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Wedding day....England are playing?????

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arghhhhhhh · 04/07/2018 15:11

Just been on fb and someone I know (though not well and I am nit invited to the wedding!) is getting married on Saturday. Obviously England are playing.

She has it a status on saying she has had multiple requests from guests wanting to know if the football will be shown.

Her status basically says she's angry at the messages she's had and under no circumstances will the football be shown. It's her wedding and the day is about that and that only. She's asked that no one checks their phones during the match and is even going to have a sign made for when people enter the venue as a reminder it's a football free zone.

Now she's had a fair few comments - a couple even say they wouldn't attend if they were invited due to her attitude.

What's everyone's opinions?

Me personally, I'd show it! I love football though, I've followed the World Cup through out and I'd be gutted if I couldn't watch it! I'd be making arrangements with the venue to make sure it's on.

The atmosphere would be amazing. I'd be jumping around with everyone else in my dress.....

Also a great way to break up the day. The day goes so fast for the bride and groom but the day guests....it can be such a long and tiring day. What a great way to break up the day!

Also, we are doing well, we haven't been in this situation where we may actually have a good chance of WINNING!!!! for years and probably never will again. The whole country is routing for them. Even people who don't like football are into it. I just don't think it's fair to expect people not to watch it, or not even check their phones!

Saying that....I do understand this lady's frustrations. She's been planning this wedding for over a year. I got married quite recently and know the stress etc of planning....but yeah, wouldn't make any difference to me. I'd be so excited for it to be shown!

Opinions? Is she being unreasonable? It's her and her partners day at the end of it.....I'd be worried my guests wouldn't show up though....

OP posts:
arethereanyleftatall · 04/07/2018 18:48

Why would you be want your wedding to be remembered as the worst wedding ever because your guests would rather have been elsewhere?

GunpowderGelatine · 04/07/2018 18:49

Some people really don't care about football and it's ludicrous to assume everyone has a passion just because it's the World Cup. If I was getting married on Saturday I'd no sooner assume that people wanted to watch it than I would assume they'd want to watch Saturday Kitchen.

They've agreed to go to a wedding. Bottom line is that it's tough shit

Honeyroar · 04/07/2018 18:50

My other worry would be if you did concede and have the match on - what if they lost - would it ruin the mood at the wedding if everyone was fed up?

ButterChickenwithyellowrice · 04/07/2018 18:50

The funniest thing with the wedding that I went to is that the bride and groom didn't know the football was on. We spent a day at work humming and hawing about telling them, as soon as we did she sent out the request for a big tv. She just wanted friends and family to all have a great day together to celebrate their wedding and she knew that lots of guest would enjoy it more with the football available.

GunpowderGelatine · 04/07/2018 18:50

Why would you be want your wedding to be remembered as the worst wedding ever because your guests would rather have been elsewhere?

God imagine having guests who were so pathetic and boring that not watching one game turned out to be the worst day ever no matter how nice a wedding it is

ButterChickenwithyellowrice · 04/07/2018 18:53

World Cups are like Royal Weddings: ' the nation' is meant to be on the edge of its seats, but most people really don't care.

23.5 million people watched the penalty shoot out last night? Yup, no-one cared at all.

Bezm · 04/07/2018 18:54

I'm well and truly with her on this one!

BrexitWife · 04/07/2018 18:54

Why would you be want your wedding to be remembered as the worst wedding ever because your guests would rather have been elsewhere?

And why would you want your wedding to be the worst night you’ve ever had, listening to your guests talking about football all night as if they were down the pub??
I mean it’s your wedding. A one off. Something that isn’t going to happen as often as England going to the quarter or semi final of the World Cup.... you know, the one on a lifetime stuff.

Once again, it çan go both ways. And I’m not sure it’s right that the bride and the groom shouod forgo their own pleasure for the sake of the guests. Is the day not supposed to be all about the bride and groom???

Dumbledoresgirl · 04/07/2018 18:55

It is their wedding day, a hopefully once in a lifetime event (but so would England winning the World Cup be).

If England win this year, It will be the 2nd win for them in this poster's lifetime.

CanineEnigma · 04/07/2018 18:55

God imagine being so pathetic and boring that you think the opportunity to mill around with canapés and cheap fizz is a fun thing to put your guests through while you spend an hour and a half getting photos taken.

BrexitWife · 04/07/2018 18:55

I don’t think there will have been that many weddings going in last night though....

CanineEnigma · 04/07/2018 18:56

Also, I mean it’s your wedding. A one off. 25% of couples who got married the last time England were in a WCQF in 2006 are now divorced so....

FedUpLetDown · 04/07/2018 18:57

I would’ve booked my wedding on a World Cup day without a second thought. None of my family or friends are into football. I may take a passing interest in it occasionally and if they got through to the final I might watch it.

It entirely depends on your circle of friends though. It’s daft to assume everyone wants to be elsewhere. There’s a huge amount of people out there that couldn’t give a shit.

GunpowderGelatine · 04/07/2018 18:57

God imagine being so pathetic and boring that you think the opportunity to mill around with canapés and cheap fizz is a fun thing to put your guests through while you spend an hour and a half getting photos taken.

I know, free food and booze, bastards

Rudgie47 · 04/07/2018 18:58

People are cheeky, the world cup is a load of crap anyway and theres more people not bothered about it than are.
I'd just a say no I'm not and if you dont want to come then fair enough.

FedUpLetDown · 04/07/2018 18:58

Why is it pathetic and boring to want to celebrate with your family and friends chatting, eating food and drinking wine? Confused

barleyfive · 04/07/2018 18:59

As long as it isnt on at the same time as the actual ceremony I would embrace it!

Bluelonerose · 04/07/2018 19:00

If people wanted to watch a stupid game over coming to my wedding I don't see how we could be friends again.

It's about priorities. Does the surgeon think fuck it football's on a won't perform this life saving op until half time! No!

Weddings are bloody expensive and being let down at the last minute for a football game would be awful and a waste of money.

BrexitWife · 04/07/2018 19:00

I have to say I love this thread.

It shows that for all the ‘its your wedding, your choice’ trumped around on MN, actually it isn’t. When people suddenly feel they ought to have xxx, they have no issue demanding it!

It also shows how few people actually care for weddings despite all the time, effort and money going into them. Bottom line, it seems a lot of people would prefer to be down at the pub rather than spending the day with the bride and groom in that special occasion.

I’m even happier to have done a very small wedding, with people that were actually close (which isn’t the case when you have 150 people there).

I have to say, someone upthread wondered why the bride and groom didn’t actually THINK about the WC.
I’m now wondering, seeing how important it is for everyone, why the guests didn’t THINK of the WC when they said YES to the invite. After all, this is really important to them isn’t it??

ReadingRiot · 04/07/2018 19:00

We get it some people don't like football.

Try and find your empathy. Think of something you're passionate about, that happens only a handful of times in a lifetime and think about how you'd feel if someone tried to ban you from experiencing it.

BlitheringIdiots · 04/07/2018 19:01

I would show it. It's not like we get to the quarter finals that often and it's not like she gets married that often but if it were my wedding I would show it. Then again I would be watching it too!

CanineEnigma · 04/07/2018 19:02

But you're not celebrating with your family and friends. You're off getting photos taken while everyone else has to stand around waiting to find out when you get to sit down. Usually universally acknowledged as The Worst Part of having to go to weddings.

BrexitWife · 04/07/2018 19:02

Canine that doenst mean that 25% of those people will have got married again...
Besides, if you talk about stats, then you will have had the WCQF twice in that time whereas most people, 75% of them! Will still be married from 2006.
So statically speaking, the QF is still happening more often...

ConfessionsOfTeenageDramaQueen · 04/07/2018 19:03

Oh god, seriously? I can’t think of anything worse. Is a sports game really more important than a friend’s wedding? God, football people are obnoxious.

I completely agree Dinosaur. I'd be really upset if this were my wedding.

somewhereovertherain · 04/07/2018 19:03

My in laws wedding clashed with the 1966 World Cup final.

Football is a load of bollocks so wouldn’t give too hoots. If it was on or not.

Would probably have a tv in a room or bar on but not in the main reception.

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