knuckle-draggers throwing beer everywhere, and we'll have had to cover for colleagues who have skived off work to watch some men's football on the television (or, even worse, had to put up with televisions or radios being brought into work so everyone can scream and howl - and if you are trying to get on with your own work, people will keep coming up to pester you to pay attention to the men's football.)
If you're bored by something, you're bored by it. Constant harassment to pay attention to it makes you move from lack of interest to outright hatred.

And that's before you take into consideration the people who associate men's football with aggression and cruelty on a personal level - the ones who've experienced sectarian/tribal violence that they were too young to understand at the time, or whose fathers/brothers/uncles would come home fighting drunk on match days. There might actually be people at this wedding who find the 'atmosphere' of others watching men's football to be genuinely upsetting and frightening. Maybe even the bride feels like that.

Reanimated - you've summed up how I feel. It's based on years of domineering crap connected with it, some of which has surfaced on these threads.

There might actually be people at this wedding who find the 'atmosphere' of others watching men's football to be genuinely upsetting and frightening. Maybe even the bride feels like that

I travel to Leeds on the train quite often, and arriving in the afternoon of June 24th I found the station swarming with dozens and likely over a hundred police forming a barricade at the entrance and a huge presence within the station itself. It was really unnerving.
I asked one of them what had happened and he told me there had been a WC match. "But that was in RUSSIA!"

"Still causes plenty of trouble here" he told me.
Fortunately I'd missed the worst of it and my hotel has an entrance within the station so I didn't have to put up with the drunken yobs on the streets. It's really, really unpleasant to be around these fanatics.
Even just watching it in a pub, some men appear to take leave of their senses. That sort of atmosphere makes me feel pretty joyless as accused.

I've managed to barely notice the football is happening. My (male) DP has zero interest in football, nor do most of my friends. Even so, I think this bride might have to go with the flow - if i knew lots of football fans (god, why???) were coming to my wedding I'd probably just go with it...apparently there's no point fighting it, so I've heard 😀