Wedding day....England are playing?????

[arghhhhhhh]

Just been on fb and someone I know (though not well and I am nit invited to the wedding!) is getting married on Saturday. Obviously England are playing.

She has it a status on saying she has had multiple requests from guests wanting to know if the football will be shown.

Her status basically says she's angry at the messages she's had and under no circumstances will the football be shown. It's her wedding and the day is about that and that only. She's asked that no one checks their phones during the match and is even going to have a sign made for when people enter the venue as a reminder it's a football free zone.

Now she's had a fair few comments - a couple even say they wouldn't attend if they were invited due to her attitude.

What's everyone's opinions?

Me personally, I'd show it! I love football though, I've followed the World Cup through out and I'd be gutted if I couldn't watch it! I'd be making arrangements with the venue to make sure it's on.

The atmosphere would be amazing. I'd be jumping around with everyone else in my dress.....

Also a great way to break up the day. The day goes so fast for the bride and groom but the day guests....it can be such a long and tiring day. What a great way to break up the day!

Also, we are doing well, we haven't been in this situation where we may actually have a good chance of WINNING!!!! for years and probably never will again. The whole country is routing for them. Even people who don't like football are into it. I just don't think it's fair to expect people not to watch it, or not even check their phones!

Saying that....I do understand this lady's frustrations. She's been planning this wedding for over a year. I got married quite recently and know the stress etc of planning....but yeah, wouldn't make any difference to me. I'd be so excited for it to be shown!

Opinions? Is she being unreasonable? It's her and her partners day at the end of it.....I'd be worried my guests wouldn't show up though....

I don’t really like football but I’d just show it and make the most of it.

The bad thing for her will be if we lose and people get down about it.

The bride wants the wedding to be all about the happy couple. Fine. If they wanted absolutely nothing to distract from their day, why didn't they take a few minutes to think about big national/international events that might clash? Obviously nobody can predict a royal wedding, given they tend not to be booked too far in advance, but the dates of the Wimbledon final, the World Cup, the FA cup, the Olympics and other major sporting fixtures are set years in advance. Unless you know that not a single guest is interested in sport, why go for one of those dates?

We got married on FA Cup Final day, and moved the reception time so we could have the match on in the bar. Been to several summer weddings which had world cup matches on.

If it was 700 kick off probably be easier to work around but cause its 300 and worse case on till 530 bit harder. Depends what times she has for everything happening

To put a complete ban on it is hard though! Know its their day but still cant stop people checking scores even if don't show the anywhere. Like said if things had gone the other day way we may have played the Friday so just unlucky in that sense for the clash.

I was brought up on the route between the station and the football ground and so generally detest the game - it is set up to annoy.

did watch last night and got quite into it - but really cannot imagine how normal people can get so upset if their team loses. emotion in spectator sport is a bit tragic.

so being miserable at a wedding - over a tv programme? get a life.

In the current climate when people genuinely think England can win the World Cup each match becomes part of a possible 'once in a life time' story ...to those fans it'll genuinely feel unmissable (I'm married to one)
I would feel sorry for anyone getting married on Saturday as to a lot of guests it'll be a massive distraction and the football will mean a lot more to them than the wedding rightly or wrongly

No way would I ruin my wedding by showing a football match. Why would someone who is not interested in it factor it into their wedding plans? I guess she will now discover who her friends are. I'd be upset if people had accepted the invitation and then dropped out because of this. I don't think she can realistically stop people looking at their phones but absolutely NBU to veto a chavtastic big screen at the reception if she's been dreaming of elegant table settings and champagne (or similar).

I would make sure the match was screened at the venue, otherwise I think you run the risk of people surreptitiously sneaking out to check their phones, or friends of the bride attending and their partners just not turning up until later. And yes, that would be incredibly rude but I can predict it will happen.
I think the couple have been a bit unlucky, in that not many would've predicted England would do as well as they have and, even if you were confident they would reach the quarters, two of those games are being played on Friday anyway. It is what it is, and I think the bride runs the risk of people not coming, or being otherwise distracted, if she doesn't allow the game to be seen. She may not take football seriously, as is her right, but a lot of her guests will.

Fuck that. If people are prioritising a game over her wedding id just tell them not to come. I doubt any of my family or frirnds would do that. If these people have accepted an invitation then they should honour it.
Someone earlier said imagine all the cheering and celebrations...er yeh..if they win
If they lose will their be a fight?!?! No one will want to dance cause theyll all be pissed ofd.

It's so depressing that such a fuss is made about men's football when plenty of men and women really don't give a flying fuck about any of it.
I can't imagine the groom at this wedding is interested, otherwise he would have picked a wedding date that didn't clash with any men's football matches. As it is, the poor sod's going to have tiresome male guests elbowing him in the ribs and bellowing about how 'under the thumb' he is for having 'had to' go to his own wedding when there are some men playing football somewhere and he could watch them doing so on television rather than talking to his new wife and his guests..

And it really is every bit as childish and rude to demand to watch men's football at someone else's party as it would be to demand to watch any other television programme that is of no interest to your hosts or to other guests. Plenty of people don't remember where they were when some men's football match took place any more than they remember where they were when some new train took its first journey, or some band had their first appearance on Top of the Pops or whatever - if you're not interested, you're not interested.

Well, you've just got to embrace it. We're going to a 70th wedding anniversary on Saturday. The happy couple - in their 90s - can be forgiven for not expecting that date to have clashed with a big sporting event when they planned their wedding day.

I'm pleased to report they've arranged for the match to be shown on TV and are starting everything off an hour earlier so people are arriving for the start of the match.

Statistically your friend is likely to be divorced and wed again before England see another world cup quarter final.
I'll come to your next wedding should suffice

Actually I think it is the fuss over a football game that has been blown out of proportion here.

This. I enjoy the game, as many people do, but it's a game. Wedding of someone who loves you enough to invite you to their special day is something that actually means something - even if you do think it's an elaborate affair

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PMSL at someone comparing the Big Brother final to the World Cup final!

Clutching at straws there luv!

Why exactly are the two different? I'm genuinely curious.

And you preferring one to the other isn't a valid answer I'm afraid

Yeah, an International, world class, top sporting event showcasing the best talent, sporting skill, physical strength...
Or Mark from Leytonstone who has been on tv sleeping and eating for three weeks being voted the last to leave Elstree.
Definitely the same.

Amanduh in your opinion. Not everyone thinks football is a 'world class' sport, and not everyone thinks 'showcasing physical strength' is important. Some even find it boring! And Some people (not me) think Big Brother is the best thing going.

So, try again - why are they so wildly different? Because really, they're just entertainment for their fans. And if the bride and groom don't want it, why is football so special that they should just have to put up with it anyway?

This is why we got married three weeks ago...realised the world cup would be on this summer and didn't want to compete!

Oh come off it. They’re wildly different. For the reasons I stated. And that isn’t an opinion, it’s fact. Nobody has to enjoy it. Or think it’s important. But the players are talented.

Anyway, I don’t think the bride and groom should have to put up with it anyway. If they don’t want it fair enough. I wouldn’t show it! Actually I wouldn’t book my wedding then, but still. I think banning people from checking the score is ridiculous though and she won’t be able to.

I’ve been at a wedding where they showed a sporting event. It killed the atmosphere. The bride looks back now and regrets agreeing to it but didn’t want everyone glued to their phones all evening. To be honest it was two hours where everyone was huddled round a tv screen and the main wedding room was empty apart from the Dj and about 20 guests. It’s a wedding. Let people have their phones out, but don’t let it monopolise your day

NoAmanduh, you stated YOUR opinion on the two. There is absolutely no basis to say one is better than the other - it speaks to individual taste

There are so many things that are just as interesting/uninteresting as a men's football match. But it's mainly men's football that people are supposed to indulge other people's tiresome obsession with. If someone wanted to watch the series finale of Dr Who, or a widely-touted episode of Eastenders, or Stampy's brand-new Minecraft video in the middle of someone else's party, they'd be considered rude or selfish. But men's football is special. Yawn.

To all of you commenting “shouldn’t book a wedding on the day of a World Cup match”
We booked ours last May, well before the World Cup fixtures were even released.
We couldn’t change the date when we realised as there were no available dates left in the summer.
Hence the reason we’re being open with our guests and telling them they can have their phones out during the ceremony to keep track of the scores. It will still be “our day” and will amazing, but more than anything it will make it extra memorable if England score!!!

the venue looks like the Mary Celeste as half the men have gone to the nearest pub to watch the game including her Dad, the best man and the ushers. And then surprise, surprise, England lost and the party just couldn't get going again (the £8 price of a single vodka and coke didn't really help though to be fair).

I attended a massive wedding, no expense spared. It was in Ireland and Ireland v Someone was on around 4pm or something. The whole wedding emptied into the hotel bar to watch it because the bride was adamant she wasn't providing big screens. At one point I went back into the wedding and no joke, there was about 8 people sitting around including the bride.I attended a massive wedding, no expense spared. It was in Ireland and Ireland v Someone was on around 4pm or something. The whole wedding emptied into the hotel bar to watch it because the bride was adamant she wasn't providing big screens. At one point I went back into the wedding and no joke, there was about 8 people sitting around including the bride.

Then the wedding guests were settled in at the bar so nobody really drifted back into the wedding after the match either. Including her dad and the groom.

These made me chuckle so much. I bet the groom in the first wedding was dying to piss off and watch the match too.

Is there rugby on on Saturday? I don’t have a TV and only occasionally listen to the radio

I agree reanimated - I enjoy the football but would find it dull watching it at a wedding, or rather I'd find it less fun than indulging in the wedding stuff! And I'd feel bad for the people who don't care for it, I'd find it really rude to be somewhere where half the guests leave en masse to go and do something different that they feel is more worthy.

Incidentally remember when it was revealed on Eastenders 'who shot Phil'? Our local pub did a big screen showing of the reveal episode which I find odd personally but clearly there was a market for it

I'd find it less fun than indulging in the wedding stuff!

What "wedding stuff" do you mean? I've never been to one.