Wedding day....England are playing?????

[arghhhhhhh]

Just been on fb and someone I know (though not well and I am nit invited to the wedding!) is getting married on Saturday. Obviously England are playing.

She has it a status on saying she has had multiple requests from guests wanting to know if the football will be shown.

Her status basically says she's angry at the messages she's had and under no circumstances will the football be shown. It's her wedding and the day is about that and that only. She's asked that no one checks their phones during the match and is even going to have a sign made for when people enter the venue as a reminder it's a football free zone.

Now she's had a fair few comments - a couple even say they wouldn't attend if they were invited due to her attitude.

What's everyone's opinions?

Me personally, I'd show it! I love football though, I've followed the World Cup through out and I'd be gutted if I couldn't watch it! I'd be making arrangements with the venue to make sure it's on.

The atmosphere would be amazing. I'd be jumping around with everyone else in my dress.....

Also a great way to break up the day. The day goes so fast for the bride and groom but the day guests....it can be such a long and tiring day. What a great way to break up the day!

Also, we are doing well, we haven't been in this situation where we may actually have a good chance of WINNING!!!! for years and probably never will again. The whole country is routing for them. Even people who don't like football are into it. I just don't think it's fair to expect people not to watch it, or not even check their phones!

Saying that....I do understand this lady's frustrations. She's been planning this wedding for over a year. I got married quite recently and know the stress etc of planning....but yeah, wouldn't make any difference to me. I'd be so excited for it to be shown!

Opinions? Is she being unreasonable? It's her and her partners day at the end of it.....I'd be worried my guests wouldn't show up though....

I'd be devastated if I was this bride - I'm sure she's spent £1000s on her big day and whatever happens now her wedding is spoilt for her.

As a guest I'd not be happy either if I had to watch a football match at a wedding.

People have their priorities seriously fucked if a bunch of blokes they don't know kicking a ball around for 90 minutes or so is more important to them them the wedding of family or good friends.

Amen to that

My friend married on FA Cup Final day. Those who wanted to watched it. The match only lasts 90 mins + half time.
Depends on the timing of the service but perhaps your friend could just allow the match not the whole coverage. Otherwise there will probably be a few empty seats at the wedding I'm afraid.

I totally agree with her. I enjoy the football, but I think it's pathetic when people can't cope without watching the full 90 minutes, despite it being a loved one's wedding FFS. I imagine she doesn't want people sneaking out the front streaming it when she's paying through the nose for them to enjoy the day with her and her fiancé.

And at the "why did she plan it round the World Cup?". Why not? Maybe she felt the need to plan her day around her and her finances availability rather than a sporting event that England usually don't go very far in?

I really hate this need for some women to appear cool by saying they'd jump up and down in their dress etc. Well good for you, but not giving a shit about the football doesn't make you a worse friend or host

If I really like the bride I'd want to spend some jeffing time with them...which isn't something that tends to happen at weddings.

Hammer, meet nail head. I can't remember the last wedding I was at where I got to spend time with the bride beyond a quick chat.

And that's not to mention all the tedious standing around waiting to find out what's happening while 20 versions of "gazing lovingly into each other's eyes" gets photographed.

scribblefan I'm not a fan of any sport. I loathe the fCt that not following or playing football isolates kids round here from year 2. Dh wouldn't be arsed about watching a game if it clashed. It's only a game.

"It's a strange world when "allowing" guests to enjoy themselves spoils the hosts day"

Equally strange that people can't enjoy themselves for one day without having the TV on or gazing at their phone.

For everyone saying that they planned their events long before football events were announced, and for people planning their events in the future:

The 2022 Men’s Football World Cup in Qatar will be played over 28 days prior to the final which will be held on the 18th December 2022. Those dates were announced in February 2015.

I’d get the hotel to turn off the WiFi and chop their tv aerial off 😂😂...

The thing is as well that for all people say it's an invitation not a summons, that's only true up to a point

Yes and it's a MASSIVELY dickish thing to do to pull out 3 days before over a football match.

But as PPs said if someone wants to watch a football match rather than enjoy your wedding, they're a shit friend

I would be pissed off too. Similar happened at my wedding with an irish sport replay. It delayed serving of dinner for over an hour.

I dont think the thread is particularly about people pulling out is it? It's about people attending and being told they aren't allowed to check their phones or discuss football at all.

Also, watching or following a game and enjoying a wedding are not mutually exclusive.

Equally strange that people can't enjoy themselves for one day without having the TV on or gazing at their phone.

How disingenuous. Surely the assumption should be that had this specific QF not been on that day the guests would have been perfectly happy to not have a TV available or have to watch it on their phones.

Hate football this would have bugged me if it was my wedding too.

Ultimately her guests will either respect her wishes or not, I hope for her and her husbands sake that guests will.

It’s not unrealistic at all @GameofMinges (love the name btw!).

If you accept an invite to a wedding / party / event of your choice for whatever reason you accept, then you should honour it.

The B&G have invited guests to a wedding with no football, who presumably accepted the invite to the wedding with no football. It is therefore highly rude and unreasonable to refuse to honour the commitment because there will be no football.

If it is practical to do so, and the B&G wish to show the football, then that’s a bonus. If not, then the guests need to accept gracefully.

I strongly suspect that she didn't tell people they can't check their phones, more like asking them not to stream it on their phones or spend 90 minutes staring at their screen for a play-by-play account of the game. Which is fair enough, it's rude at the best of times

Gracefully in this context means not disappearing constantly to watch the game, being glued to phones (which is rude anyway at events), or complaining.

The best wedding I have ever been to ended up on same day as an England world cup match. It was a bring your own wedding- everyone brought a dish or alcohol or made the dresses, decorated the venue etc.

It was in the village hall. The unflappable non football bride send out a message, could anyone bring a big tv. They set it up on the lawn outside and guests wandered in and out. Didn't detract from the wedding at all.

Its as a wonderfully casual, family and friend focused event and the football just added to it. The Vicar was right at the front during the footie I noticed.

I disagree with everyone saying that guests aren't good friends or are rude if the match matters to them and they give it attention on someone's wedding day.

I think it's rude as a host to completely ignore the feelings of a large number of your guests and snub something that matters to them in order to make a whole day be entirely about you. If the bride were good friends to her guests, then she'd want them to enjoy the day, and if that has to include football then so be it.

While many people couldn't care less about football, there are a lot of usually uninterested people who have become interested and are enjoying it now, and there are a lot of people that this was always going to be a big deal for.

It only lasts 90 minutes
What about extra time and penalty shoot outs?

Nails so if lots of people asked the bride to show Love Island she should honour it and not make it about herself, even if she hates Love Island?

I got married the day after England played in 2010. For the match on the Saturday night I arranged a meet up in a pub foe guests who had travelled up, and on the Sunday (wedding day) we had a separate TV room for the other group games for people to wander in and out. I couldn't have felt less offended that people were interested in the footie on my wedding day!

It's unrealistic to imagine that a close relative or best friend will be able to refuse a wedding invitation because of a possible world cup clash. Just imagine the threads about it if someone did! Aibu to think DB is taking the piss saying he won't come to my wedding just in case England are playing. I'll tell you now exactly how that would go.

You can still think people who've accepted are being rude to want to follow the game (bear in mind the bride doesn't even want them checking scores) whilst understanding that what you suggest about declining is unfeasible.

Thanks re name compliment!

@GunpowederGelatine Oh no, I think you'll find this particular brand of nonsense only applies to the religion known as football.

Love Island, judging by my Facebook feed, is on most nights. With the same sort of thing happening most nights. England were last in a WCQF in 2006. If England bomb out, or have a spectacular victory, it will be one of those shared collective experiences that the entire country has a view on (whether they are football fans or just like to complain about it), especially with it taking place during one of the longest hot/dry spells a lot of the country has had in a very long time. People could very well end up talking about summer 2018 the way that they did 1976. Not really the same as a minority interest reality show.