Wedding day....England are playing?????

[arghhhhhhh]

Just been on fb and someone I know (though not well and I am nit invited to the wedding!) is getting married on Saturday. Obviously England are playing.

She has it a status on saying she has had multiple requests from guests wanting to know if the football will be shown.

Her status basically says she's angry at the messages she's had and under no circumstances will the football be shown. It's her wedding and the day is about that and that only. She's asked that no one checks their phones during the match and is even going to have a sign made for when people enter the venue as a reminder it's a football free zone.

Now she's had a fair few comments - a couple even say they wouldn't attend if they were invited due to her attitude.

What's everyone's opinions?

Me personally, I'd show it! I love football though, I've followed the World Cup through out and I'd be gutted if I couldn't watch it! I'd be making arrangements with the venue to make sure it's on.

The atmosphere would be amazing. I'd be jumping around with everyone else in my dress.....

Also a great way to break up the day. The day goes so fast for the bride and groom but the day guests....it can be such a long and tiring day. What a great way to break up the day!

Also, we are doing well, we haven't been in this situation where we may actually have a good chance of WINNING!!!! for years and probably never will again. The whole country is routing for them. Even people who don't like football are into it. I just don't think it's fair to expect people not to watch it, or not even check their phones!

Saying that....I do understand this lady's frustrations. She's been planning this wedding for over a year. I got married quite recently and know the stress etc of planning....but yeah, wouldn't make any difference to me. I'd be so excited for it to be shown!

Opinions? Is she being unreasonable? It's her and her partners day at the end of it.....I'd be worried my guests wouldn't show up though....

Rather OTT re phones etc. As long as the ceremony has taken place, the rest is just a party so she should be more accommodating of guests

I hate the whole football thing (unhappy memories of arsehole X) but I would never expect to control what other people do. If her P has half a brain, he'll arrange a TV in the bar - assuming they're already married. Weddings are really quite boring in the main. The footy might add something extra to the atmosphere (and I'm not watching the sodding thing anyway) She could go the extra mile and throw in a can of Stella for the relevant guests (vom)

there was genuine bemusement from those who wanted to watch the match, when it became apparent that there was no provision at the reception

I wasn't there of course, but would probably have doubted the "genuine" bewilderment. Isn't it more likely they were trying to shift the blame for their rude disappearance?

We still don't know what the timings are around the match and the wedding OP describes, but given the comments the bride has made I can't help wondering if it really does clash with the actual ceremony ... if so, god help her

I feel for her, but I’d love to watch the match, and at the very least I’d be checking my phone.

I'm not that keen on football but one of the best wedding receptions I ever went to was when England best Germany 5 nill. It wasn't shown I. The room itself but in the bar next door and the reception WENT OFF! What a bloody great party it was brilliant

This nearly happened at my wedding 8 years ago. I'm not a football fan but I had a back up arrangement to record it and show it 'as live' st TNR reception venue after the ceremony. It's only 90 minutes out of the day.

A bunch of grumpy blokes trying to watch it on their phones is much worse imo. Ended up not being an issue as we were knocked out!

Reading I wouldn’t be stopping them. They can stay at the pub .
What I would TRULY RESSENT is to be forced to listen to football on my wedding day if I truly dislike it.

ANd I’m sure you can understand that no one wants to be forced to do something they really dislike on their wedding day. You dint need to find much empathy to do that, do you?
I mean so many brides have a fit for something much smaller than two hours and more wasted at their wedding (because they will then be the long discussion about so and so doing this etc etc)

No but it means that 25% of the wedding days ultimately meant sweet naff all. And that statistic is the cumulative one for "by the 10th anniversary" that percentage will be a low ball considering it'll be their 12th anniversary and nearly half of all marriages end in divorce. And remarriage is quite common so quite a high proportion of those will get remarried, especially if they were married/divorced young. You cannot categorically say that your wedding day is a once in a lifetime unless you are either psychic, or mean "wedding day with this choice of spouse".

And yes, there are two WCQFs in that time. Neither of which England qualified for, so presumably not as important to the generalised population of England as this weekend's one. Like how Scottish people give very few tosses about Wimbledon if Andy Murray isn't playing.

That's exactly it yumyumpigs, when it's England in the World Cup you don't need to enjoy football to enjoy the occasion. If people go with an open mind you never know, and they might enjoy it. Even if you don't enjoy the football how can you fail to enjoy the atmosphere?

Gosh I'm surprised how many people know in advance when the world cup is on. It wouldn't even have crossed my mind.
I'd avoid Wimbledon because I know when that is. And I'd avoid the rugby world cup because my dh would know when that was. But the football just wouldn't figure at all in the planning. At the end of the day you could avoid the football, the golf majors, the Olympics, the Grand National .....

But I'd probably have a smallish screen somewhere in a small room for anyone who really cant drag themselves away.

I’m going to a wedding on Saturday and the church ceremony is at 3pm. It’s a friend of my DH, he and all the guys are trying to work out if / how they can watch it. We don’t know the bride that well so they’re all guessing what’s going to happen and are all too worried to ask the groom... It’s a second wedding for him so lots of jokes about England getting to the quarter finals of a major tournament being less likely than this guy gettting married.
Ironically the wedding was rescheduled from later in the year due to an immovable thing happening (don’t really want to say more as already quite outing... but a v good reason and I think they were very lucky to be able to reschedule at the same reception venue)

I’m sure I could enjoy the World Cup if I set my mind to it. But I’m not interested in it, I have enough going on in my life without setting aside time to do something else.

I wouldn’t be providing a screen to watch football on either.

I really feel for her.

Imagine wanting to celebrate with your friends and they are looking at their phones all the time and priortising football over friendship.

The wedding photos will be a drama with people wandering off to check phones. People sat at wedding breakfast with heads buried in phones, cheering if there is a goal etc.

Pretty poor show that her friends cannot do this for her.

Dare I say it.... it's only a game..

The footy might add something extra to the atmosphere

I think that might be what the "don't show it" folk are afraid of

We went to a wedding when the World Cup final was on in 2004. There was no big screen, but many guests ended up in the kitchen watching it on a small portable with the staff. Such a shame!

Weddings are bloody expensive and being let down at the last minute for a football game would be awful and a waste of money.

Because people make them expensive. They lose track of what matters. You can have a great cheap wedding. The only fixed cost is the church/registry office, the rest is up to you.

The bride can't win really . If she doesn't show it , people might disappear to watch it, or be glued to third phones , if she does show it , there could be empty seats at the meal or chaos trying to tear people away from the tv for photos. I bet the poor woman ends up in tears on her wedding day.

Heaven knows I just LOVE a bridezilla....
But on this occasion, she’s got a point. I wouldn’t stop people checking their phone but would be upset if they did it at the ceremony. It’d just prove to me that they’re just not that into me and probably shouldn’t have been at my wedding in the first place.

I’d certainly not be showing it. I fucking hate football!

But you're not celebrating with your family and friends. You're off getting photos taken while everyone else has to stand around waiting to find out when you get to sit down

Maybe getting free food and booze and spending tine with loved ones isn't your idea of fun. Each to their own, but I suggest weddings probably aren't for you.

What weddings are not defined as is "somewhere to experience your own personal interests". And they're certainly not sporting events. The waiting around isn't perfect but unless you're 4 years old it won't do you any harm not being the centre of attention. And they're far more likely to be the food/drink/mingling event you find boring, so don't be surprised if you can't do something that absolutely isn't related to that.

Because people make them expensive. They lose track of what matters

So that makes it ok to rescind your acceptance for a football match?

I don't think any guests are ever the centre of attention at a wedding. Unless they make a spectacular drunken fool of themselves or they turn up like an accidental bridesmaid.

I don't think anyone's suggested it would be reasonable for guests to rescind anymore than it is reasonable for the bride to try and ban their phones

23.5 million people watched the penalty shoot out last night? Yup, no-one cared at all

but compare that to the UK population - and there really are a lot of us who couldn't care less about who kicks the ball into the net more often.

I’m now wondering, seeing how important it is for everyone, why the guests didn’t THINK of the WC when they said YES to the invite. After all, this is really important to them isn’t it??
Bloody good point!

And those figures of 23.5 million are far from reliable if you know how they are estimated. It could of course be more, but the fact is, it is anything but a fact that 23.5 million watched the match.