Wedding day....England are playing?????

[arghhhhhhh]

Just been on fb and someone I know (though not well and I am nit invited to the wedding!) is getting married on Saturday. Obviously England are playing.

She has it a status on saying she has had multiple requests from guests wanting to know if the football will be shown.

Her status basically says she's angry at the messages she's had and under no circumstances will the football be shown. It's her wedding and the day is about that and that only. She's asked that no one checks their phones during the match and is even going to have a sign made for when people enter the venue as a reminder it's a football free zone.

Now she's had a fair few comments - a couple even say they wouldn't attend if they were invited due to her attitude.

What's everyone's opinions?

Me personally, I'd show it! I love football though, I've followed the World Cup through out and I'd be gutted if I couldn't watch it! I'd be making arrangements with the venue to make sure it's on.

The atmosphere would be amazing. I'd be jumping around with everyone else in my dress.....

Also a great way to break up the day. The day goes so fast for the bride and groom but the day guests....it can be such a long and tiring day. What a great way to break up the day!

Also, we are doing well, we haven't been in this situation where we may actually have a good chance of WINNING!!!! for years and probably never will again. The whole country is routing for them. Even people who don't like football are into it. I just don't think it's fair to expect people not to watch it, or not even check their phones!

Saying that....I do understand this lady's frustrations. She's been planning this wedding for over a year. I got married quite recently and know the stress etc of planning....but yeah, wouldn't make any difference to me. I'd be so excited for it to be shown!

Opinions? Is she being unreasonable? It's her and her partners day at the end of it.....I'd be worried my guests wouldn't show up though....

I think what he's saying is 'you can't tell me what to do'

Yeah, and that's a rude and childish way to treat the host of an event that you're voluntarily attending.

Also, I like that people are saying the bride is self-obsessed but this guest is literally saying 'but you don't understand! The football is important to MEEEEEE'

Yeah, I think I’d possibly have laughed. I don’t like the band in question (boy band), so I mightn’t have asked for selfies, but then neither would most of my guests. They have better taste than that ffs .

And re the room... well seeing as dh and I spent a grand total of about 7 hours in our suite, I don’t think we’d have minded a normal room or less fancy suite 🤷‍♀️.

It’s hard to say though. Maybe my acquaintance had a shock at quite an emotional moment, started crying and then couldn’t pull herself back for the rest of the day.

At least the bride in your op has had plenty of warning!

I'd embrace it. It was FA cup final day on our wedding & the ceremony etc was over by kickoff. You can't ignore the World Cup England match IN England???!!!!

It should only be 90 minutes & imagine the atmosphere afterwards. Whether we win or lose people will party.

Meh.

rhubarb if I'm reading it right she turned up to ceremony, so to walk up the aisle, and half the guests had buggered off? If it had happened during the reception I'd think it was a massive overreaction, but I can see turning up to your ceremony and first thinking that half the guests weren't there at all and then realising they had disrupted it to go see a famous person in the corridor being quite upsetting.

I think at the end of the day, she's received messages about the football which have pissed her off. It's less than a week to her wedding, she hates football etc.....it's stresssed her out big time and I understand that part.

However she should of just taken a step back calmly and rationally thought to herself 'what is the best option to take here?' Fair enough she doesn't want the football on.

However she's ruined it by her fb post. It can't be undone now - she tagged the guests I'm presuming sent her the messages in her post - everyone's seen it. It can't be undone.

If anything, it's her fb post that will causes an atmosphere on the day now - which is her doing. What If someone needs to use their phone for other reasons? They will probably feel like they can't. I think the atmosphere now is going to be awful because of this.

What she should of done is made it much more light hearted and less demanding.

I've also had a snoop and her h2b isn't on fb as far as I can see.

@MargaretCavendish but it is important to a lot of people lol. That's the point. Everyone has their opinions on football. If you hate it, you aren't going to understand the feelings of those it is important too. It's such a big deal to so many and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

Yes, that’s exactly it @margaret. I mean, what a weird thing for the guests to do too . I guess they thought they’d have time to nip out and back again in time. And why didn’t someone tell the bride to go away for a bit and then round up the guests? It really sounds quite poor by the (very fancy) hotel.

“It’s hard to say though. Maybe my acquaintance had a shock at quite an emotional moment, started crying and then couldn’t pull herself back for the rest of the day”.

From my last post^^. I think this is what it was.

Fron what I heard, it was all just too much and she couldn’t enjoy any of the day. She had a face like thunder, (apparently), during dinner and unhappy tears. I don’t blame her for being upset, but it’s just a shame for her that she couldn’t enjoy the day at all because of it.

I’d like to think I’d have laughed it off, but who knows?

As I say, at least the op’s bride has some warning, so the shock factor won’t be there.

She's got amazing weather for her wedding, I'd get a big screen and show it outside, reception location allowing. I'm not a football fan at all, but I've had a lot of fun watching the past couple of games with my son and husband - who do enjoy it. Yes it's their wedding, but as it's three hours post actual wedding service, she could easily incorporate a couple of hours into the day and still have hours and hours with the focus on them and their day. I think it would be an incredible atmosphere!
Even without showing the actual game though, I think it's 100% unreasonable to ban phones and match monitoring! That's what will be remembered now, that and her snarky FB post.

If it were my wedding and someone would rather watch a football game than come to my wedding then I'd be glad they didn't come and stayed home to watch it instead.
I would also request that people don't talk about it because it would be important to some of my relatives that they get to watch it themselves without already knowing the score. So if they are at my wedding, then accept that some people (who do take their football seriously) have the game recording at home. Don't be rude and ruin it for others. Focus on the wedding day and watch the game when you get home. It's not difficult to expect a wedding to not be about a bloody football game!

Sorry! Wrong thread! How embarrassing .

Have asked mn to delete.

Oh I don't know rhubarb - I think a post about mood swings is very relevant to a thread about football. And probably relevant to weddings too.

Thanks @chocolate. What a thing to post on the wrong thread 😂! Christ.

Lol rhubarb you've hit on the perfect solution. Bride, groom and all guests to be provided with mirena coils. Lovely favours that'd make!

I hope the chefs and waiting staff aren't football fans.........

@RhubarbRhubarbRhubarbRhubarb 😂😂😂😂

I've hugely enjoyed reading this thread. Not least because it has one of my very favourite posts on this site: (paraphrased) 'What's the point of watching a sport, because watching it won't affect the outcome.' I so adore this.

What is pointless is throwing in my two cents but still, to me the poster who said that the wedding is registering the marriage (and by extension perhaps the ceremony) but the reception is a party B&G are throwing for their guests had it spot on. The aim of a party is to do one's utmost to make the guests happy. I doubt you'd achieve that aim by insisting that they sacrifice something important to them in order to attend.

In general, I don't understand why all these people who hate weddings don't just politely decline the invitation in the first place. There's always so much whining about how boring and horrible it is to have to go to a party - just stay home. The couple and those guests who actually like weddings will be happier without any of you sitting around with a face like a smacked arse because you can't watch telly, or they didn't want your 'free-spirited' toddler as a bridesmaid or whatever.

Maybe the Bride can win people over if she changes the first dance to Hey Duggee's World Cup Kick Song?

accept that some people (who do take their football seriously) have the game recording at home. Don't be rude and ruin it for others.

This sounds like an episode from The Likely Lads. However, that pre-dated smart phones and the internet. You can't expect that people can cocoon themselves for a whole day and avoid knowing what the score is?

A lot of the people who want to watch won't actually be interested in the nitty gritty of the football, as such, and won't want to watch a recording. They're just wanting to be caught up in the moment of an event that has captured the nation. That's where the excitement comes in.

People saying that this men's football competition has 'captured the nation' remind me of all those fuckwits insisting that Brexit is the Will of The People. At least half the people in the country either don't care or actively dislike men's football.

And I pity anyone who has planned social events spoiled by someone insisting that whatever was planned be rearranged so that the person can watch television. Especially when you have fixed up an evening with a group of friends who are all equally uninterested in men's football and then one of them brings along a new partner who just expects that a television will be provided and that everything will have to stop so that men's football can be watched...

If someone wants to know how it's going, go to the loo, check your phone in the loo, come back and carry on. Seriously. There's no need to sit at the table during the meal or speeches with your phone out scrolling. Bride doesn't feel pissed off, you get to check scores. Simple.

Hahaha oh @gameofminges, I love the mirena favour idea! Could tie it up with ribbon or, personalised, in a fancy box with the date on! Classy like.

She can either throw her tiara out of the pram or she can just deal with it and not let it spoil her day.

This. I'd probably just give in to it and go for a big screen thing.

Love this story. It made me think of this thread - the sorts of people who would be checking their phones in the theatre are exactly the sort of people who wouldn't think twice about checking their phones during a wedding.

Unbelievable how selfish and rude people can be.