Wedding day....England are playing?????

[arghhhhhhh]

Just been on fb and someone I know (though not well and I am nit invited to the wedding!) is getting married on Saturday. Obviously England are playing.

She has it a status on saying she has had multiple requests from guests wanting to know if the football will be shown.

Her status basically says she's angry at the messages she's had and under no circumstances will the football be shown. It's her wedding and the day is about that and that only. She's asked that no one checks their phones during the match and is even going to have a sign made for when people enter the venue as a reminder it's a football free zone.

Now she's had a fair few comments - a couple even say they wouldn't attend if they were invited due to her attitude.

What's everyone's opinions?

Me personally, I'd show it! I love football though, I've followed the World Cup through out and I'd be gutted if I couldn't watch it! I'd be making arrangements with the venue to make sure it's on.

The atmosphere would be amazing. I'd be jumping around with everyone else in my dress.....

Also a great way to break up the day. The day goes so fast for the bride and groom but the day guests....it can be such a long and tiring day. What a great way to break up the day!

Also, we are doing well, we haven't been in this situation where we may actually have a good chance of WINNING!!!! for years and probably never will again. The whole country is routing for them. Even people who don't like football are into it. I just don't think it's fair to expect people not to watch it, or not even check their phones!

Saying that....I do understand this lady's frustrations. She's been planning this wedding for over a year. I got married quite recently and know the stress etc of planning....but yeah, wouldn't make any difference to me. I'd be so excited for it to be shown!

Opinions? Is she being unreasonable? It's her and her partners day at the end of it.....I'd be worried my guests wouldn't show up though....

A wedding I went to yesterday, everyone left or watched football on phones and would have been so much better on a big TV all together!

"How disingenuous. Surely the assumption should be that had this specific QF not been on that day the guests would have been perfectly happy to not have a TV available or have to watch it on their phones."

Really? More so than saying the guests won't enjoy themselves at all if they don't get to spend three hours watching it?

"Try and find your empathy. Think of something you're passionate about, that happens only a handful of times in a lifetime and think about how you'd feel if someone tried to ban you from experiencing it."

Like your own wedding? That you would like to have without having your guests staring at screens for three hours or threatening not to come to at the last minute.

but compare that to the UK population - and there really are a lot of us who couldn't care less about who kicks the ball into the net more often.

33,551,983 voted in the EU referendum and that was hailed as an exceptionally high turnout. By the time they add itv player etc it will probably exceed the EU vote.

England played on DSis's wedding day. The match was on in a bar in the hotel. Those who wanted to watch it did so, the rest of us got on with photos, drinking and celebrating. I've no idea who won the match, so either way it didn't seep into the general atmosphere of the day.

Think of something you're passionate about, that happens only a handful of times in a lifetime and think about how you'd feel if someone tried to ban you from experiencing it

You mean like your wedding day perhaps?

But it's not the guests' wedding day

Puzzled - how does a group of people standing round a tv cheering and groaning add to a wedding?? It makes it feel like a bog standard pub rather than a wedding. And again - what if they lose (which is quite possible, they only just won the last game)

Honeyroar I obviously put my last post badly - your scenario is exactly what I meant the "anti showing it" posters might be concerned about

Haha, because they'll be having fun, laughing, cheering, and generally enjoying themselves. Is that not supposed to happen at weddings?

readingriot but it is the brides and this bride doesn't want a football match to disrupt all her careful planning. I'm sure she feels passionate about her big day even if she has very rude friends

I really don't imagine it's "fun, laughing and cheering" some might worry about, Reading ... but then I'm sure you knew that

I was asking you to empathise with the guests. I'm not saying they should miss the wedding but asking them to pretend the game's not happening and not even check scores (per op) is unreasonable.

@ReadingRiot - but the guests asking for the TV and three hours of football are not empathising with the bride and groom.

The bride probably wouldn't have tried to ban phones if the guests hadn't been rude enough to ask if she was also planning to broadcast the match for them.

@ferrier
Gosh I'm surprised how many people know in advance when the world cup is on. It wouldn't even have crossed my mind.
I'd avoid Wimbledon because I know when that is. And I'd avoid the rugby world cup because my dh would know when that was. But the football just wouldn't figure at all in the planning

lol.

checking phones during ceremony = not on, not on at all

problem is, it's happening, nothing bride can do about it. she just has to weigh up whether she'd prefer to facilitate folk watching it, or have a load of absent or resentful guests talking about where they would rather be.

Oh I see Puzzled, thanks for clarifying.

Reading they wouldn't be laughing and cheering at anything to do with the wedding, and they might be bloody miserable if the game doesn't go well.

I don't think that they should be stopped from looking at phones, but the football shouldn't take over the wedding IMO. Otherwise it just becomes a football party.

It is hard cause its 300 kick off... So in theory depending on stoppages finish at 445 or if extra time and penalties around 530..not a case of 90 minutes really.

If ever get married I'll definitely be avoiding May as football wise a lot going on but probably wouldn't thought about the world cup especially with so many possible fixtures and dates

It's her wedding and the day is about that and that only.

I mean, come on, imagine saying that.
She sounds like a nightmare.

I wouldn't go to my own wedding if clashed with an England World Cup game and I had to miss it. I'd definitely play it. It would be brilliant.

Oh she's being so silly - does she really think no one there is going to have it on their phones at least?? She has to suck it up and get involved. If we're winning or we do win, that'll be a fantastic atmosphere. If not, the day will be about her again. Win win in my eyes. She's naive if she thinks one fb status is going to stop people watching it. Bridezilla alert

If during the meal which is likely to be don't see the issue with people checking phones especially if nothing is going on.

I feel really sorry for her. And guests need to get over themselves, they’re either supportive friends or not, and if not then they shouldn’t be going to the wedding anyway. Even if England wins it won’t make any difference to life for joe public. Of course it’d be a happy occasion but real people, lives and relationships should be more important.

I was asking you to empathise with the guests

Which is why I was one of those who suggested a screen might be worth considering - preferably out of earshot of guests who might not appreciate what could follow

It's not really a clash with the "party part", tricky as it could be, which would worry me most though ... it's if the match clashes with the actual ceremony

According to several members of my family, you should never married (a) during the regular football season, or (b) during the dates of a World Cup or Euro football championships. Apparently, if you do, you've only got yourselves to blame if guests don't turn up/secretly watch the game.

NB: I was told this when DH and I got married, during the football season, it isn't something I believe!

It will be a great day unless England get kicked out. My school prom showed an England match at the knock out stages. The atmosphere when it went badly ruined the night. It’s her wedding day and that should be more important to those going. You also assume everyone likes football. We are a rugby household my hubby has no interest in the World Cup and we wouldn’t have shown it at our wedding.